A crazy story I must share

[Ima]

I was out dancing and saw the most handsome guy just standng by himself. So i thought I should go talk to this guy and I walked by and playfull said "you're cute" and just kept on walking and he came after me and said "wait, I'm not dancing with anyone" So I said, "well come one then" and we went to the bar and I offered to buy him a drink--my new strong woman thing that I'm trying--but he refused and bought me a drink instead. We then danced and he was a great dancer! Hew pulled me off the dance floor after a while and we started talking and as he sat he gave me a disclaimer-- 'I don't really talk that much..." And I was like that's fine because neither do I... but we started talking about what we both did for work, and we were the same age 26, though he thought I was 21 or something close to that. Anyway, he was really sweet and he did things like ask me so what did I say my name was, and when's my birthday again, checking to see if I was listening , and I thought it was so cute, and also the fact that he had the hiccups that wouldn't go awaycute.. He told me that he was not dancing becaue he was there for his friends going away party and that he isn't into chasing women in clubs to dance...(perfect answer). He also told me "I'm my brother's keeper" and took care of his drunk friend. I was like...oh where did you come from... ur perfect! We shared a cab and I as I was getting out I made the first move and gave him a little kiss and he inturn before the cab pulled off jumped out, chased me, and gave me another kiss and said he would take me to brunch the next day. I was ecsatic, I felt like I was in a cute little movie. He called me the next day exactly when he said he would, and tried to take me to brunch but unfortunatyely i was so hungover, we made plans for dinner the following night. he picked me up on time and was so polite... He was out of the car waiting, aplogised for not shaving as he claimed he was very busy that day, and trust me he looked fine, he opened my door, and continued to do that all night long. I mean the perfect gentle man...I was increasingly getting blown away to the point that I became nervous that he was too perfect... Dinner was a tad bit awkward though, understandable for a first date, nervousess. He took me to a nice lounge for a quick drink and then said it was time to call it a night. As he started yawning at the table and was very embarrassed and asssured me that it wasn't me it was just he wakes up at 6 every morning. Anyway, when he took me home, and this time he made the first move and started kissing me, then before I knew it his hand was in the blouse on the boob, and I was like ok. I was surprised and blurted out "um I dont want you to think I'm a bad girl for going this far", I thought it was too soon but it all happended so fast. Anyway, he went from that to trying to unbutton my jeans and there I stopped him... he then tried again soon after that...and I stopped him again, and he became very embarrased and appologised. I made out with him some more and told him not to be sorry, but I was a little perplexed that he was moving so fast especially after all gentlemanly behaivor, and the stuff he told me about himself, he's a search a rescue specialist and wants to be a doctor, and cares about the enviroment, doesn't care about money...too PERFECT... and then that display in the car to me was out of character but I was like he's still a guy and I'm pretty cute sooo (JK;)).

Well anyway, after that night he became very distant, stop calling, I tried to set up another date with him, and he just kept on saying he was busy. I wanted to belive him, because school had just started, and why not believe him, he might really be busy so, I just left it alone for a while. I went out one night with a girlfriend, and we got super trashed and she was texting some guy sexually suggestive stuff and laughing about it. And I was so drunk I though it was funny, and then some how it came up, don't quite remember how, to text my guy from her phone to see if he's really is MR. Perfect or was it all an act. It took him a while, and I was so confident he wouldn't respond to such brazen language from an unknown number but he fell for it, and fell for it hard. because he texted her to come get him so they can have sex by the end of the night and he had no idea who she was. Didn't recognise the number or anything... He said he recently changed his number...but never asked her name, just come pick me up and you got it. She actually didn't tell me all this that night. she waited two days to tell me this, and that he also tried to call her that night and also 2 days later and left a message saying 'sorry he didn't know who she was" He was all into it and still had no idea who she was, never asked where did they meet, what she looks like,her name nothing, .. I mean bizarre! When she finally told me days later she calimed it was because she didn't want to upset me, and make wrong judgements about him... i mean what gives her the right to keep that from me, when the point was to find out? He tried texting her again and I told her to text him some thing that would make him go away,like have you ever heard of herpes, you don't even know me? But she didn't want to. She calimed she wanted to word it right. anyway she texted him something close but not as jarring because she claimed she didn't want him to think she's some herpes girl.. That's when I was like wait a minute it's not about you?. Two days pased and he sent her two more texts saying who says he would have done it, and that he tought his buddies were playing a trick on him. At this point I was like I need to put a stop to this and let him know it's me so he will stop texting her, because I had an awful feeling in my stomach that she was starting to think that this little exchange was really between them. I had to remind her at some point that it's not about her and that she didn't know him. She told me that I shouldn't tell him it's me or he'll think I'm crazy, which really made me suspicious of her. I mean why should I care what a creep thinks, or why should she? She was hesitant about giving me the phone and I had to get stern with her. So I revealed that it was me...and a few more choice words..and said that she was married so no more texting her phone, which wasn't true. And I deleted the text because I didn't trust her. She called me at home that evening wanting to know what I said to him. Am I crazy or is she wanting to have him still write to her? I kind of confronted her, and she acted cluless, and I told her not to worry about what I said to him, beause it's none of her business, and that he shouldn't be writing to her anymore but if he did she better leave it alone. I don't trust her because she is currently sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend...and I swear she seemed to be getting confused as if he was really texting to her... Am I crazy foir suspecting her? Is her beahivor a little weird?..she should have my back right and say yeah tell that jerk he got caught so he can stop texting me? Anyway, I'm ashamed of this but I was jealous and wanted to make sure she wouldn't try to reach him... I know it's crazy of me... but I sorta still have a crush on who I thought he was... So I got drunk again and texted him as myself this time and said that I wanted to "hang" with him (if you know what I mean?) I don't think I would have gone through with it, but it's almost like I wanted make sure she couldn't get to him.. ofcourse he told me that I freaked him out and that he couldn't do it. And I was realived that he was freaked out because I felt that if she tries to contact him, he will not be interested since he's freaked out... but a small part of me still wants him... awful huh? My first advice to myself i cut down on the drinking... and the immature friends who want to do stuff like that beause it caused a lot of drama...I had never done any of that before.. Am I crazy for still liking him? Obviously he now thinks I'm psycho or something.. And he must be a creep, but I wonder if I'm wrong and he's telling the truth.. My response to him telling me I freaked him out and that he was now seeing someone , two days later, yeah right! was 'I did! lol! you deserved it! you obviously didn't learn anything because ur still lying, You don't have to pretend to be prince charming to get laid, be honest and at least you'll be a decent person" Final nail! What is wrong with me???!!! I meant what I said, but gee way to make him hate me more.. I should think he's a creep but why do I still feel like what if I'm wrong, and we could have a second chance...Delusional, I know. Anyway...the harsh truth from a bunch of strangers will snap me out of it. Should i dump the friend too? I feel like if I could have trusted her then I wouldnt have had to reaveal that it was me. Thanks so much, I know this is long.... so thanks to everyone who actually gets through it and respond..

