AJS Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 How evil can you be to do this to another person you don't even know? You did this to yourself DD, why do you want to hurt his W? You made the choice to go into this A, can't you just accept that and move on? Have you really thought about what can happen if you do this? Don't be so quick on this, what if his W uses that tape against you? Do you want to see yourself having sex all over the internet? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Thanks for the advice all and I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, but just in case, I've set my plan into motion. ESPECIALLY to hold something over his head in CASE he does plan to fire me and I cannot find another equal paying job. My mm called me tonight and apologized for his behavior after i left a message to him in an upset and tearful tone. We he returned my call, I told him i wanted closure and one last night with him. Well, he was weary and uncertain so I will push more during another conversation. I already selected the hotel I'll be making reservations at for my sex tape plans if he eventually agrees to my proposal. Wow how original Seriously, you aren't going to gain anything by letting her know of the affiar, and you certainly won't get him back because he will hate you after you destroy his family. I still have doubts as to whether or not you are for real or just yanking our chain, but seriously you have become obesessed and sitting on your ass thinking up ways to make another persons life miserable jus shows you need an actual life. It is sad and pathetic and you need help. Life is not a soap opera, you can't be a total bitch, ruin someones life, and then have the man fall in love with you anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 How evil can you be to do this to another person you don't even know? You did this to yourself DD, why do you want to hurt his W? You made the choice to go into this A, can't you just accept that and move on? Have you really thought about what can happen if you do this? Don't be so quick on this, what if his W uses that tape against you? Do you want to see yourself having sex all over the internet? Thanks for the input. I'll make sure to blurr out my face on the final copy. Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Thanks for being such a twit and answering my questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 Personal attacks/name-calling is unnecessary and juvenile. If you cannot control that side of you, please don't post on my thread. THANKS! Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Thanks for being such a twit and answering my questions. twit... I haven't heard that in ages Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 Wow how original Seriously, you aren't going to gain anything by letting her know of the affiar, and you certainly won't get him back because he will hate you after you destroy his family. I still have doubts as to whether or not you are for real or just yanking our chain, but seriously you have become obesessed and sitting on your ass thinking up ways to make another persons life miserable jus shows you need an actual life. It is sad and pathetic and you need help. Life is not a soap opera, you can't be a total bitch, ruin someones life, and then have the man fall in love with you anyway. Let's see, you are obsessed with another stranger's life on the internet, plop your big butt down on the computer for hours on end to criticize and swear at people, have the propensity to name-call as well like a child. Real nice life you have there coco. Good luck with that and living vicariously. Sounds like you live a very boring and unfulfilling life.. I understand why you are so bitter. CIAO Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Let's see, you are obsessed with another stranger's life on the internet, plop your big butt down on the computer for hours on end to criticize and swear at people, have the propensity to name-call as well like a child. Real nice life you have there coco. Good luck with that and living vicariously. Sounds like you live a very boring and unfulfilling life.. I understand why you are so bitter. CIAO - At least my "obsession" with johan is pretend, a little friendly banter won't hurt anone. You actually physically stalk another person. - I have a rather small behind thank you very much. - I actually work long hours and if I want to use some of my down time during my work hours on this forum then I think that is my perogative. Better then spending it trying to decide whose bones I will jump next. - Somehow I would think calling someone one word is better then sleeping with someone else's husband So don't talk down to me like you have nothing to be ashamed of. - I actually have a nice life. I have a family, alot of friends, a great bf and I am only 20 so I would bet I have far more great things ahead of me then you do. - I do not live vicariously through anyone, I have a very fullfilling life and one I don't need to fill with bitterness and anger towards a woman whom has done nothing wrong to me, nor even think of doing something as disgusting as have sex for the sole purpose of revenge. - I am too young to be bitter over anything Just thought I would mention, seeing as you are so insistent that name calling is childish, perhaps you shouldn't have used the last word in the title for this thread. Or is it okay because you used dollar signs? Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Coco, you rock. I am older and as much as I may have been through, reading stuff like this makes me thankful that I am not that bitter. Although, I would never knowingly put myself into the vortex of certain drama of this sort. Doll, if you do this you will come out the other end more hollow, depressed and alone then you are now. Why the need to take out your pain on others? Why sabatoge anything good that you are presented with? You should address that. Of course you won't and you will go through with your plan. I look forward to the result thread, where it did not quite leave you feeling as satisfied as you thought it should. Don't worry, I won't post to it. I will just read it with a ...you deserved it feeling. Good luck with the destruction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 And how do you suggest I tell his wife? In what manner If I decide to do this? Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 And how do you suggest I tell his wife? In what manner If I decide to do this? Letter or phone call. I wouldn't do it in person because she may go bonkers on you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 When I get angry enough like I have been the past two days, I scream into my pillow. I don't think I'm going to take any actions until I cool down. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 When I get angry enough like I have been the past two days, I scream into my pillow. I don't think I'm going to take any actions until I cool down. Go into it with a cool head. Calm down first. See? Its not that hard to have a mature conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarlingDoll Posted October 16, 2007 Author Share Posted October 16, 2007 Go into it with a cool head. Calm down first. See? Its not that hard to have a mature conversation. Well I'm an emotional wreck and sometimes intelligence, maturity, and even sanity are thrown out the window in those situations. The most disgusting thing about this whole mess is that I was more emotionally entwined with this man that I thought or would have liked to be. Probably because he treated me the best while we were together. All the GOOD men are married. Maybe that's another reason I'm drawn to them. Although many wouldn't consider a good man to be a cheater.. probably true.. but comparing them to the single men out there makes some of these mm look angelic. