carl55 Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Hi everyone, I just found this forum and it seems to be what I was looking for, I've got this situation with this girl and i really need some input Here's the thing: I've been single for the past year. And the only reason for that is because i wasn't really interested in anyone. My last relationship lasted for 8 months and ended when her friends decided to tell me that she was cheating on me. But thats not the problem i got over that.( the girl im gona talk about i've always wanted to ask out, but never knew who she was and if i'd ever have the chance to again). Just recently while having coffee at a starbux this "girl" walked in. ( and i've seen her before, but never knew who she was) anyways i started asking around and got her name. Day's later i find out she studies in Europe and she's back in school already. So i got her email address and decided to talk to her online. So i added her to my list and we started talking but i didnt say the truth, when she asked where i got her email from i said, that i got it from email forwards. anyways we talk almost everyday online. but the thing is i still don't know a lot about her. i never know what to say. i always have trouble starting conversation. i mean we've talked about all the usual stuff but still . i basically ran out of topics to talk about. and i really dont want to lose this girl. she's perfect but i just don't know what to do nor say. she told me that she'll be back in town in December. Please tell me ur thoughts, what do you guys think. what shall i do Link to post Share on other sites
Author carl55 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Share Posted October 13, 2007 guys id really appreciate it if someone could help out Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 Good for you for actually pursuing her (by getting her email add). Most guys would've given up. Are you sure you want to be in a possible LDR with this girl (should it go anywhere)? Why not ask her if she wants to meet for coffee or something? Say something like, "I really enjoy talking to you...it'd be great if we could meet in person to chat." Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
JCD Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 My analysis is since you don't want to lose her, you are tailoring yourself to her and you're not being yourself for fear of her disliking you. Then you become self conscious and have a hard time being yourself with her and thus your convo lacks. My suggestion to you is to be yourself and see how it goes. Ultimately, you want to be yourself as playing someone you're not gets tiring after a while. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carl55 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Share Posted October 13, 2007 with ragards to oceans blue's comment- if she was in town than yeah id most probably do that. but problem is she isn't. she studies in another country. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carl55 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Share Posted October 13, 2007 Good for you for actually pursuing her (by getting her email add). Most guys would've given up. Are you sure you want to be in a possible LDR with this girl (should it go anywhere)? Why not ask her if she wants to meet for coffee or something? Say something like, "I really enjoy talking to you...it'd be great if we could meet in person to chat." Good luck. i can't do that she not in town. she studies abroad. but what do u mean am i sure that i want to be in a possible LDR? whats that? Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 i can't do that she not in town. she studies abroad. but what do u mean am i sure that i want to be in a possible LDR? whats that? A long distance relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Sean0775 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 If you told her anything that wasn't true I can't see it working. She'll eventually find out and question whether she really knows you or not. This will result in a host of other problems and eventually damn you to a nasty breakup even if the LDR does result in a regular relationship (not likely in most cases). Link to post Share on other sites
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