What do you think about this arrangement?

[hopeforlove243]

In short, my ex-bf (2 years together) asked me for spaces in July cause I gave him too much pressure about marriage, then next thing I know, he is sleeping with other woman. I tried to break up with him couple times, he insists that we could be friends. I tried to focus on myself by doing NC, but it never last long. I even signed up on a online dating service, and started to go out on casual date. Last week we had a long talk, he opened up a little, telling me some details about his divorce 5 years ago, how bad it was, so, I can understand why he is so scared of marriage. Somehow I offered that we should do couple counseling, and I will pay for it. After several days of thinking, he said yes to that idea, yet, when I ask him if we are free to date others while seeing counseling, he said yes.

I feel the reason to see counseling is to work out our issues, but if we both has exits open, would this counseling really helpful? What do you think? I appreciate your input. Thanks.

[marsbars]

Kinda seems like a hopeless endeavor to me. Dating other people and seeing a counselor would confuse things I would think.

[hopeforlove243]

ya, that is my concern. any other input? thanks.

[niceguy27]

you both should decide if you want to commit to this route. if so, no other "dating" other people. some people may have problems with labels so see if he will agree to just see you and no one else.

[hopeforlove243]

I talked to my ex more tonite, I don't think he is committed to this route, I think it is better for me to go back NC, every time I talk to him, make me feel there might be a chance for us, but he keeps giving me mixed confusing signal, I am sick tired of it.