a4a Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 You sound a little cold to me...... If he is giving you nipple twists or a hard goose - yeah a bit to much. But keep this up and he will be groping someone who enjoys his touching. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 1, 2007 Share Posted October 1, 2007 My husband and I have been married for nearly 15 years - I'm a young 35. He drops sexual innuendos around me constantly, and manages to grope me a few times a day. I am confused about my reactions and feelings - on one hand, I should probably be glad he still desires me, but much outweighing that is that I expect him to treat me with respect and understand that I don't want him grabbing some part of me constantly. Also, this is only when we're alone together. Please let me know your thoughts. OMG... what is wrong with being your man's slut? He wants you. YOU. Be his slut. You walk up to him and grab his crotch. I'm sure he'll like it. Or be a prude and he'll find someone that does enjoy being his slut. And as far as the slut thing... being a fully sexual women that enjoys sex, wants sex, craves sex... there is nothing that would turn a guy on more. Do you want your man to contunue to make love to you? Or would you prefer he find someone else? Women might call other women sluts in a demeaning way. But I think a lot of men would love their wives to be a lady on the street and a slut in the bedroom. Get out of your shell woman. Be ALL woman - for him. Link to post Share on other sites
rockerdude Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Amen, Flying in Clouds......laughs! Look....I started to really break free and appreciate my wife (now ex) and went through this phase with her. One day I called her from work and just said, "Yaknow...we ain't getting any older right? And we both like sex, part of the reason men and women get together.right?" and then I said," You like sex but you are worried what I will think, which is stupid cause I luuvvv you baby, laughs." I then apologized for making her feel bad and encouraged her to be free. She decided to open up more and just be herself ...all of the time, instead of trying to be who she "thought" she was supposed to be. But if he gropes you and you do not like it...teach him like mine did me..laughs...she would give me a "nipple twister"....rotfl, and then say "quit it" you have to be softer with me..!! So I changed my approach..bored yet? I would slide up to her, wrap my arms around her, whisper in her ear that she was beatiful, absolutely beautiful (and she was dang it) and then I'd kiss her neck, touch her face, kiss her softly, and hold her for a second or two and just go "ummmmm" in her ear...or something like that...lol. So I learned "her"....all because of her "nipple twister"...it caused me to figure her out. But this proved unfortunate...why? Because she decided that she wanted to experience more with "Steve and some girl" and that is why we are divorced....yet I digress. Hope this helps, tho. Link to post Share on other sites
digigirl Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 Maybe it's just another one of those "guy" things. I think a lot of men could get sex 3-4 times a day and it still wouldn't be enough. My guy does this, too, and yeah, it is irritating from time to time, but I have to consider the alternative. At least he's not out groping someone else, eh? It's worth a candid conversation with him. If he persists, remind him. This is something I have to do with my guy on a regular basis, and it works, but he does have to be reminded. Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Kazan Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 it sounds like your husband thinks your a slut from what you wrote no, it sounds like you have a serious problem with males showing interest in their wives! Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 My husband and I have been married for nearly 15 years - I'm a young 35. He drops sexual innuendos around me constantly, and manages to grope me a few times a day. I am confused about my reactions and feelings - on one hand, I should probably be glad he still desires me, but much outweighing that is that I expect him to treat me with respect and understand that I don't want him grabbing some part of me constantly. Also, this is only when we're alone together. Please let me know your thoughts. Why would you use the word slut? Your H is showing you that he still desires you...that he wants your body. Shouldn't you be flattered? Shouldn't it make your heart aflutter with joy and passion? I don't get how you construe his advances as being something negative. You are married to the man...surely you are aware that sex and teasing, etc happens in healthy marriages all across the world. Why are you "confused" by your reactions and feelings? If he's objectifying you and totally neglecting your emotional needs...well I can understand why you'd feel "bah" about all of this. But really, if the guy is just teasing his wife and having some fun, what is the problem? I think it's sweet that even after 15 years of marriage he treats you like his girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
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