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[lost4ever]

So I think I told you all that my xmm and I work fr the same company, but different identities for the company, and that he was fired (HA, Still loving it) anyways today the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Thought I would share

 

and now that I said it I feel bad for doing so because it will take him a long time to find a job doing what he was doing....But I really cann't have him working with me....just can't

[Darth Vader]

So I think I told you all that my xmm and I work fr the same company, but different identities for the company, and that he was fired (HA, Still loving it) anyways today the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Thought I would share

 

and now that I said it I feel bad for doing so because it will take him a long time to find a job doing what he was doing....But I really cann't have him working with me....just can't

 

 

Well, you didn't Lie about what a jerk he is. It's better that he doesn't work where you do, your husband may go to prison for Murder.

 

By the way, you're not dragging out the Divorce process are you? Is it going along as quick as you can? I'm asking because by now your STBXH hasn't had sex in like how many months, I don't even want to know what he's going through about that............

[noforgiveness]

Wow awesome you must be so proud. Now you have even accomplished messing with the man's livelihood.

I wouldn't want to be you when VP here's the gossip about you and him and figures out why you gave that review or are you already setting yoursef up to do the vp?

 

This man's kids also have to suffer financially because you felt the need for revenge after screwing their daddy behind their mommy's back. nice.

 

How do you sleep at night?

[blowingthetrout]

Wow awesome you must be so proud. Now you have even accomplished messing with the man's livelihood.

I wouldn't want to be you when VP here's the gossip about you and him and figures out why you gave that review or are you already setting yoursef up to do the vp?

 

This man's kids also have to suffer financially because you felt the need for revenge after screwing their daddy behind their mommy's back. nice.

 

How do you sleep at night?

 

How very attractive for you to post this!

[brothermartin]

HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED! I wonder,... if you would feel the same way if the roles were reversed and he did this to you?

[Trimmer]

Well, for the 8 hours per day that I am working for an employer, my priorities, in order, are:

 

(a) my immediate health and safety,

(b) the best interests of my employer,

© my own best interests.

 

Usually, these all pretty well line up, and even when they don't, the differences are not stark, but this general hierarchy helps to keep things straight.

 

So, if it were me, and I were feeling bad, I would ask: was I honest about his inability to get along with co-workers and customers? In the end, did I really act in the best interests of my company to keep him from getting a job offer?

 

Heck, if you can answer yes to those, I don't see what the problem is.

 

On the other hand, if he really is a decent worker who would have helped the company, and you lied about that to get revenge, then maybe you do have some thinking to do. Before, it was all just between you and him. Have you now compromised your loyalty to your company, too?

[OpenBook]

the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Uh, are you the only person the VP is asking?? And how do you know he was going to offer your xMM a job?

 

The VP may have other reasons for asking you your opinion. If I were you, I would watch your back. Very carefully.

[Havn_a_life]

 

This man's kids also have to suffer financially because you felt the need for revenge after screwing their daddy behind their mommy's back. nice.

 

 

I'm sure the guy, being M, needed told off or whatever, but his family didn't deserve to be punished.

I hope the guy gts a job somewhere soon, where he can support them again.

 

Does lost4ever have a thread on here telling the whole story of why she had this guy fired?

[noforgiveness]

LOL bitter much. I think someone does have some guilt and one heck of an anger issue with a woman you don't even know.:sick:

 

I bet you threatened to tell his wife didn't you?

[noforgiveness]

Oh nevermind I found your story. Your a real beauty aren't you? It's you you're angry at isn't it? It's youself you want to punish. You blew up your whole life. You had a wonderful man as you put it and then cheated with a mm. It wasn't enough to mess up your life and now your anger keeps you continuing on this path of destruction.

Bless you dear.

for everyones reading pleasure.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t125550/

[lost4ever]

No, I am not angry;

 

Some people do hurtful things to a loved one, and they are sad, they regret, they dust themselves off and try to better themselves.

but

Some people have all of there loved ones do hurtful things to them; husbands, best friends, just slap them in the face, and instead of wondering what they do wrong they just keep placing the blame on everyone else.

 

see, when I am angry and bitter, I'll spend all my time on BS websites telling them how vulgar I think they are for indirectly ruining my life.

