Kenfgulp Posted April 29, 2003 Share Posted April 29, 2003 Lately i got some issues about myself... i dunno if its me or some curse has fell on me... In the past 1.5 year i had like 12 familiar situations that ended always in the same spot... they told me they got some crush on me... i went towards it.. after a couple of days they started to back up and i started to just freak out... i dunno if this might be a problem in me or its just bad luck... My ex-girlfriend (if i can call her like that) we were in a relationship for like 3\4 times.. the longest 1 was about a week and a half. I was totally in love with her... took me time to get over her... and met some girl when i was still in love with my ex... well that girl i met was the only girl i had good luck with... but i dumped her cause i was still in love with my ex. now im over my ex (it was like a year from now) and i still get this bad luck... i know myself pretty good... not from my point of view... from friends... im a decent person.. good in supporting and very good in giving advice... mature when not drunk... when sad im drunk alot... abit shy... sometimes comes out abit snobby cuz im shy... but thats only in meeting new people... Anyway i can continue typing until tommorow... i think it should be the best that i will stop now and let u reply.. plz help me ../ Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 29, 2003 Share Posted April 29, 2003 I think you fall in love way too quicklly....you move in too fast....you drink too much...and you may suffer from depression. (Alcohol is a depressant anyway.) Look into all these things, perhaps with a counsellor, and improve yourself as a person. You won't get anywhere in love until you straighten your act out. I haven't heard of anybody with experiences as bad as yours. You'll need professional help getting to the root of the problem and on your way to recovery. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kenfgulp Posted April 29, 2003 Author Share Posted April 29, 2003 About what u said of falling in love to easily... that is some how true... if u got any suggestions for helping that additude id' be glad.. and im not sure if it should be called falling in love.. maybe just a deep crush cuz i barely know the girls... its just that i got a crush on them... them on me... nothing special happened to part between us... i was kinda nice and optimistic... dunno whats the problem.. so when they retreat i just freak out of knowing what was wrong... mostly it was because they are still in love with someone else... some other reasons too... but im not sure about blaming myself About getting drunk too much... i drink like once or twice a month... but only when i go out to a place and i know that some girl that denied me even that they had a crush on me are there... Despresion is not my problem as well... i feel optimistic about everything that flows right... after a while that i see things not coming my why i get confused and then deppressed... and im pesimic only when a girl try to play it "hard to reach" or when i can rejected already on the same night... mostly i never get the girls i hit on (maybe im doing it wrong but i dont think so) and instead of that lots of girls seem to hit on me... Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted April 30, 2003 Share Posted April 30, 2003 You'll figure it out when the following happens to you enough times: Boy Meets Girl Boy and Girl fall into deep crushes with each other Boy and Girl profess their deep "love" Time goes on Boy realizes that as he gets to know her...the more he doesn't "like her" Boy gets confused bc he THOUGHT he was in love...how can his feelings change so fast. Girl has no idea that things aren't peachy. Boy realizes something must be done....FAST. Boy breaks her heart, Girl is confused. Boy feels very confused and decides maybe NEXT time things should go slower, so he can be sure about how he feels next time. Trust me, go through that at least once (more than once if you are a slow learner) and you'll find a new appreciation for slow relationships. I have a quote that I wrote that I've learned from experience. "Relationships that develop slowly are the most beautiful, because they have the time to get etched into your heart." Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kenfgulp Posted May 1, 2003 Author Share Posted May 1, 2003 Well thats whats funny... because about what u said its exactly the same... a girl comes and tells me she "loves" me ... i tell her i need time to think about it... a couple of days after she decides to give up... Once i went too fast... i thought that it was the problem so i started to take things slower... some girls thought that when i told them that i need time to think its more like a rejection... so i feel really confused about this.. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 1, 2003 Share Posted May 1, 2003 don't say time to THINK ... say time to let things flow, without rushing into anything. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
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