ronx7 Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I'm not sure how to go about this situation. Every month when I go and pay my water bill, I always have it in mind to ask out the secretary. This has been going on for about five months, and during that time I was involved in an off and on relationship, but the real reason that I haven't made a move is fear. I fear she has kids. I had a bad experience dating a woman who had a kid. We dated about three months, it was going good and then the baby's dad back around and all hell broke loose. I don't want to go through that again. It's a 50/50 chance that she has kids. There are two secretaries who work there but there's only one in at a given time. They both share the same desk which has a few framed baby pictures on it. I think the secretary I like has had some kind of crush on me to start with because she remembered my name the next time I came to pay my bill whereas most ppl have to give there billing number everytime. The last time I was there when the secretary went back to write my bill the admin lady smiled and pointed in the direction of secretary and was saying something for me to ask the secretary out, but I acted like I didn't understand. Now everyone out there knows. If I ask her out and she has kids and that's something I can't handle, I'll end up feeling like a jerk everyttime I go there. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Next time you're there, say something like, "cute pictures of your kids". The secretary who's there will then tell you if they are hers or if they belong to the other one. OR if they are neices and nephews. Link to post Share on other sites
Sean0775 Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Good to see I'm not the only one with a fear of dating single mothers. It doesn't matter how well things go between you and her, the kid is always the crux of the relationship. Don't get me wrong, I respect a woman putting her child's best interests first and would do the same in that position, but I'm not a fan of entering a relationship where the circumstances of success/failure are beyond my control. My last relationship ended due to issues with a child (long story short, the kid had behavior problems and didn't receive any discipline), and there's no way I'm taking that chance again and wasting another 4 months of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
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