[Krytie TV]

If you would format that into paragraphs I would love to read it.

[Ima]

I wrote and wrote and then I sent it andf i couldn't belive how much I had written...Sorry you guys. I figurde no one would read something this long but I was already exhausted to try to fix it... I guess it was somewhat theraputic to get it out anyways! Is there a way to delete it?... It's probably annoying everyone who clicks on it and sees how huge of a post it is. Sorry again!

[starlite]

My honest opinion (and I am a 25 year old female that loves having fun nights with friends)...leave that poor man alone. You went on ONE date! ONE! You backed the guy into a corner. Now, if you had waited until you two were at a more exclusive point, then maybe I could see his reaction as wrong. Who knows if he would have gone through with it.

 

Not to mention, he backed away after your first date...dont be the crazy girl, which you are, walk away with some dignity!

 

And you are being way ridiculous to your friend. She did what you asked. She just didnt want to tell some stranger she had herpes. You started all of this.

 

Leave this poor guy alone and apologize to your friend.

[Ima]

You're right. I made a huge mistake shouldn't have done that... Thanks for your time...

Ima

[Road Rage]

The OP illustrates well what I have said here before. Very attractive men, say less than 5% of guys total, can play the game like a woman. By that I mean just stand there, look good and get plenty women. The rest of us guys, 95% have to work long and painstakenly at our game.

 

Notice this dude is always given the benefit of the doubt right up front. Again, something most guys even on their best days can`t get out of a woman.

 

To the OP:

 

Anytime someone starts yawning on a date, there is something lacking. Combined with the fact that he tried to get laid indicates he was looking for a quicky. A hit and run. His behavior after the first date seems to indicate he just wasn`t that interested in you after the intial urge to get laid wore off. Any time someone is always busy they are not interested in you.

[latefragment]

Ima, don't feel bad about this at all. it sounds like he wanted to have sex only.

 

I've had that happen to me before, like the guy seems really into me and then if I balk at sex and say I want to get to know them better (like on the 2nd date or 3rd date even) they disappear.

 

It's terrible. You didn't do anything wrong. I had my friend once email my boyfriend at the time pretending to be someone else, etc., and it kind of blew up in my face. I don't know why I let that happen, I guess I was so sure that he would ignore the email because he claimed to be very in love with me. I mean, he was, and nothing happened between him and her, but he did respond to the emails. That was a really weird confrontation that we had.

 

Anyway, you didn't do anything wrong. you're allowed to accidentally let your friend text him (just don't next time, she sounds like bad news) and I think it was ballsy that you talked to the cute guy. It's so LAME that he ditched you after you wouldn't have sex with him on the first date. ugh, reminds me of so many guys I've met who've done similar to me.

 

It's funny, I guess it means they REALLy just want someone they can have sex with and forget about? I don't get it. I feel personally insulted by that sometimes because I think I'm smart, funny, have tons of activities, interests, etc., why the hell wouldn't anyone want to get to know me as a person in addition to romantically? I feel kind of insulted for you because he was pretending to be so interested in your life and who you are but instead... turned into a jerk. And you sound like a cool, interesting, cool person you know?

 

I'm sorry. What a jerk