ninjaturtles Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 s ..i am desperate My boyfriend and I split a month back. We were together for 5 months or thereabout, yes not very long as i have been in much longer relationships, but trust me i believed this was the start of something special. I am 21 years and he is 21 as well. We cared about eachother so much or so i thought. We had a friendship aside from our relationship,, i trusted him and he seemed to value me so much. We indulged in sexual intercourse, he was my 2nd and for this reason i feel so attached to him. I cant believe he would leave me like this and behave as though i was so insignificant. He works in newcastle, and I am in reading(uk). He is on a placement there for a year, we had already made plans to be with eachother etc. Anyway he has not contacted me since the breakup. I wanted to write him a letter, telling him about how much pain i feel, and how much i trusted him . I gave myself to him, cooked for him, loved him. I did with him, things i was not wiling to do in previous relationships. I am not trying to win him back, i just want to post to him this letter and tell him i am moving on.maybe i should send my photo as well for keeps? But i am moving on..I just want him to know how i feel as although he knows i did not want the breakup, i did not show too much emotion regarding the way he hurt me. Pls dont tell me to write it and burn it. opinions plss. Thank you so much. Sally Link to post Share on other sites
tomwiz Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 For your closure, I'd say write it, send it, it will help you move on maybe, i wouldnt include your pic though Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 Pls dont tell me to write it and burn it. opinions plss. These two statements contradict each other. If you want the advice of people who have been there then you must listen with an open mind and not filter out the advice you don't want to hear. Advice which, much like medicine, doesn't taste good, but IS good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ninjaturtles Posted October 10, 2007 Author Share Posted October 10, 2007 yes you are right. I take that back..so whats your advice? thanks Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted October 10, 2007 Share Posted October 10, 2007 yes you are right. I take that back..so whats your advice? thanks Work on your self confidence and stick to no contact. You say so many things that are indicative of "door mat" behavior. "I gave myself to him, cooked for him, loved him. I did with him, things i was not wiling to do in previous relationships." Did you do these things expecting him to give back in return or did you do them because that is you by nature. Your last sentence tells me that you went beyond your normal behavior to "please" him and what it really did was push him away. No, do not send the letter. All it will do is cement the reasons in his mind why he left. What I would do, if I were you, is I would start going to the gym and doing cardio for 45 minutes a day. Exercise staves off depression. I would hang out with my friends as much as possible, pick up a few new hobbies and invest in myself. If you can't make yourself happy alone you will never make someone else happy in a relationship. Take the focus off your ex. What is done is done and you can't change it. And the longer you take to put the past away and focus on the future, the longer it will take for the right person to come into your life. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
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