yes Posted April 27, 2003 Share Posted April 27, 2003 I just want to tell all the people who haven't tried the above two things... DO NOT try it! It's fun and dandy for a while, but it leaves you feeling nasty in the end... one day you realize that it's so far below you, it's not worth your dignity, not worth your time... I suppose this is a especially true for girls. I didn't believe people when they told me that you WILL get emotionally involved whether you want to or not. Guess what - I did! And it creeps up suddenly as ever, and you begin to get jealous, and you begin to worry, and then one day you think - WTF am i jealous about?? this guy is worth NADA ... And you feel so ashamed about people thinking you're a couple b/c they saw you together... All the stuff they tell you about being treated as good as you expect to be treated, - it's TRUE! Being treated badly doesn't hurt until those feelings suddenly creep up. This is becoming a rant, so i'll stop... but ladies... think a thousand times before you get into an FWB thing... even paying a male escort is better than that. But some people (like me) don't learn in any way except hands-on experience *sigh* have a good weekend everyone, -yes PS I just have to share this: for the past year or so, i depended on my (now ex) FWB to parallel-park my car downtown, because i couldn't do it. Well, tonight, I just re-learned to do it myself! Only took 15 mins of trying =) Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted April 27, 2003 Share Posted April 27, 2003 Told ya so. I think though, that no matter how much you hear this kind of stuff, you just have to go through it yourself to really realize it's true. Everyone thinks they are *different* and that they won't get emotionally involved. Then...Whoops! That's when you look back and have that "Doh!" Homer Simpson moment. Life is one great big learning experience! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted April 27, 2003 Author Share Posted April 27, 2003 i know clia, you did warn me very well! and i'm thankful - because at least it prepared me for the DOH. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted April 28, 2003 Share Posted April 28, 2003 I think an unspoken rule of FWB's is to not have one BE an ex. You can't HELP but get involved at some point. ESPECIALLY if the FWB relationship was better than the real thing...there's just no way you can talk your heart out of it. Sorry you're hurting. Link to post Share on other sites
badz2801 Posted April 28, 2003 Share Posted April 28, 2003 FWB does not seem to be as much of a problem for guys in my opinoin. There are ofcourse exceptions to this but most seem to be able to handle it. I use FWB to safeguard the possibility of being hurt, some would say this is shallow. I know going into FWB that I have no interest in dating the person and thus it never becomes a real relationship. I will end the FWB relationship before I become attached. Now I am dealing with the girl who is becoming attached to me. I have explained how it is over and over VERY clearly. I plan to end it soon as I do not think she can handle it. I would not know about FWB with an ex. Ex's are ex's for a reason. I don't talk, sleep, screw, associate or even acknowledge my ex's thus far (cant say I have ever broken up on good terms). The thing about becoming emotionally attached is that it will fade. If you become attached through sex it is 99.99% sure to fail, it did with me. Personally I don't care what other people think or feel about my business. That is high school B.S. that just adds stress + problems. Really you should not feel bad about it, well unless you dislike your actions. Dignity is a concept that you hold in your mind. People dont really care and often forget as if nothing happened. If they don't then they are way too caught up in their own little world or are jealous of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted April 29, 2003 Author Share Posted April 29, 2003 Badz, it's very true that this is diff-t fror guys. Gals also start FWB w/ guys they don't wanna date, but they later start overseeing the flaws, get attached, yada yada. Update: I talked to the guy, told him i'm not upto sex w/ anybody who's not my bf anymore, whether or not I have a bf at the time. He totally respected it - in fact he said he's happy for me, etc, and gave some advice about relationships. We're still gonna be friends. He said my friendship is more valuable than the sex - he can have sex w/ lotta gals, but a good friend is hard to find. Sounds good to me. If he said all that just to try and get me back into FWB, I'll cut it off, I'm prepared. If he tries to be my bf, I have a billion solid reasons that it's impossible. phew! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
stepwater Posted April 30, 2003 Share Posted April 30, 2003 Get ready to cut it off then.. the relationship of course. I’d be very surprised if his true intentions were friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted May 1, 2003 Author Share Posted May 1, 2003 Yeah, I also doubt it. But as long as he stays within the limits of friendship, I can't say anything, so I'll just wait & see. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
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