Woggle Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 My company is involved something called the LNP which is the Largest Networking Party every November and this year I am pretty much in charge of our booth and our presentation. It is being held at the Hyatt in a city called New Brunswick which is in New Jersey but it is a 3 hour drive from where I live which means I will be driving 6 hours there and back every day for a week because that is how long it will take to get everything running. The manager of the Hyat has offered me a hotal room for free so I don't have to drive that distance everyday but my wife can't come because of her work commitments. Would it bother you if your spouse left for a week like this for convenience? Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 My company is involved something called the LNP which is the Largest Networking Party every November and this year I am pretty much in charge of our booth and our presentation. It is being held at the Hyatt in a city called New Brunswick which is in New Jersey but it is a 3 hour drive from where I live which means I will be driving 6 hours there and back every day for a week because that is how long it will take to get everything running. The manager of the Hyat has offered me a hotal room for free so I don't have to drive that distance everyday but my wife can't come because of her work commitments. Would it bother you if your spouse left for a week like this for convenience? I would MUCH rather he stay at the hotel. It is so much safer than for him to be driving on the road 6 hours a day. Especially in New Jersey. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 It wouldn't bother me. My ex traveled like that a couple of times a year, and so does my current guy. I guess my question is: does it bother your wife? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 8, 2007 Author Share Posted October 8, 2007 I seriously doubt it would bother her. She is possesive about this stuff at all but for some reason I was feeling guilty about saying yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 It wouldn't bother me, and I agree with the other posters, it is much safer for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Missy27 Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 Nope ~ work is work is work ~ sometimes you just gotta do these things ~ thats life ~ anyways ~ it'll give you two a week apart ~ absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that ~ AND the re-uniting sex will be good ~ Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 no - it wouldn't bother me. as long as it's not every week - i say - go with the week for work and stay there. it's a very logical decision. leave your wife a sweet card and a box of chocolates or a small gift before you go... Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 My company is involved something called the LNP which is the Largest Networking Party every November and this year I am pretty much in charge of our booth and our presentation. It is being held at the Hyatt in a city called New Brunswick which is in New Jersey but it is a 3 hour drive from where I live which means I will be driving 6 hours there and back every day for a week because that is how long it will take to get everything running. The manager of the Hyat has offered me a hotal room for free so I don't have to drive that distance everyday but my wife can't come because of her work commitments. Would it bother you if your spouse left for a week like this for convenience? Absolutely not and if I was your W I'd tell you to stay at the hotel. That's insane driving back and forth. I have mandatory travel I do so twice a year I take off for things. And yes I go by myself. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 It's better and safer to stay in the hotel. To do a 6 hour round trip everyday is just nuts. If my H had to travel like that for a week, I would encourage him to stay in the hotel, though I'd miss him alot. But, with that being said, there's always the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 I'd also rather have my husband stay at the hotel because I wouldn't want him traveling like that, for that length of time every day. I would hope that he'd check in with me every night just so I could hear his voice, though ... Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 Would not bother me, either. My H travels much for work and I sometimes tell him to stay over an extra night if it makes him safer on the highway on the return trip. Not a big deal at all, in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 It wouldn't bother me. I;d rather have my Bf stay at a hotel a 6 hour a day drive is insane. i would call him at night to say I love you and goodnight. Link to post Share on other sites
Integra Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 I feel like it is much safer for H stay at the hotel instead of driving back and forth. My H also makes it a point (whenever something like this comes up) to make sure and stay in contact with me whenever possible. Just so I know that he is ok. Link to post Share on other sites
PollyIvy Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 Bother me? I'd love it. My H gets so stressed out with work and family life, I beg him to take some time away from us and he never does - because he feels so responsible! He did a week away once for work, and came back much less irritable with the kids and me than usual. It might be nice for you to miss her a bit, just don't come back from your week away tired or grouchy. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 I agree with all the other ladies- it is much safer for you to stay in the hotel than make a six hour drive every day. I would worry about the driving. Work happens, people travel for work. I would expect a call most nights, but other than that it wouldn't bother me at all, as I would have the TV remote to myself and could get away with having whatever I want for dinner. Link to post Share on other sites
Doody&Boo Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 Not at all. Mine travels every other week and has for 15 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 Not a bit. It's the only sensible solution. It would be unreasonable to resent or feel insecure about this, especially since it's her schedule that prevents her from being a part of this. Even if the offer wasn't on the table, it would be plain silly to have issues over this. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 It wouldn't bother me at all. Both my wife and I spent a number of years doing business travel - often a week at a time, at least several times a year. It's just how it works. I have this question, though: Does it bother you that you were given an apparently important responsibility to represent your company, and your company would not automatically pop for a hotel room for you? If I were an employer, and I were assigning an employee to be on site, 3 hours away, and making a good impression every day for a week, I would want him/her to be as prepared, rested and fresh as possible each day. As an employee, I expect to have reasonable accommodations when I am out representing the firm, and a 6-hour round trip each day is a little over the line for me. It's really cool of the manager to offer you the room for free, but I still think if this is a work assignment, I would have expected your company to pony up. Now, if I've misunderstood, and this is something you pitched and volunteered for, then maybe that's a little different. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 8, 2007 Share Posted October 8, 2007 I agree with everyone here. It's much safer to stay than drive those many, many miles. I'm going to a conference myself for work at the end of the month which will include two nights at a resort. Having JUST moved in with me, I was a bit reticent to ask my honey if he minded taking care of hearth and home (which includes my 13 year old son) while I was gone. He didn't understand why I was worried about asking him. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 Hey, Woggle - wasn't the 15th annual LNP held last month (9/18)? Maybe someone at your company is pulling a huge practical joke on you, and the Hyatt manager, while playing along, is feeling sorry for you, and that's why he offered you the free room... Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 I was going down the same path Trimmer did, in his first post. Why wouldn't your company pay for your room? That is absurd in my opinion. Furthermore I have never accepted a gift from a vendor, of any type - so I would be very reluctant to accept the room from the Hyatt - and your company should be concerned about conflict of interest as well. As far as your wife goes - it's business travel, what's the big deal?! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 for some reason I was feeling guilty about saying yes. Why do you feel guilty? What is it you're not revealing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 9, 2007 Author Share Posted October 9, 2007 Hey, Woggle - wasn't the 15th annual LNP held last month (9/18)? Maybe someone at your company is pulling a huge practical joke on you, and the Hyatt manager, while playing along, is feeling sorry for you, and that's why he offered you the free room... That was for the Middlesex county chamber of commerce which was held on the roof. I can't can't stand the president of that chamber so I am glad I am not dealing with them. Mine is participating in an event this November which is inside. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 9, 2007 Author Share Posted October 9, 2007 My company was expecting me to make the drive there and back everyday which was absurd. Believe it or not I deal with people who drive that distance everyday so I guess they didn't believe it was that odd. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted October 9, 2007 Share Posted October 9, 2007 Your wife will miss you I am sure but I find it hard to believe anyone would have a problem with this, work is work and you've got to do what you've got to do Enjoy your nice free room! Link to post Share on other sites
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