arnoldswife02 Posted April 25, 2003 Share Posted April 25, 2003 I have been married for almost a year now and my husband has been overseas or 6 months now. I personally like to watch pornos and like to go to strip clubs. I am not bi nor lesbian. I just like to go. My husband doesn't like anything. He don't even want to do it in our car. I really wish he could lighten up a little bit. I wish I could take him to the strip club and get him a lap dance. I don't think this would EVER happen! My question is: what should I do to get my husband to like porns and strip clubs. I know he won't cheat and I just want to try different things. Thanks for any suggestions! Arnoldswife Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 25, 2003 Share Posted April 25, 2003 YOU ASK: "what should I do to get my husband to like porns and strip clubs." You can't make anybody like anything they don't want to. Most women would praise God for a husband who wasn't into that stuff. What exactly is your objective? If you're wanting him to enjoy porn and strip clubs in order to be more excited about you, this is not the route to take. Considering he is overseas, the first thing you would do in order to get anything done is have him shipped back to your hometown. When he arrives at home, be wearing something sexy, put on some enticing music and give him a lap dance yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted April 25, 2003 Share Posted April 25, 2003 You WANT your husband to look at other women, and lust after women who rub their tits in his face, because this would make you more happier in your monogamous relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted April 25, 2003 Share Posted April 25, 2003 [color=indigo] Like Tony said, most women would be so thankful for a husband that wasn't into that stuff. Not all men are into porn and strip joints. I think the thing to examine here is why YOU enjoy that stuff. That isn't normal behavior for a woman so you need to dig deep into yourself and see why you are so adamant about getting your husband into it. [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted April 26, 2003 Share Posted April 26, 2003 Yeah, so? It's totally within his right not to have an interest in smut (porn) and an industry (strip bars) that objectifies women/degrades them. So what if he liked liver and you didn't, would you find it fair if he tried to pressure you into liking it? So you're all into these strip clubs. Why? I find myself wondering what business a wife has going to places like this (with tons of horny men) when her husband is not around? Can't ya take up knitting or something more intellectually stimulating? Furthermore, unlike yourself, perhaps he was raised to believe that smut and strippers were immoral....and if these "interests" were never his before you married, he's likely not going to adopt them now. And you shouldn't be trying to force them on him in the least. Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted May 23, 2003 Share Posted May 23, 2003 All of you should be ashamed of yourself for attacking this woman. HOW DARE YOU! Where do you get off telling her how to live her life? Maybe she doesn't believe in your God, or follow your "highest morale standards." She has a right to enjoy what she wants, and as long as its legal, and no one is harmed, don't become a fascist and force her into your ideals of a perfect woman. For the record, Stip clubs and pornography are legal. Most women in strip clubs are working there to put themselves thru college or take care of single children. Its not a way i would want to earn my keep, but they chose that lifestyle and they make a LOT of money from it. It does not sound like this woman is cheating. In fact it sounds like she very much loves her husband and wants to include him in activies she enjoys, WHILE spicing up their sex life arnoldswife : Forget about them. If your husband is ok with you going, and you don't lie about it, continue doing what makes you feel good. Understand tho some people, which is apparent from their point of view, don't like porn. If your husband is one of these people, it probably makes him very uncomfortable for him to join you in these activies. If he won't try with you, but he's ok with your continuation of them... oh well, its unfortunate, but you can't force it on him. Just like these people can't force their ideals onto you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Platoface Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 That won't cause ANY problems down the marriage road... Link to post Share on other sites
Lila Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 One of my guyfriends said his girlfriend goes with him to the strip clubs and she enjoys it. There is nothing wrong with a girl enjoying it. In fact, the guy and his friends always get more attention from the strippers with the presence of his girlfriend. You can't make your husband like anything. You just have to accept the fact that he isn't into everything that you are into. Link to post Share on other sites
Lila Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 My husband don't like porn or strip clubs! DOESN'T Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 I'd like to see your proof that "most" women working in strip clubs are there for the money for tuition or to help raise their kids. I highly DOUBT that it's most women. All I can say to the original poster is, you knew this before you married didn't you? It was okay with you then, why is it such a problem for you now? Respect your husband's choice. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine Posted September 12, 2003 Share Posted September 12, 2003 Why do you go to strip clubs with women? ... why not go an watch sexy looking men? ... and i have no idea why all these other women are attacking you for liking sex!!! .... there are lots of women who like porn ... are all these other women frigid? ... as for your husband ... not all guys are into porn etc ... you need to respect that .... to try to get him more interested ... do as someone already suggested ... dress sexy and treat him to a lap dance yourself. Finally ... this board demonstrates so many of the double gender standards in this world ... why is it okay for men to enjoy sexual activities yet women who do the same are seen as abnormal? Women are just as sexual as men .... they have been taught to supress it and fit into the ideal mould of the 'pure' christian woman ... which really doesn't exist ... and those women who insist that they fit the mould are either frigid and need medical help or have supressed their natural needs. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted September 17, 2003 Share Posted September 17, 2003 Originally posted by HokeyReligions I'd like to see your proof that "most" women working in strip clubs are there for the money for tuition or to help raise their kids. I highly DOUBT that it's most women. Why is it so hard for you to believe? Do you have pre concieved notion of what a stripper must be like? Do you know anyone who's worked in that job? Some are definatly paying for college, where else can you work for 4 or so hours a night and come home with $300+ to pay for college? Others have kids, others just ended up there etc. I've had a few freinds who've been there so there's some kinda proof for ya. Link to post Share on other sites
mate_you_in_fifty Posted September 20, 2003 Share Posted September 20, 2003 I personally think it's immoral for a man OR woman to go to strip clubs if they are married. It's another form of cheating. Plain and simple. If both husband and wife want to go,that's OK I guess,though I would still consider them very weird. But that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted September 21, 2003 Share Posted September 21, 2003 I personaly never been to one, but whats the point of going to a place like that .It just open doors that you dont want in your life.what if he becomes atracted to another woman,or just starts liking it there and going there after work (without you) would you think it was worth it. i think with all the problems of everyday living .thats not the thing you wanna do.BUT,thats just my thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Amyandjs Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 There is nothing wrong with a woman enjoying porn or going to stripclubs. Personally, it's not my cup of tea but I don't subscribe to the double standard. Arnoldswife: If that's what you like to do, talk to him and compromise. Do something for him that he likes. In a few years, you probably get tired of the club scene (like most guys eventually do) and will look back at this and laugh. Don't listen to anyone who puts you down, especially the spelling police. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 your crazy you want him to like those things Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 15, 2003 Share Posted October 15, 2003 Who or what is the spelling police???????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
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