White Flower Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Thanks WhiteFlower I feel so glad that I joined LS, because I get this feeling that there are people whom I can count on to comfort even if the worst happens. I feel that way, too. It was so funny that that guy posted on one of your threads not to rely on the advice from people on the internet to solve your problems. I died laughing. I wanted to say, "Uh...so...why are you here and what is your purpose?" LOL. If he's reading this, hint: It's all about perspective! And some of us actually care, too:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseRen Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 I'm with Rose on this one - if it's what she's chosen, then giving it her all and making it work is what she needs to do, and what those who care should be helping her do, rather than questioning her decision and trying to convince her otherwise. It's an informed choice - she has the information, she's making the choice. It would be different if Rose was asking, should I dump the guy or keep him. Which is not to say that asking hard questions isn't constructive - getting someone to reflect on why they feel or want something can help too; but there are some posters who seem disappointed that Rose doesn't want to dump her husband and seem unwilling to accept that her decision to stick with the marriage is from a position of strength, not ot weakness. Strength, Rose - I hope it gets easier on the way forward. Thanks for understanding me and encouraging me! Hugggsss!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseRen Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 It's all about perspective! And some of us actually care, too:) I couldn't have agreed more. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Well, I respect your decision. I hope that your H puts in as much effort as you are to making it work. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseRen Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 Well, I respect your decision. I hope that your H puts in as much effort as you are to making it work. Good luck. Thanks SB. Hugggssss!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseRen Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 I am on top of the whole world. Guess what, he is here in UK, and as I write, preparing a wonderful breakfast for me. It all happened so suddenly, and I'm sorry to be letting you all know a little late. While we were on our break (not been talking to each other for a couple of fortnights since beginning of Dec) he had gone back to India. On 28th, my parents told me that he was getting legally divorced that day, but I didn't believe that because I hadn't heard from him. I thought, if it was true he would tell me first, in an attempt to make me feel secure. I had felt a bit confused and even scared then. I didn't even have a number I could contact him in India. I had come in to LS after that, but wasn't in a mind set to even post about it. I decided that I would just wait and see what happened. It was worth it... On New Year dawn, he was at my doorstep with a bunch of flowers and my favorite chocolate bar Their divorce was supposed to be a surprise to me. I have my therapies now and he is determined to be here with me during this period. This is the first time he is been with me during my therapy in UK. And it is not very easy for him. He is looking out for a job here, meanwhile, so that he can quit the one back in middle east and move in here permanently with me. We are also looking forward to getting married - again - sometime in June. He has got a few financial concerns which he needs to sort out. Convincing our parents is still the hardest part. Neither of our parents are happy about the fact that we got back together, and both of them blame me for the divorce. But I haven't given much heed to that. I'm glad I waited for him and gave him a second chance. Life is back to normal, though the last 7-8 months I thought I was going to die. I couldn't be more happy now. I want to thank all of you for being so supportive and helpful. LS is such a wonderful support system I had through all this. I never knew, until I came in here, a virtual hug would have so much of warmth in it. I would still come around once in a while I hope. Thanks again friends. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I am on top of the whole world. Guess what, he is here in UK, and as I write, preparing a wonderful breakfast for me. It all happened so suddenly, and I'm sorry to be letting you all know a little late. While we were on our break (not been talking to each other for a couple of fortnights since beginning of Dec) he had gone back to India. On 28th, my parents told me that he was getting legally divorced that day, but I didn't believe that because I hadn't heard from him. I thought, if it was true he would tell me first, in an attempt to make me feel secure. I had felt a bit confused and even scared then. I didn't even have a number I could contact him in India. I had come in to LS after that, but wasn't in a mind set to even post about it. I decided that I would just wait and see what happened. It was worth it... On New Year dawn, he was at my doorstep with a bunch of flowers and my favorite chocolate bar Their divorce was supposed to be a surprise to me. I have my therapies now and he is determined to be here with me during this period. This is the first time he is been with me during my therapy in UK. And it is not very easy for him. He is looking out for a job here, meanwhile, so that he can quit the one back in middle east and move in here permanently with me. We are also looking forward to getting married - again - sometime in June. He has got a few financial concerns which he needs to sort out. Convincing our parents is still the hardest part. Neither of our parents are happy about the fact that we got back together, and both of them blame me for the divorce. But I haven't given much heed to that. I'm glad I waited for him and gave him a second chance. Life is back to normal, though the last 7-8 months I thought I was going to die. I couldn't be more happy now. I want to thank all of you for being so supportive and helpful. LS is such a wonderful support system I had through all this. I never knew, until I came in here, a virtual hug would have so much of warmth in it. I would still come around once in a while I hope. Thanks again friends. WB Rose - I've been wondering how things are with you. This is great news indeed - I hope that he finds work quickly and you can settle down to the married life you've been denied for so long! (hugs) Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Rose I am so happy for you!! Best wishes on everything - your therapies, your H finding a job and settling in, your M working out better than ever, etc. What a long strange trip you've been on! We'll be here (with our usual strong opinions!) whenever you pop-in... -OpenBook Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Hi Rose! I am happy to hear your good news! Also, it's good that things are finally happening for you despite your parents' disagreements. Wishing you and him all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 I am on top of the whole world. I want to thank all of you for being so supportive and helpful. LS is such a wonderful support system I had through all this. I never knew, until I came in here, a virtual hug would have so much of warmth in it. I would still come around once in a while I hope. Thanks again friends. Glad to hear the wonderful news, RoseRen! I'm very happy for you. (((Hugs))) and best of luck, WF. Link to post Share on other sites
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