Curiosity Posted April 17, 2003 Share Posted April 17, 2003 Hi, I'm dating this guy who says his ex-girlfriend broke up with him because while they were together her father passed away and she withdrew from everyone, including friends. For some reason, I am skeptical to believe this. I don't know for sure how someone would react in that type of situation but I don't understand why someone would end a relationship over it. Furthermore, he says that everything was going great between them at the time and he was shocked. He even went to the funeral and everything. Funny thing is, I have a good friend who's father passed away a couple years back. Subsequently, she did not dump her boyfriend but instead they got closer. Could there be more to this story than he is letting on? He won't tell me otherwise but I have to wonder. So far he seems like really good guy. Would a girl dump a "great guy", possibly potential husband, after a death in the family? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 17, 2003 Share Posted April 17, 2003 1. "Could there be more to this story than he is letting on?" Yes there could. But it's very possible it happened just the way your boyfriend has stated. 2. "Would a girl dump a "great guy", possibly potential husband, after a death in the family?" Absolutely. When people are in shock and grief, they are capable of doing many things and acting irrationally. People get very weird during these times, especially if they have never experienced loss before. For the moments that she broke up with him, she could have been thinking she would never want to be married and be left a widow...she never wanted to go through that kind of grief again. Who knows what was on her mind...but break-ups happen often after the death of a family member. I am always fascinated at the number of people who breakup during the Christmas season, which is supposed to be one of the more joyous holidays of the year. If you ever figure humans out, please send me a PM. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted April 17, 2003 Share Posted April 17, 2003 I think many people break up around the christmas and new year time because that's the time when people start to "sum up" their year, and to think about what was bad & they'd like to leave behind, and what was good & they'd like to carry into the next year. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 18, 2003 Share Posted April 18, 2003 Still, it is completely tacky to ruin a person's Christmas by dumping them then - or, for that matter, on any special occasion. I think it is only decent to end a relationship on a meaningless date to save people the nasty 'anniversary' memories. To do otherwise is just plain selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
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