Oprah - show is on the OW today ...

[passionateconfusion]

Should be interesting ...

[TogetherForever]

Should be interesting ...

 

 

And of course I'm at work til 5 & my radio won't tune in to the channel she's on.

Bummer!!!!!

Will you fill me in???

Thanks,

TF

(And have a great weekend)

[liddie]

You can read the dialogue on Oprah.com and get most of what was said.

[liddie]

Holy cow....Oprah was a OW!!!

[TogetherForever]

Holy cow....Oprah was a OW!!!

 

 

OMG! Not Oprah.

 

I'm missin' it .

[Chrome Barracuda]

Saw it, and Im siting there watching it and all of these women are gorgeous especially rhe english chick, damn!!!!

 

And it's like they wasted alot of time for these little fantasies to come true and for what. I'm a dude and I could have told all of them, aint no man's gonna leave his home piece for his jump off!!!!

 

It's pathetic and sad. Believeing in lies and deception, nice way to go.

[Touche]

I watched it. Oprah said it was one of the few regrets she had in her life. She said it made her pathetic as a woman. And that she never blamed the MM because she always had the CHOICE.

 

Also, one of the women said she finally met the wife and was shocked because she was beautiful and poised. She said the MM painted a completely different picture of her. Oprah said of course...that none of the MM men are going to say that their wives are beautiful and treat them well and "I'm just using you." None of them are going to say THAT!

[sarme]

I watched it. Oprah said it was one of the few regrets she had in her life. She said it made her pathetic as a woman. And that she never blamed the MM because she always had the CHOICE.

 

Also, one of the women said she finally met the wife and was shocked because she was beautiful and poised. She said the MM painted a completely different picture of her. Oprah said of course...that none of the MM men are going to say that their wives are beautiful and treat them well and "I'm just using you." None of them are going to say THAT!

 

Yeah you also left out the other 55mins of the show.

 

Don't you ever get tired of trying to justify the BS? :laugh:

 

I met my b/f's ex wife she is a dog. sorry but she is so plain and ordinary looking he didn't lie about that at all, in fact he made her out to be better than she is, that was very nice of him.

[Touche]

Yeah you also left out the other 55mins of the show.

 

Don't you ever get tired of trying to justify the BS? :laugh:

 

I met my b/f's ex wife she is a dog. sorry but she is so plain and ordinary looking.

 

Whaaa? What are you talking about? I didn't recap the whole show, just what I thought were the highlights since some people asked.

 

What do you mean "justify the BS?" I'm sorry I have NO idea what you're talking about. How am I "justifying" anything by just reporting what was contained in the show.

 

And what does your b/f's ex have to do with anything?

 

And isn't he lucky to have you then. You sound like a real prize smarme.

[Meaplus3]

Holy cow....Oprah was a OW!!!

 

OH MY! Oprah an OW?? I did not see the show, gosh I bet it was interesting! Did she cheat on steadman??

 

AP:)

[TogetherForever]

Dr. Callahan says many men cheat because they want to escape reality and play out their sexual fantasies. To keep men from straying, Dr. Callahan says there are a few things women can do at home.

 

Start by taking care of yourself, being sexually open and synching communication styles with your partner. Also, couples should keep dating, even after they're married.

 

"Don't get so comfortable and so settled that you forget to go out and forget to go to the movies, go to dinner and get dressed up," Dr. Callahan says. "Don't just go in your baggy pants and the flip-flops. Dress up like you would on any other date. Remember, it's the other woman who is out on a date giggling and saying, 'Oh, you're so funny. You're so cute.'"

[Touche]

OH MY! Oprah an OW?? I did not see the show, gosh I bet it was interesting! Did she cheat on steadman??

 

AP:)

 

No this was when she was in her 20's...before Steadman.

[Meaplus3]

No this was when she was in her 20's...before Steadman.

 

Oh Good! I like Steadman. I just went to Oprah.com and read today's show. Wow! The mm who cheated where not even that good looking. The woman were so/so IMO but not anything like I would imagine they would be. I thought it was interesting that some had a pa and other's had an ea or several ea's.

 

AP:)

[SoxPrincess]

I thought the show was very interesting. For those of who didn't watch at the beginning of the show there was a panel of 4 women, I believe all were xOWs with the exception of one lady who was still the OW after 6 1/2 years. I can't recall if the English lady was still in an A, they didn't talk to her much so it may have been 2 exOWs and 2 current OWs. Both of the xOWs expressed quite a bit of remorse (which is quite different than regret) and I thought it was very interesting (and brave!) of them to discuss their issues. One of the exOWs was and still is married and I think the other one was single. The lady who was married fully reconciled with her husband and says her marriage is much better now, not because she had an affair but because of the discussions that came out of the affair.

