Can extrovert and introvert have a lasting relationship?

[TheSilentType]

If their is an attraction between two people, but one is very introverted and the other is for the most part extroveretd do you think there is a chance for the relationship to work out?

 

Introverted mostly with other people, but not necessarily around the partner.

 

Should people even bother with this kind of relationship regardless of whatever attraction they have?

[wizer]

Yes, it can work but the introvert must be the girl and the extrovert the guy, because, speaking sexually, the guy gives it to the girl and the girl takes it.

[Spinderella]

No prizes for guessing who the introvert is, I suppose

 

Yes it can definetly work, provided they are fundamentally compatible.

[alterego1234]

My extrovert mother and introvert father just had their 44th wedding anniversary the other day. They've been reasonably happy together for that whole time.

[monkey00]

Well who knows, I think introvert guy and extrovert girl relationships could work pretty well. I know people who've been in those types of relationships before.

 

Disregarding which of the sexes is introvert/extravert, i think it only becomes a problem if the opposite personalities have conflicts of interest - one wanting to do what the other doesn't and vice versa.

[wizer]

My post about the man being the extrovert due to sexual reasons was said "tongue in cheek".

[sunshinegirl]

My boyfriend is much more introverted than I am, but not so much so that social events are painful or stressful for him. For example, we threw a party Friday night - it was mostly my friends there as I have a wider social network than he does - but he was perfectly comfortable playing host and making capirihinas in the kitchen, chatting with people as they came through.

 

By the same token, I have a well-developed extraverted side but I am by nature an introvert - so I understand and share his need for quiet, silence, and 'down time'.

 

My guess is that an extreme extravert and an extreme introvert are unlikely to be a good match.

[fudge_cake_89]

There are always going to be good points and bad points. but speaking from experience it does cause more longterm problems than good things occuring.

1) jealousy - over confidence, speaking to the opposite sex,

2) the insecurities of the introvert can put strain on the extrovert as they will always have to reasure the introvert.

3) its usually the extrovert that has given into the introvert in relationship forming, meaning the introvert likes the extrovert more, and therefore putting more into the relationship as they are greatful for not being rejected and want to hold on to what they have. which puts pressure on the extrovert to try and act up to the levels of affection, when they dont really feel the same way.

 

maybe thats just me.

[sunshinegirl]

2) the insecurities of the introvert can put strain on the extrovert as they will always have to reasure the introvert.

 

Introverts are not necessarily insecure.