lil_angel84 Posted May 2, 2003 Share Posted May 2, 2003 Here's the story first. I have known this guy for a little over a year. We met towards the end of Junior year. He had JUST transferred to the school which I attend. From day one we clicked and became best friends surprisingly quick. I began like him alot. But to my disappointment, I find out that he had a girlfriend already. It really didnt bother me very much, until I found out who she was. I had this girl in my Sophomore English class and she didnt give off a very good first impression. Since I dont really vibe off first impressions like alot of people do, I tried to make friends w/ her despite the fact. But it back fired. She was very rude, and always talked behind people's back. I never developed any negative feeling towards her. I just really tried to keep my distance from her and never really got a chance to know what she was REALLY like....until a few months ago. See, all three of us ended up in the same class earlier this year. All of a sudden I start noticing that she talks back to him alot. I see him try to be sweet and nice to her, but she doesnt do the same. I can tell he feels angry and more so, hurt everytime she does that. One of my friends who is in a class with my friend's g/f her said that she talks bad about him all the time. The reason she didnt say anything before is because she didnt know, the girl was my friends g/f. See, my best friend has a passion for cars and is always talking about cars. So, my friend *the one who's in the class with the g/f* said that she over heard her say he sounded stupid talking about cars all the time and that she could care less about what he's into. But this guy is SO in love with her and it frustrates me to see that going on. He's the type that thinks everything will get better, no matter what the situation. I wish I could bring myself to say something. That he can do better. Despite the fact that I AM in love w/ him, I'm not saying that "better" means me. But I cant say anything. In a way, I think that as his friend I should do or say something. But on the other hand I dont want to get too into his personal life. Does anyone have any advice? Anyone been in the same situation as I am? Thank you very much! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted May 3, 2003 Share Posted May 3, 2003 Who somebody else thinks he's in love with is none of your business. Stay out of it. No matter how abused he may be, if you try to get in the middle of it, YOU will be the bad guy and YOU will be the one to lose. BOTH of them will turn on YOU and you will suffer for opening your mouth...so don't!!! Trust me, he will eventually have his eyes opened. Meanwhile, let him learn just how nasty his girlfriend is from someone else or by some other means. Don't start your life out being a busybody and getting mixed up in the lives of other people. Stop talking about him to others and stop pay attention to his life. Let him be to go in whatever direction he wishes. You need to get a life of your own. Now take yourself and go get interested in somebody who doesn't have a girlfriend. This guy obviously likes girls who abuse him and since you're not like that you don't have a chance with him anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lil_angel84 Posted May 3, 2003 Author Share Posted May 3, 2003 Tony.... I know what you mean about me ending up being the bad guy. I could care less what SHE thinks about me. But I know better than to try and stick my nose into his business for the fact that I dont want to lose HIM. And I DONT talk about him to any of my friends. I'm through with that. I'm tired of sounding like a love-sick teenager, therefore I DONT talk about him. My friend was the one who brought him up. And since I JUST met her, she didnt know I like him till that day. Link to post Share on other sites
stepwater Posted May 6, 2003 Share Posted May 6, 2003 Saying something to him won’t do anyone any good. Ten times out of ten the person in his situation won’t believe it anyhow, that’s a reason why love is blind. He is obviously seeing only what he wants to see. Saying that he likes women that abuse him may be a false assumption. Since he’s still very young there is a good possibility your friend really doesn’t know what a healthy relationship consists of. I’m sure at some point he will and hopefully you’ll be around when he does. But until that day, retain your friendship and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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