How can yu tell if a girl likes if you... but you only talk onlie and on the phone

[billyhilly1212]

i like this girl. a big problem is that i am at college 2000 miles away. i dont know if she likes me. are there ways you can tell if she is interested in you while talking on the phone or online? she called me at 4 am this morning completely out of the blue, and it was weird because that was the first time id talked to her on the phone. we used to talk strictly online. i worked woth her over the summer so i know her and have hung out with her. i guess i just would like to know if there are ways to tell if she is into me, by talking to her only online and over the phone.

 

im open to any and all suggestions.

 

thnaks for all the help.

Bill

[Green]

Yeah she likes you, but shes to far away. Find a girl close by, dont get obssessed over one far away girl you only talk to over the net. if you keep in touch maybe you can visit her. Dont waste your life waiting though, there are some quality girls in the zip codes closer by to you im sure of it. Most guys lack the confidence to go out and pick up chicks, if you find the confidence with in yourself you'll forget all about this... but yes she likes you from the little you have told me

[glittergurl]

The question here is: does it matter?

 

Because if there's zero chance of you guys ever living in the same area, then I would say: no it doesn't.

[billyhilly1212]

oh i forogt to say as to seeing her, she lives in my hometown. so ill see her like at thanksgiving, christmas, spring break, and all summer. so its not like ill never see her.

 

does that change anything?

[Green]

I guess it changes it a little, but I wouldnt turn this into a steady thing. If you have a winter romance then good for you, but for now Id focus on the girls you get to see all the time

[glittergurl]

Yes it does. If you could see her on a regular basis, then it might be worth pursuing.

 

However, her phone call may not mean anything and I wouldn't keep my hopes up so fast. Take it slowly, stay in touch with her, and keep an eye open for signals. Also make sure you meet up with her as often as possible if you're that into her. Nothing replaces being face to face.

[billyhilly1212]

she just texted me and called me from work... she has never done that. she said she was having a bad day at work, and i had the jason mraz song "im yours" and i played it for her... its her fav mraz song. she always calls me crazy and says i say the cutest things. it is good to be saying the "cutest things"?

[glittergurl]

She obviously likes you. The only thing nobody but her knows is whether she's put you in her friend zone or not. Being in the friend zone sucks because girls will basically tell you all kinds of random things that could be misinterpreted, and they'll call you when they're down. Only time will tell. Don't stress too much about it right now. I honestly think it's too soon to tell anything for sure, and nobody on a message board will be able to tell you what's going on inside her head.

 

Just play along and time will tell what happens next.

[billyhilly1212]

i understand completely. it makes me feel so good to hear peope say that she likes me. i dont even care if it is in a message board. so pretty much if she does like me, more than in that friend zone, she will tell me in her own time. just keep doing what we are doing now and she is interested then she'll bring it to my attention. also, i dont remember if ive siad this or not and i dont know if it changes anything, but she knows that i like her, ive told her that.

[glittergurl]

Then that is definitely a good sign. If she didn't like you that way, she would have either told you so, or started avoiding you. I don't want to keep your hopes up too much though; I know how stupid love can make you act. And if you're too eager, you could end up ruining things. Just proceed with caution, but rest assured that she likes you at least a bit. That's my oppinion anyway.

[billyhilly1212]

yea i know what you mean. if there is something to come from this, i dont wasnt to ruin it by acting too fast or pushing her into something too fast. just give it time, and let her come to me and tell me how she feels right?

[billyhilly1212]

sorry for being like this, i just really like this girl and if there is going to be something here i just dont want to screw it up

[glittergurl]

How old are you and have you ever been in a relationship before?

 

Waiting for her to tell her feelings ... that's not always how things happen. She knows your feelings, she obviously likes you - at least a little bit -, just take it easy and see where it leads you. Don't expect a bold love confession on her part. Things might happen as smoothly as you two ending up going out somewhere in a casual way, and then you'll just naturally happen to kiss each other one day. It doesn't always have to come from one side or another. If she ever really falls for you, you'll be able to tell by the way she stares at you and smiles ... not by whatever words she said in a text message or a phone call.

 

But also be prepared for her to call you up one day and tell you all about her new boyfriend ... because that is a possibility and it's better to keep that in the back of your mind, so you won't be totally crushed if it ever happens.

[billyhilly1212]

most of the stuff that i have put in here, is advice that ive got from my friends. i ve also been told to ask her how she feels and i dont which to go with.

 

and i am 18 and ive only had one girlfriend and that was a long time ago.

i havent had the best of luck with girls and this is the first girl that i have liked and she has shown any interest back in me. so im kinda overwhelmed. thats why im so curious and want to know anything and everything that i can or should do.

