Started off REALLY fast! Need advice!

[lando]

Alright, heres the run-down...

 

I met a girl at work.. Heres how it went... Well, at first, I worked during the day, and she worked during the night (We work at a restaurant)... Anyways, I had seen her before, and she had seen me, but we had never talked...

 

Well, a while back, she started working during the day... I dont really recall how, but we started talking to eachother..

 

Well, one day at work, we were all talking about this one movie (Super Troopers, to be exact), and she mentioned that she had never saw it... So the day went on.. Towards the end, her & I exchanged ICQ numbers, and we both added eachother that night... We talked for five hours straight... It was a great chat..

 

During the chat, our earlier talk about Super Troopers came up... She was trying to download it and watch it, but it wasnt working, so I offered that she could either rent the movie, or come up to my house and watch it... We made plans to watch it the following evening.

 

Okay, well I picked her up the next day, brought her up to my house and showed her around, and then started the movie... 10 minutes into the movie, we were both cuddling on my couch! It just felt so right for both of us... There was alot of gentle caressing and all that stuff (you know, the usual cuddling stuff)

 

So we watched the movie like that... It ended, and I asked her if she wanted to watch another movie.. she said yes, so we picked another that she hadnt seen...

 

She never got to watch the movie... 20 minutes in, we were making out, and it didnt stop until near the end of the credits of the movie... Even after the credits had finished and there was just a blank screen, we were both there, acting as if we were both in love with eachother...

 

Well, I got her home an hour late, at which time I got another kiss..

 

ALRIGHTY!! the next day at work... I didnt know what to expect... Well, things were a little awkward... I mean, we still talked throughout the day, but not as much as usual... I asked her what was up and what she thought of the night before...

 

She said that it was really fast... Then I asked her if it felt right, to which she responded yes... "So where do we go from here?", I asked her... She told me that she didnt want to jump into a relationship with me, because she didnt know me... I respect that. I asked her if she wanted to get to know me, and she said yes to that as well..

 

Well since then, we have done alot... We have gone out a couple of times, we talk on the phone alot, and she has come up to my place for more movies (one of which times, we spent cuddling again...).. We have gotten to know eachother decently...

 

 

I'm not going to ask any specific questions from you all, I just want input... Any question you can think of, answer it for me

 

Muchly appreciated... Oh and by the way, if you have something bad to say, say it.. I would rather hear the honest truth than a sugared up version...

 

Lando

[lando]

Oh, and sorry about the longevity of the post =P

[Tony T]

Sounds to me like she really does enjoy being with you and vice versa. I'd say if you treat her kindly, with respect and continue moving at a moderate pace, it should turn out great. Just don't take things too fast and let her call the shots as far as sex goes.

 

My guess is that within five years, the two of you will be married with three kids, a house with a picket fence, a dog, two birds and a good life ahead of you.

 

I wouldn't talk so long on the phone or over the Internet. You can burn out really fast that way. Keep things a bit shorter and always be the one to end the session. Leave her wanting more. And don't try to see her too often. If you are together all the time, she'll tire of that after a while and take you for granted. Don't be too nice and sweet. Just be yourself.

 

Please invite us to the wedding!!!

[Al E.]

Let her drive. Make her think she's in the driver seat and she will feel comfortable. My current girlfriend was scared of relationships. I just took the stategy of letting her take the lead. She eventually told me she was tired of calling me all the time and wasn't going to call so often. I started calling and chasing her after that.

 

What happens when you chase a dog? It runs away. What happens if you turn your back and walk away. The dog follows you. However, it will stop following you if you walk TOO far away.

 

Play it cool, this girl/woman is attracted to you, just let her think it's her idea you two become a couple. I did in my current relationship and it's great.

 

M~