[whichwayisup]

and if he thinks of leaving, she'll just have another kid....

 

Just remember it takes two. It's not like she's holding a gun to his head and saying "have sex with me and get me pregnant." He knows full well what is going on.

[noforgiveness]

No, I am not angry;

 

Some people do hurtful things to a loved one, and they are sad, they regret, they dust themselves off and try to better themselves.

but

Some people have all of there loved ones do hurtful things to them; husbands, best friends, just slap them in the face, and instead of wondering what they do wrong they just keep placing the blame on everyone else.

 

see, when I am angry and bitter, I'll spend all my time on BS websites telling them how vulgar I think they are for indirectly ruining my life.

 

Oh honey you are angry. That is why you take glee in him being fired. Take glee in ruining his chance at a job and have totally trashed his wife and basically ALL WOMEN with a college degree who choose to stay home and not work for the sake of the family with your little stereotypical lazy comment and now you choose to try to lash out at me and hurt me which you didn't accomplish by the way dear.

 

You may blame being a bs on my words to you but you would find that incorrect. One doesn't have to be a bs to know right from wrong. You witnessed the pain you put your own loving husband through and now you are relishing in this man's problems and the longterm unemployment that will result from your actions and can put his family in financial ruin.

 

Your own words called yourself much worse names than I would. Yes dear you are angry with yourself, stop taking it out on others.

[Havn_a_life]

I still feel really bad for the BS and kids of the MM lost4ever got fired.

I don't care how she puts it, that was wrong.

 

Unfortunately, there are more xOW out there like my H's xOW.

How sad.

Fortunately, she couldn't get H fired because she was doing the harrassing at work, after he ended the A.

 

Lost4ever should take her won advice and get up, dust her self off, and move on.

Of course, the xMM is punished for abondoning her, hence unemployed, and she should just call that avenged and move on.

 

It sounds, however, like she's on here crowing about it.

 

I think if she's that proud of herself, she should go to the BW and tell her how proud she is.

 

I just couldn't do that. Be happy over some man's folly who made the mistake of having an A with another woman.

I just hope he's learned something from it.

 

Good luck to you, Lost4ever. Maybe you can get over the A yourself one day.

[child_of_isis]

No offense to you...but calling him a huge jerk to the VP was probably not in your own best interest.

So I think I told you all that my xmm and I work fr the same company, but different identities for the company, and that he was fired (HA, Still loving it) anyways today the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Thought I would share

 

and now that I said it I feel bad for doing so because it will take him a long time to find a job doing what he was doing....But I really cann't have him working with me....just can't

[Trimmer]

No offense to you...but calling him a huge jerk to the VP was probably not in your own best interest.

Oh, that's a good point. Maybe the VP already knows him, knows his work and the kind of person and worker he is, and is already planning to hire him, but he heard that you have some history with him. He might have been asking your opinion to feel out how well you might be able to continue working once he is hired. If it comes down to one or the other of you, maybe the VP is weighing letting you go, if you can't get along with him...

 

Either way, that would still meet your requirement: "...I really can't have him working with me....just can't "

[gman0hsev]

So I think I told you all that my xmm and I work fr the same company, but different identities for the company, and that he was fired (HA, Still loving it) anyways today the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Thought I would share

 

and now that I said it I feel bad for doing so because it will take him a long time to find a job doing what he was doing....But I really cann't have him working with me....just can't

 

No, I am not angry;

 

Some people do hurtful things to a loved one, and they are sad, they regret, they dust themselves off and try to better themselves.

but

Some people have all of there loved ones do hurtful things to them; husbands, best friends, just slap them in the face, and instead of wondering what they do wrong they just keep placing the blame on everyone else.

 

see, when I am angry and bitter, I'll spend all my time on BS websites telling them how vulgar I think they are for indirectly ruining my life.

 

You did that and you are not angry? Christ what would you have done if you were angry? neutered him and his children?

 

And Im sorry to disagree with you(mostly cause i fear your wrath) but the fact that you are laughing at him losing a job, does mean there are still some emotions there. I you had truly "dusted yourself off and try to better yourself" you wouldn't have jumped at the shot to bring him down(which you did mind you) but instead simply said that you have a problem with him and did not want to work with him.

