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I just talked to a GF of mine and she does not have access to a computer right now. She is complaning that her husband only wants to have sex w/ her when he is drinking? She said is is somewhat loving during the week, but not want to make love until the weekend or when he is drinking during the week.

 

He does drink a lot on the weekends and some during the week. Is it her or do some people need to be drinking to be attracted to the SO. She is an attractive girl, no dog.....

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Sounds like he has got a drinking issue going on, and needs to seek help. Most people do NOT need to drink to get in the mood. Maybe he has some kind of underlying issue about sex, therefore he feels the need to drink to get in the mood. He still needs to seek help.

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Hello Jack, that is what I told her and she said that his drinking has never been that bad and she and he over the years had sex before when he was not drinking. Just lately she said she cannot seem to get him in the mood unless he is drinking......

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Hello Jack, that is what I told her and she said that his drinking has never been that bad and she and he over the years had sex before when he was not drinking. Just lately she said she cannot seem to get him in the mood unless he is drinking......

 

Still sounds like a drinking issue. Might have been an issue that once wasn't that bad but for whatever reason got that way. Do you think she can talk to him and tell him her concern over the matter?

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I am not sure, he is the defensicve type. I know them both and they have gone through a rough spot lately ( he had an affair ) and she said he is just not the same. Not mean or cold, but acts like he is tired or just not interested until he is drinking, she thinks he is not as attrated to her like her was and or still thinking about the OW.

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They have not been getting along for a while, child issues, money issues, nothing major. She thinks he may be having an affair, no proof excpet this one problem. She said he was not like that and has been for months now.

 

If he is thinking about someone else, this could be an issue. Meaning, he loves his wife, thinking of someone else, so he cannot get excited with his W when he is sober, but can when he gets drunk and does not care.

 

She said she initiates a lot during the week, no reponse most of the time, not even an erection. Only if he has been drinking that day. I do not like giving her my advice right now, I am not a good one to ask....so I ask my experts :):)

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Tell her to stop initiating and instead try to get him to initiate! I'm not sure this is a good indicator of an affair. Seriously it sounds more like he is deep down upset with his wife! When you cant trust or open up... sometimes alcohol can take down that wall. He is a man after all!

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