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Well I'm an emotional wreck and sometimes intelligence AND maturity are thrown out the window in those situations. The most disgusting thing about this whole mess is that I was more emotionally entwined with this man that I thought or would have liked to be. Probably because he treated me the best while we were together. All the GOOD men are married. Maybe that's another reason I'm drawn to them. Although many wouldn't consider a good man to be a cheater.. probably true.. but comparing them to the single men out there makes some of these mm look angelic. IMO, he is not such a good man if he willing to cheat on his W, but personal issues aside. If you get that way, then write a letter. Take your time writing it out. Write down rational thoughts only. With writing a letter, you can say what you want and erase what you don't want to say. Gives you plenty of time to proofread it and you don't have to turn the letter over to her until you are ready. Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 I'm sorry DD, but what you are planning to do is " juvenile" IMO. Calling you a twit on the other hand was a personal choice, and I might add meant to be offensive. I'm sorry you are wallowing in self pity at the moment, but come on lady, you are taking this to extreme limits!!! You don't seem to be taking responsibility for your part in this. It's NOT all his fault, you KNEW he was married. Stop and think about that. Link to post Share on other sites
SoxPrincess Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 DD makes Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction look like Mary friggin' Poppins As I said before, get some help. Think seriously about what you're considering doing before you do it; look at all side of it. I guarantee you won't just be hurting someone else (& his wife), what could end up happening to you could be 100% worse. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 DD, you said in another thread that this was your fourth MM relationship, and you are currently seeing another MM in addition to this one. Why is this particular MM, out of all the others making you want to seek such revenge? Link to post Share on other sites
child_of_isis Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Better be careful...a judge may consider this blackmail. Also, doing this to a boss, could get you blacklisted from the work force. Even more so if the guy is well connected.Thanks for the advice all and I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, but just in case, I've set my plan into motion. ESPECIALLY to hold something over his head in CASE he does plan to fire me and I cannot find another equal paying job. . Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Also, doing this to a boss, could get you blacklisted from the work force. Even more so if the guy is well connected. I'm assuming, DD, that you're not expecting a reference from your boss EVER in the future? Or any of your colleagues? This can so backfire. You really need to think it through beforehand. You might wreck his marriage, but you're looking set to wreck your FUTURE. Link to post Share on other sites
child_of_isis Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 This job will have to be used as work history. The new employer will contact "boss" for verification.... we all know the rest of the story. I'm assuming, DD, that you're not expecting a reference from your boss EVER in the future? Or any of your colleagues? This can so backfire. You really need to think it through beforehand. You might wreck his marriage, but you're looking set to wreck your FUTURE. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 If you go through with this, just keep in mind that there ARE consquences to every action...And, you may ruin your own life, your reputation, both personal and professional. People talk, gossip etc., so please keep that in mind. Your intent may be one thing, but the opposite could actually happen... Honestly, think about this for a while, get some counselling because you're hellbent on doing something that I think will mess YOU up for a long, long time. Link to post Share on other sites
redfathom Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Okay, I am going to be rude, so prepare yourself! This is quoted from your post on how to hint at your MM that you need him to help pay for your mortgage. Sure, but what else would children be used for? Women have children every day to insure their needs and lifestyle be taken care of, as well as to link a chain to the hubby for life. Are you so incompetant at being a human being that you need to bring an innocent child into your life in order to get a man that already has a wife and kids to be with you to secure your future financially. If you can't afford your mortgage and car payments then do what most cival people would do and sell them and get something you can afford. Spend more time focusing on the job you were hired to do and less time banging the boss and maybe you could get a raise. You said you changed careers's, what did you go from being a waitress to a gold digger, cause that is what you have become. You're freakin' 30 years old. Grow up. If you go through with this just know there is a place where people will take care of you, feed you, pay for the roof over your head and clothes - it's call prison. You only get one life, is this how you want to be remembered. Because all people will remember you for is: bitter, desperate, needy, gold digging, shallow, callous and many other HORRIBLE things. Why not be remembered for good things, walk away from this and start over. Become a good person! Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 Okay, I am going to be rude, so prepare yourself! This is quoted from your post on how to hint at your MM that you need him to help pay for your mortgage. Sure, but what else would children be used for? Women have children every day to insure their needs and lifestyle be taken care of, as well as to link a chain to the hubby for life. Are you so incompetant at being a human being that you need to bring an innocent child into your life in order to get a man that already has a wife and kids to be with you to secure your future financially. If you can't afford your mortgage and car payments then do what most cival people would do and sell them and get something you can afford. Spend more time focusing on the job you were hired to do and less time banging the boss and maybe you could get a raise. You said you changed careers's, what did you go from being a waitress to a gold digger, cause that is what you have become. You're freakin' 30 years old. Grow up. If you go through with this just know there is a place where people will take care of you, feed you, pay for the roof over your head and clothes - it's call prison. You only get one life, is this how you want to be remembered. Because all people will remember you for is: bitter, desperate, needy, gold digging, shallow, callous and many other HORRIBLE things. Why not be remembered for good things, walk away from this and start over. Become a good person! Awesome post redfathom!! Awesome! Tf Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 To the OP: Hon, you really need to evaluate your life and yourself as a person. Now please understand that I know how PO'd the other sex can make us females from time to time. Knowing this, I would have been sympathetic to how you are feeling. However, I, too, read your first thread. I almost gasped out loud at the complete disregard for any other human being on this planet that your post implied you display on a day to day basis. And this from your own words. You need to look inward. What do you see? Do you like what you see? Can you possibly have any true friends, the way you behave and think? Really? Link to post Share on other sites
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