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If your malaise is endogenous, as opposed to situational, perhaps you should consult your personal physician. Johan, you're one of the very few LS guys I like, and I don't want to see you suffer needlessly. If this is a repeated phenomenon, something cyclical, get thee to a physician.

 

Just do it.

 

Thanks, Herzen. I'll give that some thought. I'm sure I can get past this, like I always do. Maybe even this thread will make a difference. I've just been thinking dark thoughts for the past week or so. A few good events could turn it right around for me.

 

Actually, based on his posts, I have a feeling that it's very much situational.

 

If you want to do something, Johan, then do it. Or if you don't want to (or can't), then take steps to mitigate the dissatisfaction arising from the result. Both of which will require you to break the rut for once, although it's not easy to do.

 

You're right. It's not easy. It's really great of you to offer your advice though. I appreciate it very much.

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You're right. It's not easy. It's really great of you to offer your advice though. I appreciate it very much.

 

You're welcome.

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just go get laid johan. find a hot chick walk up to her and say a joke.... then act like your interested and ask some open ended questions about her feelings on things like what she likes doing ... then act like you had funning hearing about the things she liked doing and either tell her she should come see something back at your place and f her or ask for her # so you can enjoy talking to again some time and then invite her back to ur place to look at something and f her... ull feel better

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As per Blind Otter's thread, you and I should just do shrooms together. That will solve everything.

 

I'll call a sitter and you leave out an extra bowl of Meow Mix for the kitties.

 

Don't forget your lava lamp. But I think you are going to have to ditch the green. I'm afraid it will give me a bad trip.

 

Oh, and I'm not coming onto you.

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I can feel them coming. Days of torment, anxiety and isolation. :mad:

 

 

 

Sometimes I think I would be much more able to relax if I were able to see my future. But maybe I'd rather not.

ddl #1 :)

 

I understand these feelings. I sometimes have "omen-like" thoughts. I feel the impending doom. Often it never comes.

 

I wish I had something to offer in the way of comfort. I can only offer the feeling of not being alone in these thoughts.

 

Knowing the future might not be so good. I say this being in a generally happy place today. I'm not at all convinced that knowing what is to come

would be relaxing in any way.

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johan, i don't have much to offer except know you aren't the only one who has feelings like this. this past weekend i felt like everything was just DARK and I stayed in alone.

 

right now i'm just in the mindframe to find the source(s) of what is causing me to feel so badly and work on/accept those things.

 

hugs :)

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Black Sabbath!

 

As per Blind Otter's thread, you and I should just do shrooms together. That will solve everything.

 

I'll call a sitter and you leave out an extra bowl of Meow Mix for the kitties.

 

Don't forget your lava lamp. But I think you are going to have to ditch the green. I'm afraid it will give me a bad trip.

 

And shrooms!! I see lots of hope now! I don't remember any bummed out headbangers when I was in school. They seemed pretty happy most of the time.

 

Oh, and I'm not coming onto you.

 

But this last line was a bit of a let down. ;)

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ddl #1 :)

 

ha ha. You know you can just click the number in the Replies column and you'll get a report of how many posts were submitted by each person.

 

I understand these feelings. I sometimes have "omen-like" thoughts. I feel the impending doom. Often it never comes.

 

I wish I had something to offer in the way of comfort. I can only offer the feeling of not being alone in these thoughts.

 

Knowing the future might not be so good. I say this being in a generally happy place today. I'm not at all convinced that knowing what is to come

would be relaxing in any way.

 

It does help to know others know what it feels like. I'm not extra down. I can just feel a period of self-hate coming on. I hate it when I do that.

 

johan, i don't have much to offer except know you aren't the only one who has feelings like this. this past weekend i felt like everything was just DARK and I stayed in alone.

 

right now i'm just in the mindframe to find the source(s) of what is causing me to feel so badly and work on/accept those things.

 

hugs :)

 

Same here.

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johan:

 

Can I ask, do you feel the way you do because people around you don't really stimulate you?

 

And by stimulate, I don't mean in an intellectual way... I mean in that indescribable way...the thing, the connection we seek with other people....but one that you realize, at the end of day, you really can't establish with most people?

 

Hope this question makes sense.

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Oh got it! I thought maybe you had set a wedding date.

Earth to johan, earth to johan, hmmm...not even a dial tone.

