Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 ... lets try an experiment! I am serious... this is for those of you who really think you are number one...let's find out if you are actually/factually no.1. This is not a malicious/sarcastic/sadistic post... I'm serious... this is just to see if your eyes need to be opened or if everyone else needs to shut up. Here's how: 1.Tell him to leave his BS and go live with you. 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. 3.Tell him you want his wife to know about you so you won't be the "dirty little secret" anymore. 4.Call him while he is sleeping with his wife and tell him to stop and come sleep with you. 5.Ask him to spend every holiday with you because you miss him/are lonely. 6.Tell him you need some money out of his paycheck 7.Tell him you want to be the one to live in his house with him instead of the wife and kids. 8.The list goes on... readers feel free to add... OW, when you conduct these experiments, let us know how it turns out. If you need support after you find your results, we will be here for you. Seriously, and if you are right, then no one can say you aren't then, right? Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 ... lets try an experiment! I am serious... this is for those of you who really think you are number one...let's find out if you are actually/factually no.1. This is not a malicious/sarcastic/sadistic post... I'm serious... this is just to see if your eyes need to be opened or if everyone else needs to shut up. Here's how: I'm game, I enjoy questions let's give it a go.. 1.Tell him to leave his BS and go live with you. I don't want him to leave her, he's asked me. Ive said no. I have another relationship as well, he has a child and his wife is very depressed, she doesn't need any more pain with a young child I won't be apart of that. 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. actually I have during a emergency, he did. he did lie to her though, sorry if that's not the answer you were looking for. 3.Tell him you want his wife to know about you so you won't be the "dirty little secret" anymore. why would I want him to tell her about me? as I stated she doesn't need unnecessary pain. I have no desire to be her friend so what point is there to tell her really...here's what would happen ok: he'd tell her and she would be cry and call me for answers, which I'd give her because now she knows and theres no point to lie. women are more hurt by the length and emotional aspects of the affair, she'd learn of us being together for 3 years and it would destroy her. she wouldn't divorce her husband though she would make him pay for it for the rest of his life even if he left her she would do all she could to pay him back. if he left her I still would not leave my relationship and I have told him so, yet he also says despite that when he leaves he knows he will never see his son again because she will use him against him, doesn't sound like the best plan to me to tell her. 4.Call him while he is sleeping with his wife and tell him to stop and come sleep with you. didn't you already ask that question? anyway the sleeping part, like I said I am sleeping with someone..it won't happen on my end. 5.Ask him to spend every holiday with you because you miss him/are lonely. I wouldn't do that either...that is just needy and kinda childish...there is nothing sexy about a woman who doesn't have a life outside of her relationship with a man..to me that is as unattractive as one could be. but to kinda answer your question, we plan a holiday day together and then one with our family's it works beautifully 6.Tell him you need some money out of his paycheck we always ask each other first when we need something. we are best friends as well as lovers..if I need money out of his pay check I will get it...and have. but he's loaded so that really doesn't matter and he as only gotten money from me once *shrugs* 7.Tell him you want to be the one to live in his house with him instead of the wife and kids. where are you coming up with this stuff? I don't want his wife's life, my life rocks! I have my own home and I don't need his home or would ever dream of putting his wife and child out on the street! you know you don't want to sound malicious but this question sure sounds like you believe OW/OM would be evil enough to do such a thing..wow 8.The list goes on... readers feel free to add... maybe your questions aren't geared toward me or something, but I have no idea why you think OW would want to do any of the questions you asked, seriously you really have this wrong. OW, when you conduct these experiments, let us know how it turns out. If you need support after you find your results, we will be here for you. Seriously, and if you are right, then no one can say you aren't then, right? let me just say something..no one should ever come before someones child and he and I would never dream of such a proposal. if one of us felt that way our relationship would already be over. we are not monsters Jinnah just two people who make each others lives better with each other in them we had our bout with leaving our significant others but we realise we have commitments and responsibilities to them and the life we created before we met. logic dictates most of my life despite that the relationship it's self was as illogical as it gets but we never intended for it to be as wonderful as it grew into, I'm sorry your views on these kinds of relationships are very skewed and i am guessing you'll never see my point of view. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 ... lets try an experiment! I am serious... this is for those of you who really think you are number one...let's find out if you are actually/factually no.1. This is not a malicious/sarcastic/sadistic post... I'm serious... this is just to see if your eyes need to be opened or if everyone else needs to shut up. Here's how: 1.Tell him to leave his BS and go live with you. 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. 