Trialbyfire Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 I see what you are saying. But you've mentioned you had blindly trusted before which you regretted, and i was curious what you meant when you said you blindly trusted, compared to now. Am I interrogating again? I just like your insights TBF I doubt I could ever invest 150% in anyone, like I did in the past. I think there will always be an element of subconscious pattern evaluation. I know I'm more capable of noting pattern shifts now and will take action sooner, rather than later. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 I am interested in specifics from the guys how they test the girls?? C'mon, 'fess up! I never have done that. The only thing that I do is take them out and talk to them and really get to know them. Would that be considered a test? Link to post Share on other sites
halfarock Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 I am interested in specifics from the guys how they test the girls?? C'mon, 'fess up! Isn’t the whole dating process essentially a test. I specifically test women’s opinions on certain subjects usually by bringing up certain subjects in conversation and seeing how she responds to them. I’m not exactly normal and I’ve come to realize that I get along best with women who share my view in matters of religion and politics and who have the same vices as me. Link to post Share on other sites
squeak Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 Interesting Riddler & halfarock. In many threads here or conversations with friends, women tend to assume tests when perhaps it is just jerky behavior. But no one here seems to do that. In the future I will be very dubious about anyone wondering if "they are being tested" when, in fact, it is just rationalizing bad behavior! Link to post Share on other sites
squeak Posted October 18, 2007 Share Posted October 18, 2007 What I meant to say was that every test any poster here listed was not bad at all, in no way was I insinuating posters here exhibited jerky behavior. And that brought me to the realization above! Phew, hopefully I haven't been blacklisted! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Isn’t the whole dating process essentially a test. I specifically test women’s opinions on certain subjects usually by bringing up certain subjects in conversation and seeing how she responds to them. I’m not exactly normal and I’ve come to realize that I get along best with women who share my view in matters of religion and politics and who have the same vices as me. This is how I meant my response to look like, although politics and religion are not really an issue for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 To test men, I apply the Henry Rollins dating test...and yes, I would walk on bleeding stumps in the snow... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 To test men, I apply the Henry Rollins dating test...and yes, I would walk on bleeding stumps in the snow... What the heck is the Henry Rollins dating test? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 What the heck is the Henry Rollins dating test? Do a search on youtube under "henry rollins hates dating". Unders posted the clip a few months ago and it's perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Do a search on youtube under "henry rollins hates dating". Unders posted the clip a few months ago and it's perfect. Yeah that does suit you. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Yeah that does suit you. I'm terrible, aren't I? Paraphrased: He's reading a book, be still my beating heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 I'm terrible, aren't I? Paraphrased: He's reading a book, be still my beating heart. Have you refined your jack-off technique? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Have you refined your jack-off technique? Ouch. Got me. I forgot about that part. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Ouch. Got me. I forgot about that part. I'll take that as a yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 I'll take that as a yes. Grrrr.....meanie.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Blind trust is naive, at minimum, and damaging, at worst case scenario. I've tried that route and found it to be...detrimental. As for not trusting, going into it, it can get better. It's personality and experience driven. What you experienced was a controlling and insecure personality type, which can't be applied to every person. * Blind Trust * is akin to ( stay with me here ) :* Love is Blind *. When you are in love you are blind to that persons faults and wrongdoings. Love is Stupid . Another one (when in love) one can act pretty stupid and not see whats right in front of them. ( but really *choose* to not see whats in front of them ) I tend to put trust up on the table first and expect the person I have chosen to trust in me . Naive or Blind ? Neither. Since most who trusted were burned and * choose * not to trust easily again then that is more an ISSUE with that person and he/she owns the distrust issue ,......Not putting it on the new partner. ... I could not be with an insecure man ever again. He has to have his stuff together and feel he can trust me if we are in a committed relationship. But lately I love the single life so much I don't know that I could take the drama alot of relationships bring... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 * Blind Trust * is akin to ( stay with me here ) :* Love is Blind *. When you are in love you are blind to that persons faults and wrongdoings. Faults yes, wrongdoings...never. If someone is deliberately malicious, how can anyone be blind to this? If you forgive them due to love, it's another story. Love is Stupid . Another one (when in love) one can act pretty stupid and not see whats right in front of them. ( but really *choose* to not see whats in front of them ) Agreed. I tend to put trust up on the table first and expect the person I have chosen to trust in me . Naive or Blind ? Neither. Since most who trusted were burned and * choose * not to trust easily again then that is more an ISSUE with that person and he/she owns the distrust issue ,......Not putting it on the new partner. ... I could not be with an insecure man ever again. He has to have his stuff together and feel he can trust me if we are in a committed relationship. But lately I love the single life so much I don't know that I could take the drama alot of relationships bring... Since you've raised the trust issue, I'll put my example back on the table. When on a bus, do you give a stranger your purse to hold, if you need to talk to the bus driver? Link to post Share on other sites
woodsfield Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Why do women test men ? because they can. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Faults yes, wrongdoings...never. If someone is deliberately malicious, how can anyone be blind to this? If you forgive them due to love, it's another story. Agreed. Since you've raised the trust issue, I'll put my example back on the table. When on a bus, do you give a stranger your purse to hold, if you need to talk to the bus driver? Sure I would give the stranger my purse to hold ( I would remove the wallet first ) LOL ! I guess I mean *faith* trust. Not financial trust. I would NEVER trust a man with my ATM and pin number, my checking account , anything of value hehe Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon Blackberry Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Can I have an example of a "test" that a woman puts a man through? I can't say that "testing" a man has ever occurred to me. It's like what a few others have said, dating is sort of a test drive for marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
woodsfield Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 (edited) Can I have an example of a "test" that a woman puts a man through? I can't say that "testing" a man has ever occurred to me. that's one of the mysteries of women...they are testing us constantly and we don't even know. Edited December 11, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon Blackberry Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 (edited) Can I have an example of a "test" that a woman puts a man through? I can't say that "testing" a man has ever occurred to me. that's one of the mysteries of women...they are testing us constantly and we don't even know. If you can't give a concrete or solid example, I will take your comments as invalid. Edited December 11, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Sure I would give the stranger my purse to hold ( I would remove the wallet first ) LOL ! I guess I mean *faith* trust. Not financial trust. I would NEVER trust a man with my ATM and pin number, my checking account , anything of value hehe cute... As for faith, I do have faith that everyone will live up to what they're willing to put out. The more they give, the more they get. I'm just not a big proponent of "all out there" when someone else is obviously not doing the same. Link to post Share on other sites
ItIs Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 People tend to be at their most polite and considerate in the early stages. I one of those who don't. I tend to be more considerate of those for whom I've developed genuine friendship and personal affection. I suppose you could say that is my test. If someone can't deal with my "rough edges," they can't deal with me romantically. Link to post Share on other sites
ItIs Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Lust is stupid. But so much fun. Most people are best off applying certain tests to themselves, myself included. Like my friend who, whenever the subject of his abusive ex comes up, looks down and says: "You, stop thinking for me!" Link to post Share on other sites
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