 

The lady who was still in a relationship with an MM, Michelle, was quite a piece of work. She said she knew affairs were wrong but that it wasn't going to prevent her from staying in the A. She said she hopes to marry her MM someday, but in the back of her mind she knows that isn't going to happen and she is fine with that as well. Oprah asked her if she was happy and she swore she was and didn't seem affected at all when the psychologist asked her how she would feel if she met a single man in a bar who said "I can only see you 30% of the time & give you 30% of my love". IMHO, she was a typical OW (much like I was) and was very, very deep in the fog.

 

The last segment focused on 3 women who were BS'. All of them were divorced and the last lady sued the OW for alienation of affection and was awarded $500,000, however, the case was going to be appealed, so she decided to settle for $50,000 instead. I didn't think any of the BS' sounded bitter but you could clearly hear & see the hurt in all of them.

[LucreziaBorgia]

"Don't get so comfortable and so settled that you forget to go out and forget to go to the movies, go to dinner and get dressed up," Dr. Callahan says. "Don't just go in your baggy pants and the flip-flops. Dress up like you would on any other date. Remember, it's the other woman who is out on a date giggling and saying, 'Oh, you're so funny. You're so cute.'"

 

Their advice reminds me of that one old song called "Wives and Lovers":

 

Hey! Little Girl

Comb your hair, fix your makeup

Soon he will open the door

Don't think because there's a ring on your finger

You needn't try anymore

 

For wives should always be lovers too

Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you

I'm warning you...

 

Day after day

There are girls at the office

And men will always be men

Don't send him off with your hair still in curlers

You may not see him again

 

For wives should always be lovers too

Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you

He's almost here...

 

Hey! Little girl

Better wear something pretty

Something you'd wear to go to the city and

Dim all the lights, pour the wine, start the music

Time to get ready for love

Time to get ready

Time to get ready for love

[Meaplus3]

Their advice reminds me of that one old song called "Wives and Lovers":

 

Hey! Little Girl

Comb your hair, fix your makeup

Soon he will open the door

Don't think because there's a ring on your finger

You needn't try anymore

 

For wives should always be lovers too

Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you

I'm warning you...

 

Day after day

There are girls at the office

And men will always be men

Don't send him off with your hair still in curlers

You may not see him again

 

For wives should always be lovers too

Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you

He's almost here...

 

Hey! Little girl

Better wear something pretty

Something you'd wear to go to the city and

Dim all the lights, pour the wine, start the music

Time to get ready for love

Time to get ready

Time to get ready for love

 

LB, I very much agree! Although I think it's a good thing to want to look good for your spouse.

 

AP:)

[OWoman]

Bizarre. i took a look at the slides, and the related link to the "seven cheating husbands" one. Every cliche in the book. Svelte, sleek OW. Fat, dowdy BW. Pretty ordinary, no-great-catch, MM. Like a cheap freak show - do people actually watch that rubbish? I thought Oprah was supposed to be the class act, and Jerry Springer the low-end. And all sugar-coated in pop psychology and marketing hype. "I suffered, but read my book!" And why so disproportionately many black men as "cheaters" - is there a racial stereotyping subtext?

 

Thanks, whoever started this thread [that would be PC]- it was certainly enlightening!

[Woggle]

Oprah and Jerry Springer are both the low end but at least Jerry admits his show is trash. Oprah also has a vendetta against black men. It is obvious in the way that she will have white supremacists, rapists and wife beaters on her show but she wouln't debate any rappers.

 

As for OW they are old enough to know what they are getting into so any hurt and pain they receive as a result is their fault but the number one culprit in all of it is the MM.

[Lizzie60]

Bizarre. i took a look at the slides, and the related link to the "seven cheating husbands" one. Every cliche in the book. Svelte, sleek OW. Fat, dowdy BW. Pretty ordinary, no-great-catch, MM. Like a cheap freak show - do people actually watch that rubbish? I thought Oprah was supposed to be the class act, and Jerry Springer the low-end. And all sugar-coated in pop psychology and marketing hype. "I suffered, but read my book!" And why so disproportionately many black men as "cheaters" - is there a racial stereotyping subtext?

 

Thanks, whoever started this thread [that would be PC]- it was certainly enlightening!

