TryingToHeal3 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 Today I am 36 weeks pregnant(9 months). Between bach aches and leg cramps, and my body COMPLETELY changing, I'm going through a lot. If you're a woman who has had children you may understand my feeling already not so sexy with stretch marks and a huge belly during love-making. Anyway, let me get to the point now. Last week I found out that my Husband was texting sexual words to another woman(MY BROTHER'S GF)- (Who is in my opinion unattractive!!) Now, nothing happeded...yet, (because I found out, I think) I feel disgusted, lonely in my love, hurt, and ugly. He cheated on me one time with her a little over a year ago. I know that she really likes him, though has never admitted of course. When I confronted him about this he told me the whole truth. The down and dirty details. He said when she first messaged him and he refused her, she talked about his manhood. Saying, "What, do you need viagra? You're a pussy." And things of that nature. He said then he started responding sexually. But then he realized he was not about to cheat on his wife. He sent her a text saying, "F*** you, stop messaging me, I don't want to F*** you, and she outed him. I feel lost. I know I should be happy that nothing happened but I'm not. Just the fact that he would engage in that kind of conversation with someone other than me makes me sick! I would never hurt him like that, and especially not with someone basically in his family. I love and respect him enough to have recieved those kind of texts from and man and say, "NO, I love my husband, he is the only one I need to speak to sexually, or do anything with." But that he couldn't say that for me is devastating. I'm 9 months pregnant. We were so happy. (they were texting for about 3 weeks) This is our first child and he sees everything I have to go through to bring our child into this world. Why do this now? I consider myself a loving and understanding person to be with. I don't nag him. I don't argue at him for no reason. It makes me wonder. Did this happen to me because I have been too good to him? Or did he have an absentminded moment of selfishness and stupidy, that will never happen again, (as he says). We love each other so much and are best friends. Not to mention our sex life. Even though I am prenant, I try to satisfy him in every way, every time he wants me. The passion is inexplcable. I just wasn't expecting this. I keep trying to find ways to blame myself...I don't know what to do emotionally. Whenever I feel in the mood and want him, all I can think about is things that they texted each other. I need good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X30 Posted October 19, 2007 Share Posted October 19, 2007 No, it sounds like he was bieng stupid. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I cant tell you if he will or will not do this again. Have you asked him why he did it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TryingToHeal3 Posted October 19, 2007 Author Share Posted October 19, 2007 Thank you for your message. Yes, I have asked him. He said that he was so stupid for engaging in the sexual conversation. He just kept repeating how stupid he was for even talking like that to another woman, and that he would never betray me or our daughter again. He said that he would die if he lost us and he realized how stupid he was acting and that's why nothing materialized because she wanted to meet up and have sex, but he refused. The only reason I believe that is because he has the messages to prove it. Link to post Share on other sites
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