I told his wife...

[hollaxatholly]

I haven't call him..or hounded him at all. I'm not quite ready to accept that it just might be over for good, but i do see it as a possibility, and i'm trying to accept it. Thanks for the advice though

 

 

I was dumped in college by a guy, and I didn't see it coming. In retrospect, I should have, but hey - de-nile is not just a river in Egypt, right?

 

Anyway, it drove me crazy! I became obsessed with the situation and I just knew, if he would sit down and rehash some things with me, that he would realize the error of his ways, and fall inextricably in love with me...

(Ahhhhhh, youth...)

 

Needless to say, he would not return my calls or speak with me. After about a month of me (shamelessly) hounding him, I finally, FINALLY snapped out of my foolishness and realized that, no matter what I thought we had had, it was now OVER, and there would be no going back. And it hurt my pride not insignificantly at the time, but I'm a wiser woman now, for it!

 

You see what I'm getting at, here?

 

I think LB has given, once again, extremely well-put advice. (Love ya, LB!)

OP, you need to take it to heart. It may take you some time, but do find a way to move on.

[hollaxatholly]

Agreed. I never once thought I should tell exmm's w and I was never tempted to do it out of revenge either. I do agree that she deserves to know the truth but that was up to him to tell her, IMO.

 

 

I know it was, I was probably wrong, but i can't change it now. She DID know, basically but I just confirmed it, so it's not like it just came out of the blue for her anyways. I just wanted to apoligize to her, which is what i did at first. i said i was sorry for lying to her for so long and that she deserved better than what we had treated her and that i loved her, and her family and i really didn't want to hurt them but sometimes things happen, that we never expect and that i hope she could forgive me some day or understand somehow, that i just believed everything he told me.