 

It's all staged... and the 'characters' are chosen carefully... I can't stand Oprah anymore... same with Dr. Phil... they have both become very 'Springery' and I can't stand that.

 

It seems now that, those shows are about 'bitching' and that's what people want...

 

I've seen that in every shows... The Bachelor... America's Top Models, etc. Hell's Kitchen... and so many others... all reality shows now are 'bi tch fest'... arrrggghhhh

 

I guess Springer was the instigator of those shows... and he was right.. that's what's selling...

[bish]

Saw it, and Im siting there watching it and all of these women are gorgeous especially rhe english chick, damn!!!!

 

And it's like they wasted alot of time for these little fantasies to come true and for what. I'm a dude and I could have told all of them, aint no man's gonna leave his home piece for his jump off!!!!

 

It's pathetic and sad. Believeing in lies and deception, nice way to go.

 

I think they should have gave the audience rotten tomatoes to hurl onstage.

[bunset]

I'd say that every woman on the stage had been taken in by 'their' man, and allowed him to 'play' them.

But I noticed that the MW are all divorced. They all got 'dumped' by the H. So did their H marry the OW after their D?

So one managed to sue an OW for alienation of affection. You DO know that in civil cases the burden of proof lies with the defendant, not at all an 'innocent until proven guilty' system.

It has been demonstrated that the US tort system is warped. Juries are often hell-bent on placing blame and outlandish awards, as if it's a lottery. Because we have been taught for many years that you do not have to be held accountable for your own situation. There's always someone else you can blame for your problems.

[Chrome Barracuda]

I think they should have gave the audience rotten tomatoes to hurl onstage.

 

Naw it aint even that serious, we all saw how pathetic they were. And its sad because they reduce themselves to be part time lovers. They feel enthralled with being the other women and then cry when the dream doesnt come true!!!

 

A man will not outright leave his wife for the jump off!!! Especially if it's good at home, all the OW is a hole in the wall that boosts that man's ego!

 

I feel sorry for them, one of the women was now happily married. I wonder what happens when karma comes knocking on her door, will she forgive her husband or will she accept it because that is what she reaped. and thus she will sow.

 

I know alot of females on here get alot of flack but let's be honest affairs are wrong, being the OW is wrong. You deserve better. You make your own hells and wonder why you cant move on? Wtf?

[sarme]

Whaaa? What are you talking about? I didn't recap the whole show, just what I thought were the highlights since some people asked.

 

What do you mean "justify the BS?" I'm sorry I have NO idea what you're talking about. How am I "justifying" anything by just reporting what was contained in the show.

 

And what does your b/f's ex have to do with anything?

 

And isn't he lucky to have you then. You sound like a real prize smarme.

 

What my b/f's ex has to do with anything, is that you said none of the married men will say to the OW that their W's are beautiful and treat them well and they are just using the OW. In your fantasy world that is exactly how all BS are,but the reality is that some BS are just not like that. Case in point, my b/f's exW was exactly what he described, not very attractive, sort of fat and very dry personality. That is exactly what she is like. So for a known liarhe sure told the truth on that one.

[sarme]

Naw it aint even that serious, we all saw how pathetic they were. And its sad because they reduce themselves to be part time lovers. They feel enthralled with being the other women and then cry when the dream doesnt come true!!!

 

A man will not outright leave his wife for the jump off!!! Especially if it's good at home, all the OW is a hole in the wall that boosts that man's ego!

 

I feel sorry for them, one of the women was now happily married. I wonder what happens when karma comes knocking on her door, will she forgive her husband or will she accept it because that is what she reaped. and thus she will sow.

 

I know alot of females on here get alot of flack but let's be honest affairs are wrong, being the OW is wrong. You deserve better. You make your own hells and wonder why you cant move on? Wtf?

 

My man left his W to be with me and we are not together. What's your point again? What is wrong to you is not wrong to everyone. My affair was wrong but I knew it was the right to do in my heart. I followed my gut instinct and it panned out. I may be the minority but it panned out and he delivered what he promised. Not every case is the same.

[reboot]

my b/f's exW was exactly what he described, not very attractive, sort of fat and very dry personality.

And so she got this way AFTER he married her, giving him an excuse to trade her for someone prettier?

 

Or she was that way before and he was just marking time waiting for someone prettier to come along?

 

I'm often amazed at the shallow comments made here. Just because someone is "not very attractive" (which is a matter of opinion anyway) doesn't mean they're a bad person and don't deserve any happiness.

 

And yes, that's how you made it sound.