 

if that clears anything up

[billyhilly1212]

but i also dont want to just hear like your young and there are plenty of fish in the sea or anything like that. i really want to date this girl

[glittergurl]

but i also dont want to just hear like your young and there are plenty of fish in the sea or anything like that. i really want to date this girl

 

I know what you mean, and there is nothing wrong with that. It's just that, when you're so young and haven't had that many serious relationships, it's easy to have all those ideas about how things may or may not go and what things may or may not mean.

 

As time goes by, and as you start to have more experience, you learn to relax and not read too much into little things. Because what matters is the end result. As long as she still treats you like a friend, there's really not much to be excited about. All you have is hope, and that may be a good thing, but keep in mind that what you have right now is basically nothing yet. And really, unless she gives clear signals whenever you meet up face to face (as in, obvious long lasting eye contact etc) those phone calls are nothing to write home about.

 

The girl is friendly, and that's a good start. It is what it is.

[billyhilly1212]

i get what your saying, i really do. thats what all of my friends are saying, that i over-analyze everything. i just really dont know where to go from here. i mean our relationship has grown. we started at just talking at work. then texting, then calling and stuff and now its where its at. and as ive said because i am young and inexperienced, i go with advice from my friends, which is good in a way but they also kinda just tell me whats gonna make me feel good. thats kinda why i came here to post this. i want peoples opinions who i dont know and wont just give me the whole i know what you want to hear so ill tell you that.

 

and so, from what ive said in your honest opinion, do you think i have a chance with this girl at all

[glittergurl]

Yes absolutely. You haven't mentioned anything that would be considered a red flag.

 

One question though: you say she knows how you feel about her ... so I assume you just plain told her. What was her reaction?

[billyhilly1212]

ok now were getting somewhere. ok i told her at the complete wrong time. she had just gotten out of a relationship where she was cheated on. i wasnt planning on telling her at that point but its just where the conversation went. it was weird the way she reacted, but thats probably because she didnt want a guy telling her that at that point. right after i said it i knew it was the wrong time. but its like she has forgotten about it, like the thing that i told her, i think. it hasnt come up again and i dont know if i bring it back up or what.

see i told you i have no idea what im doing.

all i know is that i like her and i dont want anything but her

[glittergurl]

Well then it sounds quite positive. Not super crazy positive, but definitely not negative. I mean, she didn't tell you "I'm sorry I don't like you that way" or anything, right?

 

People don't just forget love confessions. Especially if she's 18 too, then I can guarantee you she has not forgotten at all.

 

One more question: how long ago was that?

[billyhilly1212]

probably doesnt matter but she's 19, just throwing that out

and this was like 2 and a half weeks ago.

one night we were talking and she said that she had to go because she had gotten some really crappy news, so i talked to her later that night and she said that she just wanted me to talk to her and tell her funny and random stuff... really dont know why i said that but maybe it means im just in the friend zone or i was the only one to talk to but she chose me to talk to.

 

another tangent that goes with it that is that for like a week after the break up she was so depressed every time i talked to her but lately she has been "happier" and when i do talk to her on the phone she laughs at everything i say... even if i dont think its that funny. and our relationship had been the best its been in like the last two or three days

[glittergurl]

this was like 2 and a half weeks ago.

Ohhhh, then that's good. You got plenty of time. It all sounds pretty good for you.

[billyhilly1212]

also she has me listen to songs... like some depressing ones and some about like getting over things and things like that. right now im big into country and i have her listen to songs about like love and that stuff... do you like rascal flatts? kinda random i know

[Green]

ur losing it u may get this girl, but you need to forget her and go after some other girls. You get all shes the one about some girl you may or may not see on thanksgiving and I promise you will lose her unless she is really ugly... you see when you make one girl who your not seriously dating your only option you apear desperate, it comes out in the way you act, talk, and treat the girl. If you want to get this girl I recomend you date other girls. You need start talking to the girls in your college class, join clubs and talk to lots of girls, ask them to hang out and make sure your not in the friendzone by going for kiss's... by the way when the time comes which it definetly will the first time you see this girl in person again you have to kiss her or something or u will be in the friendzone... and what every you do with this girl to take it to a romantic level will mean you have to risk losing her... if your not confident to make that sexual move such as a deep kiss that risks totaly ruining that girls opinion of you, then you dont have what it takes and you'll... Please follow my advice date girls in your area and dont focus all your energy on entertaining this girl every times she calls its truely pathetic (and i by no means think you are pathetic you sound like a very genuine person) oh and when I say forget her I mean just for now definetly start calling and getting stuff ready when u 2 are both back in town just forget her for now....

[billyhilly1212]

yea, it works in theory. but when you literally risk your grades for her by staying up all night talking yo her, you cant just forget. i dont care that im 18. i dont care about other girls in my classes. i just plain dont care. she is the only girl for me right now and nobody telling me to just forget her, is going to make it all better. ive put so much into this relationship that to just forget... is like giving up in what you believe in. i have and will continue to put 1000000% to her until the day when she says, "no, i dont like you like that" and until that time, she will get more than 10000000% effort to her and building this relationship to the next level.