LoveLace Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 For those familiar with this, please read my situation and chime in....should I worry now or later? My boyfriend and I consider our relationship to be a dream come true for both of us. We started falling in love the day we met and we know that we want to get married in a couple years. We already live 100 miles a part, which isn't a big deal, but we want to be together eventually. My BF already said he never wants to leave his company. He could easily transfer and live in my city but he's apprehensive about it. I could easily get a job near his small town but then the opportunities in my profession would be severely limited. In my city, opportunities are endless. Now he says that if he gets a promotion, it will require him to move state 2 state for 2-3 years at a time, before ending up in one place. As a nurse it would be no problem for me. My main dilemma is my mother....her health is going down hill, and I'm all she has. I have no siblings, so I need to be close to her for the rest of our lives and I'm sure she'll end up living with me. She will need around-the-clock care one day. My BF has no problem with her living with us eventually...but I told him I'm not comfortable with moving my mom around state to state like that. He said that last time he held up his career for a woman that he got his heart broken (true) so he won't make that mistake again. He also says that he doesn't expect me to follow him around....WTF then? BUT when I mention kids being in the picture, THEN he would make sure we were all together no matter what. He is definitely the man of my dreams - but doesn't it sound like I'd be doing all the sacrificing here? Is this something that should make or break us right now, or should I just be ready to face all the challenges that come with it, and risk the relationship falling a part later? Link to post Share on other sites
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