mikeraw Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Hello, all. I've always known that dating girls you meet at clubs and/or bars is not a great idea, but where else can I meet decent girls? I've been doing a lot of thinking about my life lately and I reached the conclusion that I have to stop dating girls that I meet at bars. It's just not healthy, I think. I'm an engineer, well-read, classical pianist, guitarist, amateur astronomer, etc... so it's really frustrating when I start a conversation with a girl and she knows nothing of value, nothing interesting. I found that older women stimulate me mentally, but I'm 27. I want someone around my age. Preferably at least 4 years younger, but around my age. I don't think it's too ethical to pick up chicks at church. And somehow I get the idea that girls at museums or art galleries don't want to be bothered. And the public library? Who goes to those anymore what with the internet and all? So are there any public places where I can meet decent girls? Thanks in advance for your suggestions! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 Hello, all. I've always known that dating girls you meet at clubs and/or bars is not a great idea, but where else can I meet decent girls? I've been doing a lot of thinking about my life lately and I reached the conclusion that I have to stop dating girls that I meet at bars. It's just not healthy, I think. I'm an engineer, well-read, classical pianist, guitarist, amateur astronomer, etc... so it's really frustrating when I start a conversation with a girl and she knows nothing of value, nothing interesting. I found that older women stimulate me mentally, but I'm 27. I want someone around my age. Preferably at least 4 years younger, but around my age. I don't think it's too ethical to pick up chicks at church. And somehow I get the idea that girls at museums or art galleries don't want to be bothered. And the public library? Who goes to those anymore what with the internet and all? So are there any public places where I can meet decent girls? Thanks in advance for your suggestions! My thought is that most of the females in bars wish they could meet nice guys elsewhere. Fact is, you can meet females anytime, anywhere. Office buildings, supermarkets, parks, church, concerts, lectures, art shows, etc., etc. They are simply all over the place. All it takes is the confidence to walk up to them and the willingness to sustain a little rejection here and there....and, when that happens, remember they are NOT rejecting you personally. They don't even know you at that point. Link to post Share on other sites
BChris66 Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Sort of weird, i was just thinking the exact same thing today, women in bars / clubs are not a good idea, I recommend guitar / music shops myself, picked up one or two girls with my Guns n Roses Sweet child 'o mine intro riff. Music shops are good too if you see a girl browsing through your favorite genre of music, an instant conversation starter. Coffee shops are good too. Just keep your eyes open and always be ready to jump in at a moments notice. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 mikeraw, What happened to the girl you told us you just got back with? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeraw Posted October 24, 2007 Author Share Posted October 24, 2007 Oh yeah, that one... kinda fizzled out... I don't feel as bad as I thought I was going to feel because I gave it my all and she gave me a chance. We're on friendly terms now when we see each other in public, which strangely has been happening more frequently now, but neither of us calls each other and there's nothing beyond a brief, polite exchange before we both move on to other people... At least it was a civilized closure. Link to post Share on other sites
ddnnee Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 have you gone abroad? i hear many sucess stories from men who go to another country to find a mate. many say girls in other countries are much better than the stuck up feminazi here in america. i am planning to visit japan/china/korea when i settle down here in us. i can't imagine my self with an american chick. its unhealthy for me and my wallet. my estate will be at risk. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 Get friends to set you up. People have a surprisingly large net of acquantainces, and that's really all a potential date has to be for a friend to introduce you. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 If you haven't found one yet, how can you be so sure they even exist?? Hah! They do. I definitely think bars/clubs lower your chances of finding one greatly, but what they lack in quality, the make up for in numbers. You just have to do more sifting through them. I'd say look for the quieter ones that are there with their wild friends. Other than that, sounds like you need to be looking wherever it is that you enjoy your hobbies. If that's at home, start searching for places/people to do them with, and let people know that you are available. Link to post Share on other sites
FleshNBones Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 have you gone abroad? i hear many sucess stories from men who go to another country to find a mate. many say girls in other countries are much better than the stuck up feminazi here in america. i am planning to visit japan/china/korea when i settle down here in us. i can't imagine my self with an american chick. its unhealthy for me and my wallet. my estate will be at risk.It works both ways. I heard horror stories of American women finding husbands abroad only to find out that the guys can't afford them. I share your feelings when it comes to money. I don't want to give up my positive cash flow for a woman. I don't know about Japan. I'm sure there are plenty of women there with a taste for the exotic (American), but I'm not sure how many are willing to commit. China has a problem with the ratio of Women to Men. I don't know how the men will treat you. Oppression does humble people so you probably won't have much trouble find a good woman. Link to post Share on other sites
BChris66 Posted October 28, 2007 Share Posted October 28, 2007 Lots of good suggestions here, and some quite relevant to myself recently, a Filipino work mate of mine recently passed my email to a girl he knows in the Phillipines and she is, apparently very keen to meet me after chatting on messenger, so I know where I'm going for my holidays next year. Sometimes finding a nice girl takes odd turns, i was out in a dance club last night with some friends (I never, ever go to dance clubs Btw) and realised how stuck up Irish women are, so I'll definetly not be looking for a nice girl in a bar or club again. I hear a lot of Japanese girls are now actively seeking out US / European men for husbands, however their standards are very high as they are highly educated and high earning, so always seek someone of similar or higher status to themselves. ie. You need a Bentley or Aston Martin in the drive to get a look in. Link to post Share on other sites
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