sb129 Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Things are slightly less than Wonder-ful right at this moment. I have just got off the phone with WB, who was meant to run an errand after work today and be home in time for dinner. The errand has ending up taking over three hours, and he still isn't home, so naturally I am a little POd. He accused me of being a grouch last three nights, and not being able to do anything right. Monday- I had to come home from work with a migraine, spent night throwing up, he was lovely and cooked me dinner. Tuesday- can't really remember, but I do remember being tired. Wednesday- We have a problem with damp and slugs are coming into our room in the middle of the night. It is gross, and I was really annoyed about it because the landlady is being useless about it. WB tried to fix it, but it ended up taking ages, and we got to bed really late, I was grouchy about the slugs, and going to bed late (again), but we did end up having ... Today- well I have planned a lovely dinner that hes not home to eat, and I feel like I am sitting here waiting, waiting...... I know that the reasons he is late aren't ALL his fault, but I am disappointed, and have been less than pleasant to him. He says he is trying to do the right thing for me and I am just taking all my grumpiness out on him. I don't feel mad towards him all the time, I am not even that stressed. i have been really tired lately, and I must be taking it out on him without realising it. He says its not that major, but now I feel like a terrible girlfriend. Can someone reassure me that its normal to go through little patches like this? Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Sorry to hear about the slugs - hope that is sorted out! As for your Q - it is normal. I go through that a lot especially when I am very tired from a day at the academy. That usually would make me an unpleasant company. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Everyone gets grouchy sometimes. Anyone who doesn't is either ingesting chemicals or is in denial. As long as you can pull yourself out of this, it's not a big deal. Do something special for him tonight when he gets home. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostgurl Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 Hey SB. Everyone has their off days, or off weeks, I'm having one myself. I have had many of these little rough patches (understatement) as well, and everyone has them. But it sounds like you two are handling it really well. I don't think that you are being a bad gf, stop being so hard on yourself. One can't be happy and peachy all the time. Some days, those little annoyances get to us more than they usually would. Cheer up! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted October 4, 2007 Author Share Posted October 4, 2007 I just can seem to get him to see that I am not grouchy with him, or even life or anything, i have just had a couple of off days and am tired. Why do guys interpret "I'm tired" as "I am p*ssed off with you but I am not going to tell you what it is, you have to guess." ??? When I am annoyed, I don't do guessing games. When I am tired, I am tired. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 It's not only guys that do that... If he's the type to be concerned, just tell him upfront whenever you're tired and grumpy. He should be able to handle this. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 4, 2007 Share Posted October 4, 2007 You have to understand what a huge mystery you women are to most of us. You have to pound things into our heads sometimes. We're often emotional retards, what can I say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted October 4, 2007 Author Share Posted October 4, 2007 Thanks guys. I guess I was a little hard on myself. He should understand when I explain that my off days don't mean I am off at him. He said something about not having a right to be angry just because I am a girl???? I don't think I have that right at all.... not sure what he means by that, but I guess I will have to do what reboot says and drum it into his head that I am not p*ssed at him per se, just having a couple of off days. I have apologised for inadvertently taking it out on him.. (by text argh! and after my insistence text only be used for admin) he is on the tube, and he should get the text when he gets off and is walking home. I need to get in the kitchen and start the dinner...... Link to post Share on other sites
katiebour Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 When you sit down with him, why not ask him for a few things to brighten your day: SB: oh, Wonderboy, I'm so tired and grouchy. I'm so glad you're here to take care of me, that makes me feel so much better. WB: I'd do anything to make you happy, darling. SB: Do you think we could get a movie and you could give me a foot-rub? That would be so relaxing for me. WB: Sure, honey; do you want me to get something for dinner so that we can just relax together? Guys like feeling as though they can do something to make things better. They seem to despise that helpless feeling of "She's tired and irritated and there's nothing I can do." Giving him a few tasks specifically designed to make you happy allows him to feel as though he is part of the solution instead of the problem, ya? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted October 10, 2007 Author Share Posted October 10, 2007 When you sit down with him, why not ask him for a few things to brighten your day: SB: oh, Wonderboy, I'm so tired and grouchy. I'm so glad you're here to take care of me, that makes me feel so much better. WB: I'd do anything to make you happy, darling. SB: Do you think we could get a movie and you could give me a foot-rub? That would be so relaxing for me. WB: Sure, honey; do you want me to get something for dinner so that we can just relax together? Guys like feeling as though they can do something to make things better. They seem to despise that helpless feeling of "She's tired and irritated and there's nothing I can do." Giving him a few tasks specifically designed to make you happy allows him to feel as though he is part of the solution instead of the problem, ya? Spoooooooky...... we did have nearly that exact conversation the day after I posted that thread! Things are fine now.. Link to post Share on other sites
katiebour Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Spoooooooky...... we did have nearly that exact conversation the day after I posted that thread! Things are fine now.. Ehehehehe... I'm glad things are going well. No charge for the prognostication. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobby NoBrains Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 Ehehehehe... I'm glad things are going well. No charge for the prognostication. Dayum, I actually had to look up that word .. Prognuhwhatsit. It means to foretell, to portend, and some more stuff. Almost had to go and look that up, too Just my two bits .. Bobby Link to post Share on other sites
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