claudia2000ca Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 Hey everyone I just wanted to get feed back from people about what they think. OK so its my friend's 20th birthday this sat and a bunch of us are going to a club including me and my bf...So im debating whether or not i should go due to the fact that im extremely insecure. There are gonna be so many hot girls there and i just get soo fustrated about my bf looking..(not that he does) i just think that he would. we've been to bars and other clubs but this one is classy and many good looking people go there. Soo many blondes that dress really sexy and skanky and i dont know what to do....!!! I have very low selfesteem which i hate that about myself, but if i go it would prevent me from having a good time because ill be focusing on every girl that walks by and thinking my bf is looking at her...so i know i would end up havng a lousy time...but then again i have to do something different with my bf and go out with my friends because me and my bf always stick together and never go out partying its always movie theatres and out to dinner!!!(just the two of us) not that there is something wrong with that but i dont want to bore him out. He says he really doesnt care and that he;s not a clubbing person but i just want to do it for him..you know try something new Can anyone please help me over come my problem!! Ill really appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 Go and face your fears. Wear something that you feel really good in, focus on the birthday girl, and have a good time dancing and flirting with your bf. If you enjoy your time together, he's not going to be focused on anyone else. Out of curiosity, how does a group of under-21 people go clubbing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author claudia2000ca Posted October 11, 2007 Author Share Posted October 11, 2007 Out of curiosity, how does a group of under-21 people go clubbing? I live in canada so the legal age here to go clubbing and to drink is 19. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 I live in canada so the legal age here to go clubbing and to drink is 19. Interesting. I'm not really sure why the drinking age in the US is 21, except they decided to make it a national law so all states would have the same age limit, and some states already had it 21. I don't know. It never made sense to me. Anyway, just keep in mind that your bf is with you because he loves YOU. Just seeing other girls isn't going to change his feelings for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author claudia2000ca Posted October 11, 2007 Author Share Posted October 11, 2007 the thing is norajane, that he has told me that many time but when we go out its never out of my head the fact that he would like to be with someone better looking than me. It its stories and scenarios i makeup in my mind that is why im soo insecure about who I am. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 Hello claudia...and you put up with that garbage? Why don't you tell him you would prefer to be with a hottie instead of him but you've decided to settle because he's okay for now... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 But he sees women every day! Some are prettier than you, some are not. But every day he chooses to be with you. So just because he happens to be around a bunch of women doesn't mean he's suddenly going to forget how much her loves your laugh, or the way your eyes shine when you smile at him, or the way you look at him and make him feel like he's the only man in the room... Your bf likes you for who you are. A bunch of shiny girls in fancy dresses aren't going to change that he likes to cuddle with YOU and you're the girl he wants to be with. AND, he likes the way you look. Guys don't date women they aren't attracted to. What IS unattractive, however, is insecurity and anxiety about who might be prettier than you and ruining a good time worrying about it. Don't think of it as going clubbing where he'll be around other girls. Think of it as going clubbing with the guy who loves you and wants to have fun with YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 Sorry claudia, I completely misread your post. Link to post Share on other sites
Author claudia2000ca Posted October 11, 2007 Author Share Posted October 11, 2007 Hello claudia...and you put up with that garbage? Why don't you tell him you would prefer to be with a hottie instead of him but you've decided to settle because he's okay for now... No! He is a sweetheart and I love him soo much and so does he, he reminds me of that everyday. Also..he is good looking and i know he gets checked out by other girls, but so do I get checked out by guys. what i said was that he is ok with us not going to clubs, but when we do i end up ruining the night because i fight with him over nothing and tell him im not having a good time just because there are pretty girls all around! Get it??? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 No! He is a sweetheart and I love him soo much and so does he, he reminds me of that everyday. Also..he is good looking and i know he gets checked out by other girls, but so do I get checked out by guys. what i said was that he is ok with us not going to clubs, but when we do i end up ruining the night because i fight with him over nothing and tell him im not having a good time just because there are pretty girls all around! Get it??? Refer to post #8.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author claudia2000ca Posted October 11, 2007 Author Share Posted October 11, 2007 Refer to post #8.... Yea dont worry i figured:p! ANy advice you can give me??? Link to post Share on other sites
woodsfield Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 be confident...don't worry about how others look. do your thing! show your man how you feel by enjoying the time with him while partying with the ladies and the rest will work itself out. Link to post Share on other sites
Capricorn Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 I know exactly how you feel, I'm the same way when I'm out in public with my man. You think that your guy is gonna see some skinnier or prettier girl and think the girl is better then you but in reality he thinks your the best cause he's with you. I'm glad to say the older I get the more confident I am. I still feel insecure at times though. Don't let anyone steal your confidence keep in mind you have good qualities that other girls don't have! Don't let other people ruin your night out with your man and your friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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