luvmy2ns Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Shoot. I’m just a blabber mouth with too much time and waaaay too many personal “opinions.” Besides, one more post, and I’m back to being addicted to this d*mn forum. Moderation! Moderation! And apparently, only people who don't believe in f'ing a married man spend time posting on Wikipedia. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I love the reason for edit... So do I, GEL.. so do I... Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 That went way over your head, didn't it? Yes, instead of just spewing out nonsense, I like to give factual information so it will not be "just my opinion". My opinions are educated and thought-out... it's nice that they can actually be backed up with factual information. You are a good sport though. I think the point is that A's have nothing to do with "factual" information...A's happen because one MP's needs are not being filled in the M...I'm not going to argue whether that's right or wrong or if the need is narcissistic...But that is why A's happen... R's have to do with feelings, not facts...That's why anyone can come on and give "factual" information and it will not change a darn thing... Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Oh well, I don't think I'd be able to follow the 'educated' crowd... :laugh:lyssa You'd better quit while you're ahead or the mods will give you an infraction for posting a smart a** reply. By the way, did you get that smart from reading a dictionary?? :cool:TF Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I think the point is that A's have nothing to do with "factual" information...A's happen because one MP's needs are not being filled in the M...I'm not going to argue whether that's right or wrong or if the need is narcissistic...But that is why A's happen... R's have to do with feelings, not facts...That's why anyone can come on and give "factual" information and it will not change a darn thing... People were arguing that being an OM/OW is not wrong/doesn't hurt anyone... hence the Wikipedia post. Now you are talking about something different. What I don't get is if someone is going to cheat, why not get out of the relationship first? Doesn't make sense. Just sounds like they want both... two women... until they get caught. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I think the point is that A's have nothing to do with "factual" information...A's happen because one MP's needs are not being filled in the M...I'm not going to argue whether that's right or wrong or if the need is narcissistic...But that is why A's happen... R's have to do with feelings, not facts...That's why anyone can come on and give "factual" information and it will not change a darn thing... When your MM cheats on you, let us know what "needs" he says you aren't fulfilling. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 :laugh:lyssa You'd better quit while you're ahead or the mods will give you an infraction for posting a smart a** reply. By the way, did you get that smart from reading a dictionary?? :cool:TF I don't think being that smart comes from a dictionary. Think I'll go read on 'Infractions' - need to get myself educated. Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 When your MM cheats on you, let us know what "needs" he says you aren't fulfilling. Yes, please... Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I don't think being that smart comes from a dictionary. Think I'll go read on 'Infractions' - need to get myself educated. Why are you still talking about this... are you that lost? We are over here now! We've moved on! Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I don't think being that smart comes from a dictionary. Think I'll go read on 'Infractions' - need to get myself educated. Last time, okay? I'll go slowly... You are smart when you can say something and then can back up the things you say/believe with facts... make sense? Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 What I don't get is if someone is going to cheat, why not get out of the relationship first? Doesn't make sense. Just sounds like they want both... two women... until they get caught. That is really the million dollar question... But there's a lot of reasons to stay...especially when you have the best of both worlds...It's selfish, but it's the reality alot of times... Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 I was replying to TF - gee whizz.... Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 That is really the million dollar question... But there's a lot of reasons to stay...especially when you have the best of both worlds...It's selfish, but it's the reality alot of times... That's what sucks... the BS who is unaware or the OM/OW (who is unaware) gets screwed over (no pun intended). So then why would a OW/OM who was aware of this participate anyway, and then say they haven't done anything wrong? You just said there are many reasons to stay, so you can't blame the BS... Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 When your MM cheats on you, let us know what "needs" he says you aren't fulfilling. Don't worry, I fulfill all his needs... He's my partner, in more ways than one... Don't be jealous, I'm sure you'll find someone, one day... Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Don't worry, I fulfill all his needs... He's my partner, in more ways than one... I wonder if his wife would say the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Don't worry, I fulfill all his needs... He's my partner, in more ways than one... Don't be jealous, I'm sure you'll find someone, one day... Aren't you the OW? If so then how can you say this? Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 When your MM cheats on you, let us know what "needs" he says you aren't fulfilling. That may not be directed at me but since this is a public thread, I'll share this with all of you - as far as I know, I fulfill his and he fulfills my needs. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Don't worry, I fulfill all his needs... He's my partner, in more ways than one... Don't be jealous, I'm sure you'll find someone, one day... I have one, and he never f'd around on any of his relationships. Mine is remodeling my house. Already one new room in my house, and my son's bedroom completely redone. You'll be cheated on, 'cause you're with a cheater. Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Then why is he still married?! Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 That may not be directed at me but since this is a public thread, I'll share this with all of you - as far as I know, I fulfill his and he fulfills my needs. But there's the rub. "As far as I know." As far as the wifey knows as well. Cheaters are deceiving liars. Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 She's obviuosly not fullfilling his needs or she wouldn't be the OW. As was proven earlier, things are going way over their heads though, so I don't think they will get it. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 She's obviuosly not fullfilling his needs or she wouldn't be the OW. As was proven earlier, things are going way over their heads though, so I don't think they will get it. Well, if you had no self-respect, you'd be willing to stay with a lying married man, too. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 That's what sucks... the BS who is unaware or the OM/OW (who is unaware) gets screwed over (no pun intended). So then why would a OW/OM who was aware of this participate anyway, and then say they haven't done anything wrong? You just said there are many reasons to stay, so you can't blame the BS... You know, if people stay for reasons other than love, can you really expect a MP not to find that love somewhere else? And I really think that it's different in long-term A's...Short-term A's are usually based on fun and sex and meant to stay short-term...The W is still primary and the OW knows it... When an A becomes long-term, there's usually a lot of neglect of the marital R on both MP's parts or the A wouldn't be able to last so long...And if one partner is unaware of the deterioration for such a prolonged period of time, then that's on them...In this day and age, you have to be "relationship smart" and you can't take anything for granted... It seems really cut and dried when you've never been faced with this type of situation...but when you love someone, it's hard to let go, on everybody's part... Not saying it's right or wrong, just saying that's the way it is sometimes... Link to post Share on other sites
Jinnah Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Well, if you had no self-respect, you'd be willing to stay with a lying married man, too. Somehow they just don't get that either, do they? Don't they think they deserve more than sharing a man? I truly feel bad for them... I wish they could see what we see. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Then why is he still married?! I thought we went through this already... Apparently you need your dictionary again... Link to post Share on other sites
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