Help!!ineedsomeadvice!!

[Bmdragoo]

I am a 19 year old college student and one day when I was @ work met this really interesting guy came in shopping for his girl friend, but still I did not loose my hope I still went out of my way to help. Anyways..after that I never saw him again. Until..four months went by and the first day of my math class there he was. Thinking maybe it could me him I started conversation by saying, "Hey didn't you come into where I work shopping for your girl friend?" He said, "Yes how did you remember that?" and that is how everything got started. Well, 2 months has gone by and great conversations have come between us about his family and mine before class. There was even a time where I finished a test and left and he came out of his way to just ask how I did, and yes I thought he was going to say something else. Also one time where he said he came into my work looking for me and I was not there, and he sets near me in class. So I got up enough guts to invite him to Apple Bee's with a friend and she and I said no he had to go to his brothers. Weeks go by and we still talk and when we do it is good conversation. He also brought out pictures in his wallet, and shows me a pic of his mom. There was this prom pic in there and he said yeah there are some pictures of his ex. I was like oh is this the one that you where shopping for at Pac Sun and he was like yeah. This last week he asked me if the sweatshirts at work have went on sale and I said yes, and he said well let’s go. So we drove separately. On the way there I called my friend to ask him to come with us this Friday, but not to make it a big deal. Well, we arrive and we shop around for a while and then set with my friend to chat. She asks him to come and he said that sounds like something he might have to do. Well, the weekend goes by and he never calls. The next time in class he asked how did your weekend go and how was the party. I said it was ok and continued to talk. Then later on in class he said lets go to Pac Sun that is where I work and I was like are you driving and then we went together. We arrive there and we chat again with my friend for like 2 hours and he explains the reason that he did not go last time was because he really didn’t want to hang out with people he didn’t know. So then he proceeds to invite us to his hometown this weekend, just chat no plans. I have no idea what to do about this guy, is he interested??

[Bill]

Sounds like he is interested, but it could also be just a friends thing.

[yes]

you'll probably be able to tell if you go to his hometown - see how he treats you.

 

-yes

[brandi20]

I am a 19 year old college student and one day when I was @ work met this really interesting guy came in shopping for his girl friend, but still I did not loose my hope I still went out of my way to help. Anyways..after that I never saw him again. Until..four months went by and the first day of my math class there he was. Thinking maybe it could me him I started conversation by saying, "Hey didn't you come into where I work shopping for your girl friend?" He said, "Yes how did you remember that?" and that is how everything got started. Well, 2 months has gone by and great conversations have come between us about his family and mine before class. There was even a time where I finished a test and left and he came out of his way to just ask how I did, and yes I thought he was going to say something else. Also one time where he said he came into my work looking for me and I was not there, and he sets near me in class. So I got up enough guts to invite him to Apple Bee's with a friend and she and I said no he had to go to his brothers. Weeks go by and we still talk and when we do it is good conversation. He also brought out pictures in his wallet, and shows me a pic of his mom. There was this prom pic in there and he said yeah there are some pictures of his ex. I was like oh is this the one that you where shopping for at Pac Sun and he was like yeah. This last week he asked me if the sweatshirts at work have went on sale and I said yes, and he said well let’s go. So we drove separately. On the way there I called my friend to ask him to come with us this Friday, but not to make it a big deal. Well, we arrive and we shop around for a while and then set with my friend to chat. She asks him to come and he said that sounds like something he might have to do. Well, the weekend goes by and he never calls. The next time in class he asked how did your weekend go and how was the party. I said it was ok and continued to talk. Then later on in class he said lets go to Pac Sun that is where I work and I was like are you driving and then we went together. We arrive there and we chat again with my friend for like 2 hours and he explains the reason that he did not go last time was because he really didn’t want to hang out with people he didn’t know. So then he proceeds to invite us to his hometown this weekend, just chat no plans. Then the next time that I seen him outside of school in the parking lot he was like HEY WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT SKIPPING 1/2 WAY THROUGH CLASS AGAIN?? I was like YEAH if you are up for it I will we will have to go do something. He agreed and said that he was going to grap a bite to eat and that he would see me in class. Well, He NEVER showed up for class that day!! Maybe something happened, but is he interested???? Please HELP!!

[clia]

Why do I feel like I've seen this post before?

 

Is he interested?

 

No.

 

He doesn't exactly seem like he's dying to see you or anything. Look at it like this:

 

1. You asked him out to Applebee's and he said no.

 

2. Your friend asks him to come shop with you guys. He gives you an iffy answer, and never calls.

 

3. One time he went with you there, to skip class. BFD.

 

4. He mentions bringing you to his hometown. Nothing ever comes of it.

 

5. He asks you to skip class with him. He stands you up.

 

The fact that he talks to you in class from time to time is not indicative of him having any feelings for you beyond friendship. After all, you are sitting in class, and you are there. He has to make no effort to have conversation with you or to see you.

 

He may think you are a cool chick, but it seems like that is it from this end. Think about it. Don't you think that if this guy really liked you he'd be pursuing you at least a little bit? He's done nothing. He's given you some false promises, and that's about it. Nothing has happened.

 

I think you need to move on.