He Cheated, I Caught Him, Now He's Seeking Revenge On ME!

[mwhitlockus]

Ok . . . Long story short . . . My boyfriend cheated, and I called him out on it. I left him 2 weeks ago, and he's trying to make my life a living hell via MySpace.

 

My approach to his immature behavior has been the silent treatment and showing no emotion. I knew that it was irritating him.

 

After one week he finally called me to get more details on the WHY behind our breakup. I dished all the evidence I gathered from various sources, and he didn't have anything to say. Case closed!

 

I'm not going to lie . . . Last week was the hardest week of my life! The miss you text messages and MySpace postings were killin me, but I remained silent. I was so angry and hurt!

 

I started feeling better the other day when I read an article on forgiveness. It basically says to forgive the wrong doing and move on. I repeated, "I forgive you," over and over to myself to get rid of my anger.

 

He called me 2 days ago to let me know that he had something of mine. His tone when we first started talking was that of a dog with a tail between its legs, but after a while we started talking normal. I didn't want to sound angry or sad. Just normal. He started saying he wanted to possibly meet up to deliver the goods. I said ok. Big Mistake!

 

The next day I was prepared to get my stuff from him and go. He called me that morning and said that he had other errands and he would get it to me later this week or next week.

 

TELL ME WHAT TO DO TO GET THE BALL BACK IN MY COURT! I AGREED TO MEET WITH HIM, WHICH MEANS TO HIM THAT, "SHE'S NOT ANGRY ANYMORE!" WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cj1988]

Honey, if he cheated and you are sure of it and he shows no remorse, he does not care, been there done that. I live trying to get the ball back in my court so to say, but that is NOT what we need. We need to move on and realize what happened is NOT about us, but about them and their pathetic issues of selfishness. If he really cared about you he would come to you and want to talk about what happened. He will LIE through his teeth so be prepared to hear a lot of BS. Make sure you have real evidence or he will laugh in your face even if he did do something. Think about you and what you want, I am doing that and after 10 months of hell, I can leave my marriage if necessary (13 years) for ME !

 

Good luck baby, it does get easier, but the hurt still remains !

[TryingToHeal3]

Sweetie. The ball is completely in your court. The only thing that makes the ball not in your court is YOU feeling like it's not. He knows that you have the power and he is trying to manipulate it. Do not let him get to you. Here's what I would do. Do not think about him. You've forgiven him. Let him contact you. Answer the phone. But tell him everytime that you're doing something or whatever. Do not let him in. If he gets back in your life or heart or anything it is because of his hard effort. Hang in there. And do not agree to meet up with him again. Because that does send mixed messages. Let him find you in every way. And one thing you know for sure. He will.

[serial muse]

I agree - you still have power, he's just trying to manipulate you.

 

Here's what you do: he wants to deliver your stuff, tell him to leave it for you (when you aren't there, obviously). You were going out of your way to grant him an audience, but he bailed, so since you don't know what your schedule is the rest of the week and next week, you don't want to have to rearrange things for him or really do any thinking about it at all. So he can just leave whatever it is for you at your place (and you don't care much when, and won't be losing any sleep over it, either).

 

That's all! Don't meet up with him. There isn't any reason to, from your point of view.

[MrsHellnoFire]

Yeah just leave him a voicemail message that he can drop it off in a specific place (like your front door, mailbox, whatever) or he could just keep the stuff because you're pretty busy.. and meeting up is unnecessary.

 

He has somethinG of yours? what? a cd if not nothing!? sounds like bs anyways.

[Lyssa]

What's the revenge? I don't see anything that can be labeled as a revenge....

 

Anyway like MHnF said, just text him and ask him to drop it off somewhere.