I have a higher sex drive than my partner but still he masterbates to porn.

[shadowofman]

Not only is it not cheating, I think it's totally hot!

See, I think that it is a form of adultery, but it's also hot.

The want to have sex with another is nearly the same as actually having sex with another (albeit just a tease).

Watching another have sex on screen is nearly as bad as watching another have sex in person (though I assume trust issues are not as drastic).

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

when i masterbate i think of my boyfriend, i feel like im cheating on him if i dont and he is so sexy i dont need to think of anyone else. He using porn mags and videos to masterbate looking at other women.

 

You strike me as a prude. Maybe you are available to him all the time but that's not the kind of sex he wants.

 

See what he likes in the porn and try and get into his head.

 

Ariadne

[rainfall]

All I have to say to you rainfall is that I'm sorry. I hate your opinion of yourself. I've said it before and I'll say it again. DON'T BLAME YOURSELF if your boyfriend like to look at other women. It's NOT because your inadequate!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

How is it NOT because I am inadequeate if he has to satisfy his needs by looking at other women. I don't feel a need to look at porn or think of othen men while having sex with my bf. So why should I be ok knowing that he is secretly thinking about how many other women he wishes he could be with.

[Phateless]

I understand this thought process from being with my ex, and it had a bit to do with wanting space and relief from the pressure of having to do it her way instead of what i want. Sex was always on her terms, never on mine. Timing, frequency, position, all of it... if I wanted it a certain way she just wouldn't go for it.

 

I don't know if that applies to your situation, but that's where I was coming from.

[shadowofman]

How is it NOT because I am inadequeate if he has to satisfy his needs by looking at other women. I don't feel a need to look at porn or think of othen men while having sex with my bf. So why should I be ok knowing that he is secretly thinking about how many other women he wishes he could be with.

It's just not because you are inadequeate. I'm actually fighting with my W over this same issue. Please, someone help me with this. I know that I'm right and I don't know how to explain why. I understand how you are taking this issue very personally. Like you are not pretty enough, but it doesn't matter how pretty you are. Some people will never be satisfied.

Because people are different rainfall. Some people's needs require looking at more than one women. Some people's needs require at least porn.

 

No one is suggesting that you have to be involved with a porn watcher, but you must understand that everyone is different. I know that I couldn't tolerate a women that prevented me from watching porn.