MexicanBillBacker Posted October 3, 2007 Share Posted October 3, 2007 After thinking about it and many cigs I came to the conclusion that I really don't have anything to offer for this girl. Why is she going to date me? This is not a "I'm giving up thread" its a what can I do to better myself. What can I do to make someone fall for me? How does someone become amazing...So she can say hell I can't be with out him. Link to post Share on other sites
Topcat Posted October 3, 2007 Share Posted October 3, 2007 Man, not that I am an expert or anything, but what works for me, is making the girl believe she is the only woman in the world, she is everything and you worship the ground she walks on. You have to make her feel very special, loved and wanted, but not an act man, you have to believe it too. Try flowers, gift, little surprises, lots of attention, treats, listen to everything she says be interested in her. just try it what have you to lose..??? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 3, 2007 Share Posted October 3, 2007 I agree, but don't forget to be yourself. The real you will come out anyway and that's who she should fall for. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2007 Share Posted October 3, 2007 its a what can I do to better myself. What can I do to make someone fall for me? How does someone become amazing...So she can say hell I can't be with out him. Start by giving up cigarette smoking.... who wants to kiss an ashtray You cannot make someone fall for you.. but what you can do is put your best foot forward and show her who you are.. You can be attentive to her and make her something important in your life.. It isn't as much with the words as it is with your actions that will grab her attention.. Romance her.. be nice to her.. open her doors.. give her flowers.. make her feel special.. show her you are a man of integrity and warmth..that is how you win a woman's heart Link to post Share on other sites
Author MexicanBillBacker Posted October 4, 2007 Author Share Posted October 4, 2007 Start by giving up cigarette smoking.... who wants to kiss an ashtray You cannot make someone fall for you.. but what you can do is put your best foot forward and show her who you are.. You can be attentive to her and make her something important in your life.. It isn't as much with the words as it is with your actions that will grab her attention.. Romance her.. be nice to her.. open her doors.. give her flowers.. make her feel special.. show her you are a man of integrity and warmth..that is how you win a woman's heart Ha! I only smoke in moments of reflection by my self. I think this is one of those of just keep hoping, and praying lol. Girls down here don't go for those kinds of things..the more things you give them the more they'll think you are a needy loser. And trust me I don't wanna get on that train again I'm pretty popular you know and she's not that popular but she's the best girl I've ever met bar none. She's just an amazing human being and there's no one else I wanna be with right now. So its basically her or bust...other girls I know just like getting drunk all the time or are shallow biotches. I was thinking the 3 P's Popularity, Phocking great physique and great personality. Although I don't think it'll work with this girl Oh I forgot to mention we were great friends and then I fell for her. Distanced myself from her...then we're back to being friends after about a month of not talking. I tried to just get over her but then I realized other girls out there in this city don't have half her heart...I was hoping the Bills season would help me out but man do they suck...So I had to go running back to her even if its just friends right now. I know you guys are going to say there's more girls out there and **** but I don't buy that. I've never met a girl like her and of course there's other girls out there but not right now. She's gonna fall for me I don't know how but someway some how she is going to fall Just gotta be amazing in every aspect of life. Either that or I'll smoke my lungs out...that' cant be good...can't die before my Bills win a super bowl. Wait a minute I just hear myself saying that and it won't happen...Nevermind:P Link to post Share on other sites
Timberlane Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 First you get the money then you get the power then you get the woman. What so hard about that? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Please, oh please, do not try to make a chick fall for you. It's not possible. Forget the lists and just be yourself. If she likes who you are, she'll date you. Link to post Share on other sites
popey Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 your introspection and willingness to discuss your thoughts and feelings here, should be helpful in the relationship. Many men lack this, and many women are frustrated by that. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkzen Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 First of all, you need to acquire some confidence. Second of all, don't bother trying to win someone over... it won't work out in the long run. If she doesn't want you for the right reasons, she won't stay with you for the wrong ones. Trust me, I know from first-hand experience. I met my ex and she didn't even know I existed. So, once I got my stuff together and she wanted me (for the wrong reasons), we got together. The minute these wrong reasons started to sway, she took off. If she isn't into you for who you are now, she's selfish and looking to sate her own desires. That's why putting in extra effort to get her will eventually fail. Unless of course you're willing to live that way forever. Be honest and open, find the right person for you... don't try and fit a square peg into the circular hole. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MexicanBillBacker Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 Even though I'm pretty popular I have plenty of emotional baggage. Although I'm a pretty confident person I think its getting to me that I've never had a girlfriend before. And its probably because I'm not an *******...I care for their feelings couldn't care less if they put out...I know its pretty gay but I'm going against the norm of regular 16 year old kids. I've had sex before and trust me its overrated. As for this girl well at least in HS she's the only girl I see myself being with. Other girls are great...but not her. And that's ok really since I just want her to be happy. I wanna become the best version of myself you know....Don't know how to do that but I can start with being an amazing person every day. And yeah I might never have a girlfriend or anything but I at least have the Bills to look forward too. Maybe next year eh? