Oprah - show is on the OW today ...

[Incognitox]

I'm glad to say that my ex's wife is very beautiful. Men tend to go for the same type of woman, I've noticed.

[norajane]

I'd say that every woman on the stage had been taken in by 'their' man, and allowed him to 'play' them.

 

Except for the OW who started seeing her MM when he wasn't even married at the time (he was with a long term gf), and then got married at some point during the affair.

 

How was she taken in? 'I love you, but I'm going to marry another woman and we can carry on an affair until I divorce her?" What a loser guy. I feel sorry for all of them.

[OpenBook]

I'm glad to say that my ex's wife is very beautiful. Men tend to go for the same type of woman, I've noticed.

 

:D:D Excellent point, Incog!!

[Lizzie60]

Naw it aint even that serious, we all saw how pathetic they were. And its sad because they reduce themselves to be part time lovers. They feel enthralled with being the other women and then cry when the dream doesnt come true!!!

 

A man will not outright leave his wife for the jump off!!! Especially if it's good at home, all the OW is a hole in the wall that boosts that man's ego!

 

I feel sorry for them, one of the women was now happily married. I wonder what happens when karma comes knocking on her door, will she forgive her husband or will she accept it because that is what she reaped. and thus she will sow.

 

I know alot of females on here get alot of flack but let's be honest affairs are wrong, being the OW is wrong. You deserve better. You make your own hells and wonder why you cant move on? Wtf?

 

Dr. Phil, Oprah.. all these shows are staged... and they choose the 'characters' to be on the show.. they (Phil or Oprah) will give it any 'turn' they want it to be... if they want the OW to look bad... nothing is easier for them... just script it to make them look bad.. simple..

 

They are NOT 'neutral'... that's what I hate about those shows.

 

A lot of men DO leave their wife to be with the OW... and if it was that good at home.. they wouldn't be out there having sex with other women.. right?

 

It makes me smile when I hear 'karma' who on earth can say that karma exists.. this is baloney...

 

Who are you to say we deserve better? We have the best.. LOL

 

And for your information, eventhough I know some OW are unhappy with their MM... not all OW are desperate and hurting... I am very happy with the relationship I have.. this is exactly what both of us want.. and I'm not the only one here... that is very happy with what I've got.

[sarme]

And so she got this way AFTER he married her, giving him an excuse to trade her for someone prettier?

 

Or she was that way before and he was just marking time waiting for someone prettier to come along?

 

I'm often amazed at the shallow comments made here. Just because someone is "not very attractive" (which is a matter of opinion anyway) doesn't mean they're a bad person and don't deserve any happiness.

 

And yes, that's how you made it sound.

 

No actually that's how you interpreted it. My comment as shallow as it comes across was in reference to Touche's comment about how ALL married men lie to their OW about how unattractive their Ws are an how mean they are etc. So all I said was that the negative things my partner said about his exW were exactly as he said they were so no, not all married me exaggerate their homelife. Some are simply telling it like it is. My man had no reason to tell me these things he was already in my pants and knew I was going nowhere so he had no reason to entice me with lies. He just confided in me the things he felt were wrong with the picture, but just as so he also made a lot of positive comments about his W at the time all in all he seemed pretty honest about all the things he said about his marriage and exwife. Was she like that after she got married? she was always like that but she let herself go even more after marriage and she just started to focus on her interests and not at all in being a wife. She chose her own things over keeping a man and marriage, she quit her duties as a wife, friend partner and lover pretty much the day after they married so there is no excuse. Yes he settled for her he never knew the whole thing could exist and that was wrong of him to settle but people do that all the time thinking life will not get any better, and then it does. If she had done everything right in the marriage but was not super attractive that doesn't matter to me that is no excuse to leave a partner or to fall out of love, but she quit her duties as spouse pretty much once she had him and on top of that she quit her duties as a woman to be femenine and attractive, sorry but there is no excuse she didn't even have children. no excuse.

[blowingthetrout]

Oh yeah, Oprah, she's totally old and stuff!

[sarme]

I'm glad to say that my ex's wife is very beautiful. Men tend to go for the same type of woman, I've noticed.

 

Well then my man is not a typical man because I am absolutely nothing like his ex W. Perhaps that's why he actually left his wife to be with me and the other men who choose OW almost the same as their wives have such a hard time leaving the wife, the two women are simply too alike.

[Lizzie60]

I'm glad to say that my ex's wife is very beautiful. Men tend to go for the same type of woman, I've noticed.

 

They HAVE to go for better... either it is physical, intellectual or emotional... they have to upgrade...

 

I truly DO NOT believe that a guy with a beautiful wife, who is great in bed, and extremely smart... would go for a sloppy, ugly twit...

 

I know a few of my MM's wife... I can honestly say that I look better...

 

one of them I've never seen... but my MM swears she is beautiful... I believe him cause he is very good looking himself... but she is not too sexual... and she's only 33... the sex life is boring with her.. so he's looking outside for excitement...

 

So I would think that MOST MMs upgrade...

[sarme]

They HAVE to go for better... either it is physical, intellectual or emotional... they have to upgrade...

 

I truly DO NOT believe that a guy with a beautiful wife, who is great in bed, and extremely smart... would go for a sloppy, ugly twit...

 

I know a few of my MM's wife... I can honestly say that I look better...

