do you think some are too young for FWB?

[the_panda]

i'm just wondering what people think about teens that enter into friends with benefits (FWB) relationships.

is this something that you feel teens aren't mature enough to cope with, or do you think it's a good idea... bad idea... whatever.

 

just, what do you think?

 

thanks!

[cindy0039]

Having raised three boys into adulthood, I think I can offer an opinion on this subject. I don't think teenagers are mature enough to enter into sexual relationships PERIOD, let alone FWB type relationships. Although, if you really think about it, aren't all teen relationships just friendships? In most cases they're not lifelong relationships. I mean, it's not like teens end up marrying the ones they first sleep with -- at least not usually. I know it does happen, but not as a general rule. Having said that, I know it's not reasonable to assume that a teenager won't have sex, but the question was a hypothetical one, I think. My opinion is no, I don't think it's a good idea for teens to have FWB relationships because I don't think they should start a pattern of sleeping with people they don't have strong feelings for or just for sport. I think there should be more moral value to a relationship.

[Tony T]

YOU ASK: "i'm just wondering what people think about teens that enter into friends with benefits (FWB) relationships."

 

I think that if teens can enter into friendships that give paid vacations, 401K plans, good health insurance, sick leave and other great benefits...hell yeah, they should go for it!!!

[yes]

teens shouldn't be FWBing at all. What if she gets pregnant? a tiny teen? totally incapable of supporting a baby? that's nuts.

 

-yes

[Carly]

Oh my gosh, if an adult can't see clearly that FWBs run the risk of STD's like HIV. HPV, and PID, then where are their teens to get guidance?! And FYI:

 

Growing numbers of HIV/AIDS patients are young women! Shocking numbers of young women have the HPV virus (genital warts), which stays with them for life and leaves them at risk for cervical cancer. Herpes (another lifetime gift) is running rampant (genital and oral herpes are crossing boundaries, thanks to oral sex). Pelvic inflammatory disease PID is the leading cause of female infertility -- it's not the "stress of modern life," as some might want you to believe. "Safe sex" does not provide much protection from most of these dreadful diseases. And therapeutic abortions are awful to go through -- both emotionally and physically.

 

There are many websites and books on STDs (now sometimes called STI's, for sexually transmitted infections). Guide your teens to the medical sites with the coloured slides of pustuled, blistered, diseased genitals to get them out of the mood. There is a good book, 101 Reasons Not to Have Sex (Suan Proginy ??!), written for teens.

 

Carly

[cindy0039]

Thanks for your post, Carly and I totally agree with everything you said. Aside from the moral issue, the RESPONSIBILITY of having sex is huge and something a teenager is just not mature enough to handle.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

I'm studying a human sexuality course in college and it's FAR more comprehensive than the sex education courses they give in High School. I WISH the course I'm taking was available to students in junior high and high school. If more kids were thoroughly educated and not just superficially educated about sex and the benefits and consequences of sex, they probably would wait to have it. All they know is that if feels good. But there are SERIOUS responsibilities that come along with being sexually active. So no, I don't think that FWB is a good idea. There needs to be a physcial boundary between those we call just our friends and those who we enter romantic relationships with. Why confuse ourselves anymore???

[Ally Boo]

FWB's are hard enough on some ADULTS, much less teenagers.

[marie3332]

I think the FWB is okay. The problem is that young girls are not properly educated by their parents. Instead of preaching condoms and birth control pills, parents and schools preach abstinance. Teenagers are also embarassed to ask for birth control or ask their parents to take them to the gynocologist.

 

Also, teenagers think condoms are 99.9% effective against pregnancy. Yeah, in theory. In practice they are only 90% effective. Safe sex is more than condoms and we need to start teaching that to our children.

 

Also, if kids don't have sex in high school, they go wild in college. Combined with the drinking and lack of parents, the dangers of pregancy and STDs can be 10 times worse in college.

[yes]

I agree with marie### that keeping kids from having sex while they're teens makes them unleash wildly later on. It's best to educate them properly, and warn them, and then let it go.

 

I think Christianity is largely at fault for making sex seem like a shameful thing, frowned upon by the society.

 

-yes

[Carly]

Originally posted by marie3332

if kids don't have sex in high school, they go wild in college. Combined with the drinking and lack of parents, the dangers of pregancy and STDs can be 10 times worse in college.

 

This statement is absolutely wrong. In fact, the rate of all STD's is directly related to how young people first had sex. There are two reasons:

 

Contrary to Yes's personal theory, the research shows that the earlier you start sex in life, the MORE partners you will have in life, not less. The more partners you have, the more your risk of becoming infected wth an STD. That is easy to understand.

 

But here is a more mysterious yet SCARY fact:

 

Girls who start intercourse in their teens are at a higher risk of developing cervical cancer later on, even if their WHOLE REMAINING ADULT LIFE is spent celebate. It is now believed that the cervical cells during adolescence are more delicate and prone to permanent damage from intercourse that places you at risk for cancer later on.

 

Concerning HIV/AIDS, it is already well established that in African countries where girls are intiated into sex at a young age, their rates of HIV are almost equal to that of men.

 

But don't take my word for it. Go to any good sexual health site on the internet and find out the facts.