[Trimmer]

Hey, noforgiveness, this same thread was started under your screen name in the Business/Professional Relationships forum. What gives? Someone playing games here?

[noforgiveness]

Hey, noforgiveness, this same thread was started under your screen name in the Business/Professional Relationships forum. What gives? Someone playing games here?

 

 

no proving a point. hoping to show the disapproval has nothing to do with mm or bs but just honesty and integrity. That seems to be lost in this section and if someone is called on their dishonesty and lack of integrity you are told you just think that because you are a bs. NO it's a commonly held opinion by respectable society. You don't find glee in a family man being fired and helping to insure he doesn't find a new position. I thought repeating the story in that section without the married man ow spin it would be met with the same disapproval and the poster could not cry foul you are just a bs.

[Herzen]

So I think I told you all that my xmm and I work fr the same company, but different identities for the company, and that he was fired (HA, Still loving it) anyways today the VP asked me what I thought of XMM's work, I told him he is smart and great ideas, but he is a huge jerk and nobody gets along with him, co-workers or customers (he was going to offer him a job until I said that)

 

Thought I would share

 

and now that I said it I feel bad for doing so because it will take him a long time to find a job doing what he was doing....But I really cann't have him working with me....just can't

 

So you elevated your personal, retaliatory spite above your employer's interests. Did you inform your VP that you're incapable of giving him/her a dispassionate, honest, unbiased and disinterested assessment of your ex-lover's professional skills? I suspect not.

 

Perhaps the VP would have like to have known your "history" with the job candidate and thus given your opinions the weight they deserve.

 

You've breached fiduciary duties to your employer through your lack of candor about your conflict of interest. In addition, you may have defamed your ex-lover and tortiously interfered with his prospective employment relationship with your employer.

 

You best hope that he doesn't visit this site. Otherwise, the next thing you receive from him is a lawsuit.

[Trimmer]

no proving a point. hoping to show the disapproval has nothing to do with mm or bs but just honesty and integrity. That seems to be lost in this section and if someone is called on their dishonesty and lack of integrity you are told you just think that because you are a bs. NO it's a commonly held opinion by respectable society. You don't find glee in a family man being fired and helping to insure he doesn't find a new position. I thought repeating the story in that section without the married man ow spin it would be met with the same disapproval and the poster could not cry foul you are just a bs.

Well OK... But the "BS" angle isn't really coming into play here, because other than a comment spat out by the OP, and you taking it and running with it, the rest of the whole discussion so far has left that out... No one is lining up along those lines...

 

My problem was that when I saw the initial post in the other thread, I thought it was her posting again under a different screen name, and that you two were the same person, thus fake posting and arguing with yourself in this thread. Then I was a little torqued that you were playing games and potentially wasting my time with the fake post in that thread... When I post, I invest myself as if the person at the other end is honest and real; I guess I still hope for honesty here amongst our anonymity...

[FishSticks]

We all cant catch mermaids, ya knowThere are two headed fish just like there is major split personality going on.

[TogetherForever]

We all cant catch mermaids, ya knowThere are two headed fish just like there is major split personality going on.

 

 

:confused:Huh?

TF

[FishSticks]

Ya know like minnows and bass.But the fisherman always catches the best fish. And the two headed ones are sorted out and thrown back into the sea. Just like that ya know

[noforgiveness]

Well OK... But the "BS" angle isn't really coming into play here, because other than a comment spat out by the OP, and you taking it and running with it, the rest of the whole discussion so far has left that out... No one is lining up along those lines...

 

My problem was that when I saw the initial post in the other thread, I thought it was her posting again under a different screen name, and that you two were the same person, thus fake posting and arguing with yourself in this thread. Then I was a little torqued that you were playing games and potentially wasting my time with the fake post in that thread... When I post, I invest myself as if the person at the other end is honest and real; I guess I still hope for honesty here amongst our anonymity...

 

LOL ok no I am def. not posting as an ow. At the time I posted in the other section it was mostly only the op going off on the you're just a bs that's why you don't agree and I thought bs and ow have nothing to do with it. Sorry. LOL I did try to make a new user name called experiment 101 to post that there but you need a different email address to do that and I only have one.