purecountry Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 There is a girl at work that is confusing me. I work fast food to put myself through college. We have become pretty good friends. We have had several long conversations in which there was what I think was flirting but I'm not sure. She always checks to see what days we work together and one week I didn't work with her at all and she seemed disappointed when she found out she didn't work with me that week.I don't know what to think though because there was someone that she liked but I don't know if she still does. She has talked about him to me once and that was a while ago. But lately things have been a little different. She always seems to know what kind of mood I'm in and tries to make me feel better but we haven't talked about anything in a while. The other night I went into work to check my schedule and she didn't say anything but she all she did was smile. Am I reading too much into this? She is shy and doesn't talk about some things very often. I haven't been able to get the time alone to talk to her about it. I like her as a friend and would also like to date her but not if it ruins our friendship. Sorry this is long, I appreciate all opinions. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 So ask her if she wants to grab a coffee after work! -yes PS it amazes me how slow some men are - cmon, if she's smiling at you, checking if u work together, yada yada, - why not take her out and see how it goes?? I'm sure she's also not sure if she likes you only as a friend or more, because she hasn't spent much time with u! *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
Author purecountry Posted May 2, 2003 Author Share Posted May 2, 2003 You make it sound so easy. And yes I do things really slowly. I'm not good at moving fast. Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 [color=indigo] There's no real way to find out if she likes you until you ask her out on a date! Be self confident and don't hesitate on asking her out. It sounds as though she may be interested in you but there's only one way to find out for sure. I wouldn't worry about ruining the friendship. By not pursuing things, you could be missing out on a great relationship. Life is all about risks. You won't know until you try. [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 it IS pretty easy! i just don't like it when people make it more complicated than it is ... asking somebody to have a coffee with you is not fast! you're just asking for company, you're not telling her you're interested in dating, or anything like that. I think nowadays women do too much work in the initial stages & men have gotten a lot worse at pursuing. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author purecountry Posted May 4, 2003 Author Share Posted May 4, 2003 The truth shall set you free. I asked her and got the truth, not really sure if I am disappointed or not. This is how I understand it, she likes me but as a friend. She likes being around me and is worried when I am having a bad day but we are just friends. We have become better friends today, which is always good. I guess its better than nothing. Thanks for the advice everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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