thisisarandomperson Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Well here i am. Im getting so peaved off that im resorting to self harm when im drunk. Well when im sober im a hard working and dedicated student in my second year at uni in the UK. It seems whenever im with alcohol im just let down by whoever im interested in. I was really into this Greek foreign exchange student who was in her first year, i helped her out to help her fit in and she seemed like she was giving off all the right signs/signals to show she was interested. She invites me to her bday party tonight, i turn up and notice she is getting a bit comfy with this greek friend of hers. I ask if they are an item, and she says they are since yesterday. So here i am peaved off for just not being attractive enough for women and not reciprocating towards this girl to show im interested in her. This sort of thing just happens to me so often it really gets me down. Everyone i know has a partner, yet i struggle to find anyone. Am i such an ugly person personality wise and physically that nobody wants me? I just feel like the ugly duckling, except with the happy ending nowhere in sight. I just feel like i want to give up. Maybe im just a fool. By nature, i am/want to be a traditional gentleman. I have plenty of friends, but i prefer to be a bit of a loner as i enjoy spending time alone thinking, etc. So im used to not having constant companionship from friends. It seems to me that nobody is ever into the type of guy that will treat them well anymore. They just want an easy lay. Why do i bother? I be a 'bad' person, i don't win any hearts. I be a nice person, i don't win any hearts. I be myself, i don't win any hearts. Am i such a failure that im going to end up like the 40-year old virgin? Link to post Share on other sites
peter333 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Ok firstly I have to say that no good ever comes from self harming. It is just stupid and you will end up regretting it later. About the girls, I think that it is just unlucky. I am also at uni and I’m in my second year, what I have learnt about students is that if you don’t make your intension clear they will see you as friends and you will get stuck in the friend zone very quickly. With these sign that you are talking about, are you sure that you are reading them correctly, if you are not used to dating they can be very confusing. With girls I have found out that is not really to do with looks but confidence, 30% looks 70% confidence, don’t be worried about what you look like, just be confident but not arrogant cos girls hate that. Uni is a really good place to meet girls especially on a student night out. Don’t worry if you are a virgin cos as long as you are trying to meet girls I bet you will defiantly meet one before the uni year ends. A really good way to meet someone is through one of your friends because they will not instantly blow you off, so you have at least some opportunity to use your charm. Lol. Also one other thing, don’t change your personality to suit someone else because if they don’t like who you are it’s not worth being with them, be yourself. Hope this helps Peter333 Link to post Share on other sites
Author thisisarandomperson Posted October 14, 2007 Author Share Posted October 14, 2007 Ok well im sober now. I think i overexaggered with the self-harming thing, its more like me just punching a brick wall till it feels better! Im not the sort of person to go slashing at my wrists, etc. Anyway i thought this girl was giving off the right signs anyway, she kept touching me, we regularly texted/email each other, etc. Well i may have blown it on friday because she went to say bye and then she sort of went to come close towards me but i just backed off. Then that night she got with that greek guy. Maybe i seemed to her i wasn't interested and she went with the Greek guy, or i just read it all completely wrong and she was into the Greek guy all that time. Well yeah there are plenty of girls around, but i don't go for anything that moves and shows interest in me. Im really picky about girls, so it hurts that bit more when you find someone and nothing ever happens. Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Do you have a question? Or is this just a rant? Link to post Share on other sites
Author thisisarandomperson Posted October 14, 2007 Author Share Posted October 14, 2007 Well i guess it is just a rant, sorry Link to post Share on other sites
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