does he still love me? will he want me back?

[ankka13]

hi everyone

 

I hope you ll make an idea of my situation after briefly describing it.I went out with my boyfriend for two years .We were very in love spent all the time together , we argued a lot out of jelousy from both sides and he broke up with me two months ago ,due to our diffrences and because we had major problems with both our families who were against us.He is younger than me and he is not independent yet . In these two months of break up we did many hurtful things to one another ,He started getting close to his ex (the girl he dumped to be with me ).He knew how that bothered me ,that girls was an issue in our relationship too .After i saw them getting closer together i started hanging out with a guy who had a crush on me and he knew it and was very jelous of him during our relationship.when he saw that he startes calling me and naming me all sorts and i said i am not doing anything else than he does with his ex . Then one night he called the guy i was seeing and called him names and told him to leave me alone .The guy told him that we could date or sleep with each other and that would be none of his bussiness.So my ex saw him in a bar and wanted to throw a bottle at him .I was very mad for his behaviour and i told him to leave me alone , go and date his ex girlfriend cause i want to be with this guy and i am completely over him .Of course i was lying out of hurt cause he did not stop seeing his ex gf.So 2 weeks ago i saw them together as a couple holding hands and kissing and he did not call me ever since .i was so hurt and i cryed all the nights imagining them together .Yet he attempted to contact me 2 times to tell me that he knows i am still seeing the other guy and that he wont go out anymore for fear of seeing me and him together. He never goes out since he is with his ex girlfriend she spends all his free time at her house and he avoids me . He wrote to me that he wants it this way , that he doe not love her yet , but he wants to forget me and not be hurt by seeing me with this other boy .I want him back so badly and i assumed that seeing me with him would make him realise he is loosing me not run in this girls arms .what should i do to make him realise that we are meant for each other .Or do you think he loves her ? he wants me out for good ? will he forget me being with her ? need urgent advice please. i am going crazy .This new boy and i are just friends , we havent even touched each other we just hang out in the same group and i was doing it for him to find out . please i need an advice.

 

Thanks a lot

[DH27]

Well it sounds like he still has feelings for you. He gets jealous over this other guy pretty seriously and easily. Have you tried telling him how you feel? It sounds to me like you're putting up this front that you have completely moved on (seeing this new guy, telling him you've moved on). So obviously he's gonna try to move on also. He probably has no idea how you feel about this whole situation, so why not tell him? I would tell him how you feel, and then let him make the first move, because if he still does have feelings for you, after hearing that you still love him will make him do something about it.

 

I'm not even really sure why you two broke up? It sounds like you had a couple scuffles, some arguments every now and then. These can be worked out. You two just need to compromise a little bit for each other and these arguments wouldn't happen.

 

Good Luck!

[ankka13]

please give me some advice .How should i behave .we spoke last night amd he said he cant speak to me anymore , he wants no contact cause he is hurting when i am arround and he wants us to be over and he does what is best for him .That girls helps him make this transition easier , he still has feelings for me. But then how can he just shut me out totally . I could have been his friend accepting his relationship with the girl althouh it hurt .He cant accept to see me in that boys compony even though i am not in a relationship with that boy so we are not holding hands or kissing in public.But this also too much for himand he wants to never see me again only by accident and once a wee when we have rehearsals together.But at the reharsal he is with his new girl friend .Please tell me what shoud i do ? i just simply cry and do nothing since our last talk . I am a mess devastated and back to where i was when the break up took place . So hurt . How can he be so cold?