alwayswondering Posted May 1, 2003 Share Posted May 1, 2003 I am 26, single female. My best friend is a guy, 32. We grew up next door to each other, we are like brother and sister. He is a great person, has a great heart. I have always had a thing for him. About five years ago, we slept together, twice in 6 months. It was really weird, no foreplay, just straight to the point. NOthing was ever said about it since. Everyone thinks he may be gay. He hasn't had a girlfriend since high school, does not date, very good decorator, very artistic. Kinda feminine acting, but he was raised by women, mother and sisters. He has suffered a tremendous amount of loss in his life, several friends have died along with both parents being killed in car accidents. Some people say he may be afraid of losing me too. I love him but am worried that he would turn out to be gay later on down the road. I cannot ask him if he is. It would hurt his feelings, plus he would never admit it if he is. I haven't kissed him since we slept together. He has hated every boyfriend I have ever had, for no reason. I have been single for 2 years since my ex-fiance dumped me and broke my heart. He also has a tremendous amount of money trouble. I have a master's degree and a good job and he has a high school diploma and can barely pay bills. Should I move on? Does he have more problems than I need to deal with? My heart tells me to pursue it but my mind says no. My parents will die if we get together since they think he is gay..................help Link to post Share on other sites
spunk 30 Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 Hey there girl, I think you need to be clear about what is really the issue here. Do you want to be with this man? Do you want to tell him how you feel? If that is what is important to you then you will tell him, be honest with how you feel about him. Otherwise, it seems that you are putting barriers in the way that will prevent you from sharing your feelings with/about him. Whether he is gay or not is secondary to your need to tell this man how you feel... Wouldn't you want someone to do the same for you? Once you have presented your feelings to him, then the other questions you have can follow. Dare to win... Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Paul Posted May 2, 2003 Board of Directors Share Posted May 2, 2003 Hi tngirl1976, You're asking us to determine your friend's sexuality and we simply cannot do that. If this is an issue for you, you're simply going to have to ask him yourself. That said, none of the qualities you mention as support for an argument suggesting he may be homosexual are indicators of homosexuality. You're making judgments based on stereotypes about your best friend--not a practice I'd recommend. Check out some of the other threads on the forum that deal with questions about sexuality. It's not as clear cut as society would have us think. Best wishes, Paul Link to post Share on other sites
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