HokeyReligions Posted April 16, 2003 Share Posted April 16, 2003 There are a lot of patterns in the posts here. One that I have noticed is that some people make it sound like bad things just happen to them personally, but their S.O. consciously choses to do something to hurt them. Rather a double-standard I think. In some post on here a girl said something like "I'm glad you found out about me and so-and-so before something happened" Does that mean that the only thing stopping this girl from having sex with another person was that she was found out? And is this girl surprised that her S.O. no longer trusts her and is hurt? She's not the only one - I've read a bunch of similar posts. It all just sparked my curiosity to see what you think. How many of you think that a sexual encounter "just happens"? How many of you honestly believe that at a certain point during foreplay there is no going back? What is that point? Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted April 17, 2003 Share Posted April 17, 2003 No, I do not think a sexual act "just happens." I think that usually there is a period of time building up to it and you know in your heart of hearts that it's going to happen eventually and you do nothing to stop it. Also, I believe that at any point during foreplay you can (and should) realize what you're doing and if you shouldn't be doing it, STOP! But if you don't, you need to take full responsibility for what you've done and don't say, "it just happened." Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 17, 2003 Share Posted April 17, 2003 I think some people have problems with impulse control. This is not to say that they have an excuse but rather that, if they tend to be impulsive and not into delayed gratification in other ways, ideally they would realize this. Then, just like all the people I know that won't buy cookies because they know they would eat them all, the person with impulse issues should stay FAR away from any situation that might get to the point of no return for them. I think that people like this who are not self-aware could very well feel as though it 'just happened'. Too, people love to deceive themselves and think that they have more control over their impulses than they actually do. We have such conceits that we are 'above' our instincts. Link to post Share on other sites
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