3.Tell him you want his wife to know about you so you won't be the "dirty little secret" anymore. 4.Call him while he is sleeping with his wife and tell him to stop and come sleep with you. 5.Ask him to spend every holiday with you because you miss him/are lonely. 6.Tell him you need some money out of his paycheck 7.Tell him you want to be the one to live in his house with him instead of the wife and kids. 8.The list goes on... readers feel free to add... OW, when you conduct these experiments, let us know how it turns out. If you need support after you find your results, we will be here for you. Seriously, and if you are right, then no one can say you aren't then, right? sorry to burst your bubble, jinnah, but i would bet that most OW have said most of these things, and still have remained in the "relationship" even without the best results, with the hope that things will change. and even if they didn't, they will claim that they don't want these things anyway, just so they don't have to admit defeat. i am sure, actually, i know that there are women who have no problem dating a married man with no strings attached, but if every woman on here says she's happy with what she's got and doesn't want him for herself, someone is lying. in any case, i don't think you'll get any of the OW's here to admit they aren't number 1, because they don't want to admit it to you or anyone else...or themselves. i also think some of these OWs who post are the same person. just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 1.Tell him to leave his BS and go live with you. I don't want him(them) to leave his(their) family... I am single and never been sooo happy in my life... I don't want a man full time for now. 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. He does sometimes... but I am realistic about his family... I would not wake him up in the middle of the night... hell... I'm not crazy... I sleep too... 3.Tell him you want his wife to know about you so you won't be the "dirty little secret" anymore. No way... I'm not the dirty little secret...I'm the sexy little secret... LOL 4.Call him while he is sleeping with his wife and tell him to stop and come sleep with you. see no. 2 5.Ask him to spend every holiday with you because you miss him/are lonely. No.. I see my family and my kids on those occasions.. 6.Tell him you need some money out of his paycheck I make a lot of money... I don't need his... I get some 'benefit$' from the other MMs... not him... 7.Tell him you want to be the one to live in his house with him instead of the wife and kids. I don't want to live with him... or any other man. All those go for all my MMs... Link to post Share on other sites
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 I'm not number 1...his kids are. By the questions you ask, your assumption is that OW are in competition with W. You're wrong, in my case anyway. Want money out of his paycheck? Live in his house?? Where do you get this stuff from? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 I'm game, I enjoy questions let's give it a go.. I don't want him to leave her, he's asked me. Ive said no. I have another relationship as well, he has a child and his wife is very depressed, she doesn't need any more pain with a young child I won't be apart of that... . You just said you won't be a part in causing his wife anymore pain... too late... I guess you aren't the type who thinks they are number one... you already know you aren't... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 This thread is for the women who think they are number one. It clearly states that... P.S. Sleeping next to and with meant to different things... go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 sorry to burst your bubble, jinnah, but i would bet that most OW have said most of these things, and still have remained in the "relationship" even without the best results, with the hope that things will change. and even if they didn't, they will claim that they don't want these things anyway, just so they don't have to admit defeat. i am sure, actually, i know that there are women who have no problem dating a married man with no strings attached, but if every woman on here says she's happy with what she's got and doesn't want him for herself, someone is lying. in any case, i don't think you'll get any of the OW's here to admit they aren't number 1, because they don't want to admit it to you or anyone else...or themselves. i also think some of these OWs who post are the same person. just my opinion. You are right... I suspected as much! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 This thread is for the women who think they are number one. It clearly states that... P.S. Sleeping next to and with meant to different things... go figure. Excuse me, two different things... Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 ... lets try an experiment! I am serious... this is for those of you who really think you are number one...let's find out if you are actually/factually no.1. This is not a malicious/sarcastic/sadistic post... I'm serious... this is just to see if your eyes need to be opened or if everyone else needs to shut up. Here's how: 1.Tell him to leave his BS and go live with you. 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. 3.Tell him you want his wife to know about you so you won't be the "dirty little secret" anymore. 4.Call him while he is sleeping with his wife and tell him to stop and come sleep with you. 5.Ask him to spend every holiday with you because you miss him/are lonely. 6.Tell him you need some money out of his paycheck 7.Tell him you want to be the one to live in his house with him instead of the wife and kids. 8.The list goes on... readers feel free to add... OW, when you conduct these experiments, let us know how it turns out. If you need support after you find your results, we will be here for you. Seriously, and if you are right, then no one can say you aren't then, right? 