 

*hangs up and wanders off*

 

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You remind me of another member where the only commonality is you, within your unhappy life. There are three words/terms I would use to describe you:

 

- victim mentality/denial;

- selfishness of someone who's accustomed to doing whatever he wants, regardless of impact to others;

- fear of being hurt.

 

Once you conquer the above three, you've got it beat...

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You gotta take a firm stand with yourself, answer every negative thought with a slap until eventually they know whos boss.

I get this frequently, but have reduced the amount of time I feel bad by defending myself from the internal attack. Sometimes they win, sometimes I win, but the more I practise the more I beat them.

Some of the time its like a game, and actually becomes good fun.

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ha ha. You know you can just click the number in the Replies column and you'll get a report of how many posts were submitted by each person.

What? I had no idea.

 

I thought you are the person who wins the "how many jelly beans in the jar?" contest.

 

Well, my day just got darker.

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Well that was bizarre unders !!! Funny too.

 

And I didn't know you could click on the # of replies and see that either !

 

So, a thread on despair is showing me strindberg, helium and LS tips ! Hooray !

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don't make me come over there and slap you silly my friend.

 

go do some nice things for yourself while you may be feeling down.

 

get a massage

 

get a pedicure (yes - men do this as much as women - it is a simple pampering method to lift your spirits)

 

read a good book to take your mind far and away from any negative thoughts

 

do a difficult puzzle

 

thinking about you buddy!

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But this last line was a bit of a let down. ;)

You know how seriously to take the legalese fine print in any document.

 

BTW Johan, you certainly are heavy on the smileys lately. Wrist hurt much (from what I'm assuming was a brisk, authoritative slapping)?

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Earth to johan, earth to johan, hmmm...not even a dial tone.

 

*hangs up and wanders off*

 

What? I'm here.

 

You remind me of another member where the only commonality is you, within your unhappy life. There are three words/terms I would use to describe you:

 

- victim mentality/denial;

- selfishness of someone who's accustomed to doing whatever he wants, regardless of impact to others;

- fear of being hurt.

 

I don't really get that impression of Touche, but I'm not always as perceptive as I should be. But I can say as far as I go, I don't really see the first one as a problem. I don't consider myself a victim all that much. The others are pretty likely though.

 

Underpants, that was one crazy little video. It made me laugh. I haven't seen the second one yet.

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johan

 

Have you ever declare victory loudly?:D that helped me tremendously from time to time, helped me to switch mood, drive away negativeness that quite overwhelming

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I've been thinking about this more (aside from the shrooms scenario).

 

You and I have some things in common. I've been accused by my H. of being emotionally aloof, and although I would like to completely deny it, I have recently begun to think he is onto something (not that it solves all our problems, but that is for another thread).

 

Johan, when you open up emotionally to someone who is also open, does it get excruciatingly unpleasant for you? Do you enjoy the feelings associated with long-term intimacy and a deeply reciprocated emotional connection, or does it make you want to jump out of your skin?

 

Loving someone while you're chasing them is easy, but what about when they turn around and face you, and there you are, just the two of you. Is that scary?

 

Do you feel frustrated and empty most of the time? Could it be because you are starving but when real food is presented to you, you can't stomach it, and you push it away time and time again?

 

All of which leads to my next question: did someone in your childhood make you ashamed of what you felt, or who you are? Look beneath the surface on this question.

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Loving someone while you're chasing them is easy, but what about when they turn around and face you, and there you are, just the two of you. Is that scary?

 

Oh Story,

 

This is what happens to me. They chase I turn around, they run away. Sometimes I chase back but they keep running...mostly in circles. Then I get dizzy and I fall down.

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Wow, Story. You sure called that one right. You have his number. There's no question in my mind. As I've always said, he's his own worst enemy. And what he SAYS he wants conflicts with his actual actions.

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I just need to learn how to broaden my social horizons. I'm not surrounded by people who are enhancing my life. It's not easy for me to establish important relationships. I'd be better off knowing I had a few people I can count on. I'd like to have a woman in my life who I adore. I'd like to have more balance so that my performance in all aspects of life is better. Right now things are badly out of balance. And that means I'm really not pleased with how things are going even in the areas I'm able to focus on.

 

Case in point. A woman who HE adores. What if she adored him back? He'd run the other way.

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