nicole_m Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Well I am only 20yrs old and I am in a relationship with a 26 yr old an we have a 8 month old baby togather. My problem is i dont trust him at all because of things he has done in the first few months of our relationshiop he lies about little no nothing things. I just dont know if i beleive love is real, every where you look all u see is people cheating and being unfaithful to their spouse. I need advice i want to know the signs of cheating and a mans advice of what u look for please help Link to post Share on other sites
Author nicole_m Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 [i dont know Link to post Share on other sites
Whyme_wtf Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Most cheating signs are obvious. Keep your eyes open and look for red flags. unexpected trips, work, activity out of the norm. defensive posturing to simple questions. New activities, clothing and a diminished sex drive can be an indicator. Cell phones and computer activity usually say it all nowadays. There should be no secrets. Do not say what you fear to them, because they will then know what to hide. If he has lied already about small stuff, how are you going to trust him with the big stuff? Don't get overly obbsesed with everything unless your gut says so. Your gut is usually right. Lay low, if it is there, it will rear its head out. If you have specifics, post them here and we will talk about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Faith4u Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Do you think he is cheating? Anyhow, you need to ask yourself first, are there big issues between the two of you that are unsolved? If yes, how long has it been? Also, you are young and have a baby so it is kind of tough to manage going through the youth and being a mother/father. In his case, maybe he feels that his young days are gone and is acting weird just because he is afraid. Just observe, is he happy around you? Does he make exuses to be elsewhere and not around you and the baby? These are pretty good signs that you can just see without much work. They tell you more about his behavior and you may want to discuss some with him without making a fight. Hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Well I am only 20yrs old and I am in a relationship with a 26 yr old an we have a 8 month old baby togather. My problem is i dont trust him at all because of things he has done in the first few months of our relationshiop he lies about little no nothing things. What did he do to lose your trust? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 One of the signs for cheating is inconsistency and someone who needs constant external validation, which is caused by a lower sense of self-esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nicole_m Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 Well when we first got togather, he was seeing this girl staying gone all night and lieing about being with her, i cought him red handed with her and oh his excuse was were just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
buckdawg Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 can i ask why did you stay? maybe take a look at yourself first, not saying it's your fault at all but there's a reason you chose to stay with someone you didn't trust Link to post Share on other sites
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