anaidbleu Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 What do you think? I'm getting married next April, and I fear my fiance's best man is having an affair with him. My dilemma is that I won't dare bring this up to my fiance because he's a macho guy, and I'm afraid it might break us up if it turns out I'm wrong. I won't ever forget two weeks ago when I walked in on my fiance's apartment--he was locked in his bedroom with his best man and they were talking in a hushed tone. They seemed shocked that I came over early from work and pretended they were fixing a computer. When I brought up my concerns to the best man's sister, she made what I thought was a pass at me. Now I'm thinking this really does run in the best man's family. Getting Married and Worried in Gotham Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 You should have brought this up at the time of the incident...but surely you need to bring it up. This is an extremely important issue. If he hasn't fessed up to you now, what would give you the idea he might be honest, though. On the face of it, being locked up in a hushed room with his best man is not a good sign. I personally would have ended it right then and there. That just isn't good at all. The fact that he didn't give you a very believable explanation for that incident tells me your fiance is either gay or bisexual. Cancel the wedding and find you a man who is a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anaidbleu Posted October 18, 2007 Author Share Posted October 18, 2007 The two of them have been inseparable since childhood, and I'm afraid that if I vent my suspicions it will only cause them to spend more time discussing what might be my paranoia. A part of me wants to act now, and another part of me wants to wait until I have more evidence, least I malign the manhood of the person who I deeply love. Does anybody have any experience with private investigators? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Zona76 Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 Before marriage is the time to talk. AND talk about everything. You may have different opinions about many things religion and politics. You may differ on music choice and movies to see. It's okay to differ on some things but you need to know everything before you plan to spend your life together. Is he a spender or or a saver. But most of all to get his view on loving only one person or openness on others being in the marriage. It's time to tell him NOW not later if it's acceptable for him to be Bi or not. Ask him then what he would find unacceptable in a wife. How to begin the conversation on his possibly being BI is something to think on. But you need to do this quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 Just because they were in a room together doesn't mean they're gay or bi!! True, he's probably lying or keeping something from you, but maybe something happened and they just want to get their story straight?? Either way, it's not looking like a good situation. I'd demand to know exactly what is going on, or call off the wedding/engagement. Can't go anywhere without trust. Link to post Share on other sites
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