Aboohoo Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Hi, I have now been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and it started off well but for the last 2 years (cant believe its been that long) we have had a problem. He wont sleep with me. we have slept together for the last 4 months and he shows no sign in missing it. Its like pulling teeth. He always has an excuse for not doing it. eg. He's too tired, its late, its early etc but yet he finds time to go on porn sites and pervs on those 'women'. the 'funny' part is that he says he just loooks at them and doesnt do anything else. Yeah right! I 'kind off' caught him 'playing with himself' yesterday but he told me the reason why his pants were down was that he was in the middle of getting changed! I found a load of his porn dvds that he had downloaded and threw them all away (i know thats wrong but i was so hurt) dont think hes noticed and he cant bring it up with me coz then he would have to admit in having them to start with. my real issue is his lack of sex drive with me. he is totally 100% not interested and so my confidence is rock bottom. I try and initiate it but nothing, i get turned down. He doesnt like it when i talk/act in that way - he doesnt see that as part of my character! But it is. He always says hes not in the mood to talk about it but how can we resolve this then? He is totally ok with the situation its me who is unhappy but for some reason i wont leave me even though all my friends think i should. I know he isnt cheating on me or gay or anything like that but im at my wits end. Sex has become such an issue that it has almost become unatural and cannot be spoken about because it always ends in tears (mine). Oh and yes we dont even kiss (snog/make out whatever you call it) because he doesnt like it! All i get his kisses and cuddles which is nice to a certain extent but a girl needs more... Please help i have tried everything. i have even tried not trying. Im starting to think hes not interested in anything sexual but if hes still into porn how can this be? x Link to post Share on other sites
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