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. Well I had this one in my court! I called mm neighbor over a at least 20 time's while sleeping next to the W and he ran right over. Is she that stupid?? For how many house hold emergancy's could I have had??? Yes she got wondering, however he still kept coming, strange IMO. I think she wonder's what went on during all those late nightt call's, but know's the truth and would not dare to ask. Just my 2 cent's! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jinnah Posted October 5, 2007 Author Share Posted October 5, 2007 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. Well I had this one in my court! I called mm neighbor over a at least 20 time's while sleeping next to the W and he ran right over. Is she that stupid?? For how many house hold emergancy's could I have had??? Yes she got wondering, however he still kept coming, strange IMO. I think she wonder's what went on during all those late nightt call's, but know's the truth and would not dare to ask. Just my 2 cent's! So you got one of them... doesn't prove you are number one. You still respect yourself after all this? Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 You just said you won't be a part in causing his wife anymore pain... too late... I guess you aren't the type who thinks they are number one... you already know you aren't... sigh...no one should be before children come on talk about this like a grown woman, you know better Link to post Share on other sites
lost4ever Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 for awhile he told me he was going to leave, I didn't want him to at first, then I started to love him and get angry that he was with her so I told him to tell her, he wouldn't, I am not number one, I admit it, his only number one is himself...I'm damn sure it's not his wife thats number one, And if she thinks or anyone else thinks he has the ability to care about anyone besides himself...they are seriously mistaken. btw, I agree these questions are skewed, what women would ask any man, just for fun, to do these things? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 2.Tell him to come over when you want him to, not when he can conveniently trick his wife... heck wake him up (while he is sleeping next to his wife) and tell him to come over right on the spot. Well I had this one in my court! I called mm neighbor over a at least 20 time's while sleeping next to the W and he ran right over. Is she that stupid?? For how many house hold emergancy's could I have had??? Yes she got wondering, however he still kept coming, strange IMO. I think she wonder's what went on during all those late nightt call's, but know's the truth and would not dare to ask. Just my 2 cent's! I'm curious... what went on during those late night calls???? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 In my cheater days, if someone pulled those questions on me I would have done one of two things: 1. If I was tired of the arrangement anyway, I would simply end the arrangement. 2. If I wanted to stay with them, I'd find a way to lie my way out of the questions, or give them an answer that would sound vaguely like what they want to hear without making any real promises and hope that would hold them for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 5, 2007 Share Posted October 5, 2007 I think it's way more difficult for a married woman to have an affair, especially if she has kids... in some cases, it's almost impossible. The only ones IMO who get away with it more easily are the women who travelled for work. Otherwise, if you're a SAHM..or working 9 to 5, it's extremely difficult... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 What if an OW's MM was hurt, or had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital. How many would actually 'be allowed' to visit him in the hospital? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 SAHM Okay folks, blonde moment here, no idea what SAHM means... Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 Stay At Home Mom Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 What if an OW's MM was hurt, or had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital. How many would actually 'be allowed' to visit him in the hospital? You know what... I am seeing a MM who, two years ago, thought he had something wrong with his heart and every time he'd come over, he would be scare to die while having sex with me... we even discussed it once... He is only 38.. LOL He had check-ups... etc... and he's OK... he is hypocondriac (sp)... LOL I think I would visit my MM (from work) ... because we work together... I would visit with colleagues... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 Usually when someone is very ill and/or had a heart attack, it's immediate family only. Stay At Home Mom Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
sadbuttrue Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 What if an OW's MM was hurt, or had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital. How many would actually 'be allowed' to visit him in the hospital? well i dont know if i would be "allowed" but i would definitelly be there. i would not be able to stay away. we are both in the healthcare field and i think i could find a way in to see him. at that point it would no longer matter if his W knew in my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 at that point it would no longer matter if his W knew in my opinion.And at THAT point, he might have another heart attack. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 at that point it would no longer matter if his W knew in my opinion. But it could matter to him. If he told you not to visit him, you'd have to stay away... Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 6, 2007 Share Posted October 6, 2007 And at THAT point, he might have another heart attack. that could be his 'coup fatal' Link to post Share on other sites
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