Girlfriend keeps saying she isn't happy

[SadHatter]

Hi people,

 

I'm looking for some advice really. I've been with my girlfriend now for 18 months, I'm 25, she's 18. The relationship has been brilliant, but the past month/five weeks, my girlfriend has threatened to break up with me three times, each time she says she isn't happy and then backtracks and says she loves me. She actually broke up with me about a month ago, and then told me two days later it was the biggest mistake of her life and she'd never do it again. Since then, it has been great again.

 

What's weird is - it always has been great. We rarely argue and always enjoy each other's company. Everytime she's done this, its come completely out of the blue. This weekend we had a great time together and then tonight she rang me, in tears, saying she "wasn't happy". When I asked why, she says she doesn't know. Now she says she needs to decide whether she wants this relationship as she doesn't see the point in it anymore/doesn't feel the same! I'm staggered! Exactly like she was before! I told her that if she does this again, I will NEVER speak to her again and I don't want anything to do with her again - nobody will mess me around like this.

 

I think she has issues with depression, every week she's calling me in tears because she's "fed up" about something or other. I've told her she should see a doctor but she refuses to.

 

Has anyone had similar experiences to this? I just don't know what's wrong with her, this is about the fourth time now in the past 5 weeks she's been saying this, then everytime back tracks and says she loves me. Our relationship is great in general apart from when she does this! What's going on?!

[bish]

Move on man. she is young and immature. Especially at that age...when they say they aren't happy and don't want a relationship....its a translation for..she likes other guys and is probably messing around on you. You don't go from things being great to the next day..."I'm not happy".

 

If she has already tried to dump you 3 times in 18 months...then make up her mind for her and kick her to the curb.

Find someone a little more your age...TRUST ME ON THAT ONE!!

[bloodaye]

i agree with the last post,she is 18,girls like her dont even know how to blow theyre own nose yet.I see thme on the street all the time acting like little immature prisses.

Your 25 and 7 yrs makes a big diff in maturity,cause you definately sound mature.Im in the same boat as you,my girl loved me to death and thought i was the cats pyjamas and all of a sudden she had enuff.You will never understand a females mentality,thats why so many of us guys go crazy trying to think about it.Im not trying to make you feel worse,but in most cases women never leave without some sort of back up if u will in the waiting,they dont wanna b alone,so they stay and stray and when they find something better,they r history.