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 Your surest bet is to kidnap her and hold her hostage in a small shack on a mountain, professing your undying love for her and letting her know that no one else will ever have her. She will be convinced that she must be with you, particularly if you've tied her up right. The catch is that this method requires you to die in a hail of lead, and so you can't be there to experience her infinite and never-ending love and commitment. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 What makes you think you don't have a chance with her? The fact that she is your friend means something, no? Has she given you any non-friend vibes? What you wrote about her...that was quite sweet. Now if only you had the courage to approach her with your feelings (perhaps not all at once...but at least start with the fact that you find her appealing). Sometimes, two friends never speak of their non-platonic love for one another...and then it's too late. Don't sit around and wait. If this girl is as wonderful as you say she is, she's bound to appreciate you for your honesty. What's the worst that can happen? She may not feel *that* way about you. Life is too short to sit on your feelings and do nothing. I say, be bold and tell her how you feel. Or at least start showing her what she could have with you. Flirt with her. Make her feel special. Be subtle but charming. And pretty soon...well, you'll know if the feeling is mutual. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 After thinking about it and many cigs I came to the conclusion that I really don't have anything to offer for this girl. Why is she going to date me? This is not a "I'm giving up thread" its a what can I do to better myself. What can I do to make someone fall for me? How does someone become amazing...So she can say hell I can't be with out him. you can't. all you can really is not screw it up. your main problem is that you're putting her as higher value than yourself. you accidentally sub-communicate this when you talk to her. that desperation makes her feel like you don't like HER, but you just want SOMEONE. you have to change your life so that you feel like SHE would be lucky to have YOU. having other options helps too... when women know that you're desired by other women, they desire you too. it's f*cked up but it's true... Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 Know yourself and don't change for the woman (unless the change also improves you and you feel happy about it and not only her). Have you talked to the other women? If not then how do you know they're not even greater than this girl you're obsessing over? You need to play the field, get to know the girls and then you'll discover that this one you like is not all that special. I think you made a mistake by falling in love with her before you got to know all the other girls. You might even have built an idealized image of her in your head but in reality she is a mere human with her own faults like any other. Start talking to other girls, don't worry what this one will do if she sees you talking to others. Tell her that you're making friends, you are allowed to do that without her going into jealous rage followed by silent treatments. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MexicanBillBacker Posted October 10, 2007 Author Share Posted October 10, 2007 Know yourself and don't change for the woman (unless the change also improves you and you feel happy about it and not only her). Have you talked to the other women? If not then how do you know they're not even greater than this girl you're obsessing over? You need to play the field, get to know the girls and then you'll discover that this one you like is not all that special. I think you made a mistake by falling in love with her before you got to know all the other girls. You might even have built an idealized image of her in your head but in reality she is a mere human with her own faults like any other. Start talking to other girls, don't worry what this one will do if she sees you talking to others. Tell her that you're making friends, you are allowed to do that without her going into jealous rage followed by silent treatments. That's ****ing key When really thinking about the situation I've realized there's no reason at all why she'd be my girlfriend. I mean there's nothing special I bring to the table that any other guy doesn't have. I mean being the nice guy next door doesn't cut in this day and age. You gotta bring something that no other guy has...and I'm still looking for that. Same thing she brings to the table for me...there's no one else for me because seriously I've known her for a while and although I've met many girls thanks to my frantic social life no one...and I mean no one has a shot in hell against her. What I'll do is I'll be amazing...be there for her when she needs me, etc. While polishing my social life and becoming ****ing ripped. She'll finally see that I'm a great guy and she'll fall I mean things have gone so well socially because even though I have a lot of friends I have a clear policy of not talking behind anyones back. Even if someone really doesn't have anything going for themselves I like to stay back because I just know nobody is perfect. My friends like bad mouthing people so when we are in HS around the table I just focus on my convo with the girl I'm telling you guys about and never say anything about anyone. I figure I've been there myself and its totally wrong to tell someone off because of how they dress or look. And if not well I've lived 17 years without a girlfriend and I can keep on doing the same. It seriously is all about her...Just want her to be happy you know. Her last boyfriend really treated her like crap and I want her to find someone amazing that treats her how she deserves...I just hope I'm that guy. Although seriously I can't take many more of these Tuesday's with the Bills laying an egg Monday Night and things going sour at school. At least if the Bills lose on a Sunday I have time to regroup. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 Although seriously I can't take many more of these Tuesday's with the Bills laying an egg i Monday Night and things going sour at school. At least if the Bills lose on a Sunday I have time to regroup. Ahahahahaa...and with this, you're obviously going to be fine. Just remember. She's a girl and you're a guy. Be yourself and don't forget to ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MexicanBillBacker Posted October 10, 2007 Author Share Posted October 10, 2007 Ahahahahaa...and with this, you're obviously going to be fine. Just remember. She's a girl and you're a guy. Be yourself and don't forget to ask her out. I mean he's a guy and she's a girl and I see no shot at them doing anything other than Math HW. Link to post Share on other sites
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