She just got a cold sore...

[acerf1f2]

I've been dating the same girl for 3-4 years now. All of a sudden she got a cold sore but never had before when I have been with her. She says she used to get them when she was a kid. Simply put, is she cheating?

Thanks

[sb129]

While cold sores can be transmitted by kissing other people with them, they can also be transmitted by sharing a glass or can of drink with someone else.

 

You can get them from non-passionate kissing (ie kissing your grandma).

 

I think you need a bit more evidence- one cold sore is not enough evidence your GF is cheating, and if you confront her with it, I imagine her reaction will be less than favourable.

[White Flower]

While cold sores can be transmitted by kissing other people with them, they can also be transmitted by sharing a glass or can of drink with someone else.

 

You can get them from non-passionate kissing (ie kissing your grandma).

 

I think you need a bit more evidence- one cold sore is not enough evidence your GF is cheating, and if you confront her with it, I imagine her reaction will be less than favourable.

I didn't get them for years, but recently one emerged. And I thought those days were over, darn! Don't jump to conclusions, these viruses can go into remission for years and suddenly return. Good luck with your GF.

[norajane]

You really ought to do some research on medical sites and learn about cold sores. You are jumping to ridiculous conclusions - cold sores are transmitted very easily and I've read statistics from 60-80% of the population has been infected by them during their lifetimes. Break-outs are unpredictable. Some people, like YOU, for example, may be infected and not even get a break-out.

 

Unless you have some other CONCRETE reasons to think she is cheating, do not ruin your relationship by accusing her.

[sb129]

I didn't get them for years, but recently one emerged. And I thought those days were over, darn! Don't jump to conclusions, these viruses can go into remission for years and suddenly return. Good luck with your GF.

 

This is also true. I have never had one (thankfully!).

 

Thanks White Flower.

[acerf1f2]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I did research it a bit but wanted to post and get some opinions as well. I knew it could be dormant for awhile and come out but I just didn't know if being dormant for 4 years was out of the question.

[whichwayisup]

She also could have picked this up from work. I was extremely anal at my last job, everytime someone used my computer, desk, phone, I would wipe it down with lysol. No shi.t! EVERYONE I worked with eventually got a cold sore (everyone but me)...From sharing the phone! Using the same keyboard...It just happens.

 

I wouldn't assume she cheated on ya.

[RecordProducer]

She also could have picked this up from work. I was extremely anal at my last job, everytime someone used my computer, desk, phone, I would wipe it down with lysol. No shi.t! EVERYONE I worked with eventually got a cold sore (everyone but me)...From sharing the phone! Using the same keyboard...It just happens.

I can imagine what EVERYONE at work thought of you!

 

Recently I read that shopping carts are very dirty, dirtier than public bathrooms, full of germs. They advised to wipe the hold so I did it with Windex, cuz I didn't have wet wipes at the time. I was kinda embarassed to do that and made sure people didn't see it. Then my son said: "Are you nuts or something?" I never did it again. Ignorance is bliss.

[share&care]

This is also true. I have never had one (thankfully!).

 

Thanks White Flower.

 

Keep us posted.