quizlady Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 Why do you feel its so hard for spouses to believe their spouses can love or fall in love with another person? You can't guard your heart like you would guard a house. And it is not difficult to see the same traits in other men/women that we saw and grew to love in our spouses...is it wrong to love others or should we fear, be ashamed of those feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 I guess when people are standing up before God, family, peers and friends and they exchange a promise to 'forsake all others' in the bond of marriage, a lot of people tend to take that promise pretty seriously, and live by it themselves. They assume their spouse is too. When their spouse does not live by that promise, they are blindsided. They kept the promise - why couldn't their spouse? That's an oversimplified way of looking at it, I guess. is it wrong to love others or should we fear, be ashamed of those feelings? What is wrong is being married, and making yourself available for someone else to fall in love with you, and putting yourself in a mental and emotional position to fall in love with someone else. They say you can't help who you fall in love with, but you can darn well help how you got yourself there. Should you fear or be ashamed of falling in love? No, but you should fear and be ashamed of willingly and knowingly taking the actions to make it happen behind your spouse's back. If you find your heart wandering, and you know you are out of love with your spouse and want to be in love with someone else, then end the promise you made to your spouse instead of breaking it. Both will hurt, but having a promise ended honorably is much better than one broken with no honor. Link to post Share on other sites
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