Dreama Posted October 1, 2007 Share Posted October 1, 2007 I have a complex problem, which has been causing me a dilemma of sorts, and much frustration. I'm looking for insight and advice from as many objective people as possible. For about 10 months I've had this enormous 'crush' on my supervisor at work. (It's a retail store). I think of him constrantly, and long to be near him. And here I am, a grown woman (way past the age of 'crushes') yet I'm feeling like a giddy schoolgirl every time I'm near him. I have a strong hunch he likes me too. (He's been way over the top in flirtatious comments). Also a co worker told me that the guy in question talks about me a lot (in a favorable way) and thinks I'm attractive. The frustrating part is that one moment he'll be nice to me, the next he'll start teasing me uncontrollably, especailly around co workers. Maybe he's trying to dispel any rumors that we have a thing for each other (?). The 'playful' teasing one moment, then the smiles and stares the next are driving me nuts. If he likes me as I do him, why isn't he sweet to me all the time, as i try to be with him? I know he's my supervisor and needs to be careful of his demeanor, but why the constant teasing? He looks to see my reaction, then smiles. It's almost like he's a grown man, acting like a small child who pulls a girl's hair to show he likes her or something. Very frustrating. Sometimes when he thinks I'm not looking, I'll catch him staring at me, then he turns his glance away when he sees me. I should also mention, that he's told me he's been through a stressful divorce (finacially devastating) and two teenage children involved too. he's been through a lot, so I can understand he's reluctant to wearr his heart on his sleeve, not to mention he's my supervisor for cryin' out loud! All I know is that my heart yearns and aches for him. I can't help it. It's more than a mere physical attraction, I long to get to know him better too. I don't know what to do. I know he likes me even if he's afraid to admit it, but what can I - what should I - do? We're probably both afraid to make any advance towards each other, for fear of embarrassment (as we have to work closely). I'd appreciate any advice you can offer...and any insight in to why he's playing hard to get and teasing me constantly? How can I get him to quit the teasing, and simply show his true feeling/interest? Thank you. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
pinochleprincess Posted October 1, 2007 Share Posted October 1, 2007 You say teasing like it's a bad thing. Why's that? Teasing=attention Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreama Posted October 1, 2007 Author Share Posted October 1, 2007 Oh, I forgot to mention something else too. A while back, we had a co worker for seasonal. He was talking to me, and smiling at me a lot, and my supervisor in question displayed obvious signs of jealousy. He even told me not to take my breaks with this guy........ Link to post Share on other sites
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