Discovery day again

[OpenBook]

LOL - trust me, Mino - it's not going to be that easy.

 

You will see BW coming here again and again still trying to make a point. I use 'still trying' because they just cannot accept it when OW don't see it their way.

 

They will NEVER leave OW alone. They just can't. They are unhappy therefore they want other people to be just unhappy.

 

Not true! Not true! I've gone through a nasty few months in my M, some yrs ago, but I am happy now.

Maybe some of the former BWs who come here are really trying to show the OWs that they can find some semblance of happiness, and it doesn't have to come from spending an hour or 2 with some guy who's M to some other woman. A guy who'll go home and forget about her, the OW, until he gets an itch again.

 

Stranger things have happened.

 

Lyssa, I see what you mean.

[frannie]

Not true! Not true! I've gone through a nasty few months in my M, some yrs ago, but I am happy now.

Maybe some of the former BWs who come here are really trying to show the OWs that they can find some semblance of happiness, and it doesn't have to come from spending an hour or 2 with some guy who's M to some other woman. A guy who'll go home and forget about her, the OW, until he gets an itch again.

 

Well yes, of course it could be that way. But then if one was going to take relationship advice from anyone, wouldn't it be as well to take it from those whose relationships hadn't disintegrated to the state of their spouses having affairs..? Not knocking here, and there are some women who have been cheated on who have gone on to find out why it happened and look at relationships in a new and enlightened way now. You can see that in some posters on Surviving Infidelity, for example

 

But you know, when a former BS comes on here still blaming all OW for the issues in their own marriage... it goes without saying that they're far, far from knowing anything about themselves, their WS, or relationships in general. It's kind of like this: the more abusive or dismissive they are of OW, the less they know themselves, the less they can offer anyone involved in an affair in terms of advice. Their dismissive posts are a sure sign that they're nowhere near any real understanding of human beings, and are really better ignored as 'advice' at all. They're moralising at best, and blame-shifting to ease their own minds and serve their own need to point fingers.

 

You offer a really good example of that in your post here, talking of men who go home to their wives and forget their OW, who only serve to 'scratch an itch'... condemned as blameshifter and finger-pointer by your own words.

[Havn_a_life]

No, there's too many examples on the web alone of what i say to be true.

I don't shift blame to all OWs. I do blame them for the wrong they are doing to innocent Ws and kids of the MM. They are fully to blame, even with the MM's permission, which is the A itself.

I don't have the problems in my M now, that I did yrs ago, even though I post on forums such as LoveShack. I post here to tell whoever reads my thoughts, my opinions.

If they choose not to listen, that's their choice. just like it's mine to post here.

[Mino]

Not true! Not true! I've gone through a nasty few months in my M, some yrs ago, but I am happy now.

Maybe some of the former BWs who come here are really trying to show the OWs that they can find some semblance of happiness, and it doesn't have to come from spending an hour or 2 with some guy who's M to some other woman. A guy who'll go home and forget about her, the OW, until he gets an itch again.

 

Stranger things have happened.

Gee, we closed this thread twice on a very nice note, PEACE OUT !!! You keep saying how happy you are in your marriage now that you have forgiven you cheating Husnand. Its sounds like you keep having to prove your happyness to us and YOURSELF over and over again, I guess the more you type it, the more you should believe it, right? So prove your Name " havin a Life" you should be jumping for Joy right now with your husband, By the way, where is he Tonight????? Go ahead, I am expecting it, BLAH BLAH BLAH

[Mino]

Not true! Not true! I've gone through a nasty few months in my M, some yrs ago, but I am happy now.

Maybe some of the former BWs who come here are really trying to show the OWs that they can find some semblance of happiness, and it doesn't have to come from spending an hour or 2 with some guy who's M to some other woman. A guy who'll go home and forget about her, the OW, until he gets an itch again.

 

Stranger things have happened.

yeah, cause he wife was to busy scratching his itch, cause she to busy on LS board:lmao:

[Mino]

How about we change your name to "Need a life"

[OpenBook]

But then if one was going to take relationship advice from anyone, wouldn't it be as well to take it from those whose relationships hadn't disintegrated to the state of their spouses having affairs..?

 

Frannie I'd love to frame your words. Great point!

[Lyssa]

How about we change your name to "Need a life"

 

:lmao:

[Havn_a_life]

Gee, we closed this thread twice on a very nice note, PEACE OUT !!! You keep saying how happy you are in your marriage now that you have forgiven you cheating Husnand. Its sounds like you keep having to prove your happyness to us and YOURSELF over and over again, I guess the more you type it, the more you should believe it, right? So prove your Name " havin a Life" you should be jumping for Joy right now with your husband, By the way, where is he Tonight????? Go ahead, I am expecting it, BLAH BLAH BLAH

 

What does that have to do with the price of eggs?

Why are you so touchy because I make comments about being happy with a H who once cheated on me?

[Havn_a_life]

yeah, cause he wife was to busy scratching his itch, cause she to busy on LS board:lmao:

 

Sure, whatever you say, Mino.

[Havn_a_life]

How about we change your name to "Need a life"

 

Why don't you? I have one, thanks.