 

one of them I've never seen... but my MM swears she is beautiful... I believe him cause he is very good looking himself... but she is not too sexual... and she's only 33... the sex life is boring with her.. so he's looking outside for excitement...

 

So I would think that MOST MMs upgrade...

 

Exactly women are a dime a dozen, and ones who will pay attention to a married man are also a dime a dozen, all these BS fool themselves that only certain women will pay attention to married men, not at all. All sorts of women pay attention to married men, most often than not the types of women who end up in affairs with them are not ones that were deperate enough to pay attention to a married man but more than likely she was chosen by the married man. Men choose from all the women out there who they want to engage in an affair with, and he is not going to go through all the hassle of giving up all they have at home for just any woman. Well some men do some men are just desperate for attention and any woman will do, but we all know who the quality men are. Quality men, even though they are cheating are still selective and they won't just get involved with the first woman who crosses their path. they usually pick the type of woman who offers something very different from what they can already get at home.Unless of course it is just about sex a quickie than any woman will do/ But even men who are looking for just sex will not go back to have repeated sex with a woman who doesn't drive him wild to begin with.

[Chrome Barracuda]

My man left his W to be with me and we are not together. What's your point again? What is wrong to you is not wrong to everyone. My affair was wrong but I knew it was the right to do in my heart. I followed my gut instinct and it panned out. I may be the minority but it panned out and he delivered what he promised. Not every case is the same.

 

Ok so he left his wife to be with you and after all of that you guys are not together. All that lying and deception and adultery all for what??? For nothing!

 

You even said it yourself it was wrong and yet you "Followed your heart" and still did it! That's like me saying Oh I didnt mean to kill that man but I followed my heart and did it anyway's knowing it was wrong.

 

Your right not every case is the same but let's be clear, All that wrong for nothing. You were wrong, period. For even messing with a married man what possesed you to even continue. What would have happened if his wife showed up at your house with a gun, then what? Could you honestly say that you didnt deserve it, or her anger wasnt warrented.

 

I tell all these OW that you do not understand consequences to your actions but where I'm from alot of people often take the law into their ow hands, and trust me it aint so nice.

 

Where's the OM now? Didnt you stay together after all of that? Or maybe he cheated on you too?

[sarme]

Ok so he left his wife to be with you and after all of that you guys are not together. All that lying and deception and adultery all for what??? For nothing!

[Chrome Barracuda]

Dr. Phil, Oprah.. all these shows are staged... and they choose the 'characters' to be on the show.. they (Phil or Oprah) will give it any 'turn' they want it to be... if they want the OW to look bad... nothing is easier for them... just script it to make them look bad.. simple..

 

They are NOT 'neutral'... that's what I hate about those shows.

 

A lot of men DO leave their wife to be with the OW... and if it was that good at home.. they wouldn't be out there having sex with other women.. right?

 

It makes me smile when I hear 'karma' who on earth can say that karma exists.. this is baloney...

 

Who are you to say we deserve better? We have the best.. LOL

 

And for your information, eventhough I know some OW are unhappy with their MM... not all OW are desperate and hurting... I am very happy with the relationship I have.. this is exactly what both of us want.. and I'm not the only one here... that is very happy with what I've got.

 

That's not all true, alot of men have good women at home and happy families and some men are just greedy and there are women like you who are emotionally and mentally conned into believing the dribble that comes out of a MM's mouth.

 

Cheating is not an aspect of a bad home, Cheating is an aspect of that flawed individual!!!

 

If you are happy with the crubms that the man is giving you, then so be it!

[sarme]

Ok so he left his wife to be with you and after all of that you guys are not together. All that lying and deception and adultery all for what??? For nothing!

 

You even said it yourself it was wrong and yet you "Followed your heart" and still did it! That's like me saying Oh I didnt mean to kill that man but I followed my heart and did it anyway's knowing it was wrong.

 

Your right not every case is the same but let's be clear, All that wrong for nothing. You were wrong, period. For even messing with a married man what possesed you to even continue. What would have happened if his wife showed up at your house with a gun, then what? Could you honestly say that you didnt deserve it, or her anger wasnt warrented.

 

I tell all these OW that you do not understand consequences to your actions but where I'm from alot of people often take the law into their ow hands, and trust me it aint so nice.

 

Where's the OM now? Didnt you stay together after all of that? Or maybe he cheated on you too?

 

Not sure what happened there in my last post but the answer didn't show up. What are you talking about we are not together!?!? WE ARE together have been for a year and head over heels in love. I am not with him right this minute but we are 100% together. So it was well worth it.Go ahead and find something else wrong now, as I am sure you will...

[sarme]

That's not all true, alot of men have good women at home and happy families and some men are just greedy and there are women like you who are emotionally and mentally conned into believing the dribble that comes out of a MM's mouth.

 

Cheating is not an aspect of a bad home, Cheating is an aspect of that flawed individual!!!

 

If you are happy with the crubms that the man is giving you, then so be it!

 

You are wrong in some instances cheating is the product of a bad union, yes the indivual may be flawed in that they are settling for someone that makes them unhappy but then again point out to me one individual that is not flawed?

[reboot]

My man left his W to be with me and we are not together. What's your point again? What is wrong to you is not wrong to everyone. My affair was wrong but I knew it was the right to do in my heart. I followed my gut instinct and it panned out. I may be the minority but it panned out and he delivered what he promised. Not every case is the same.

I'm sure that's what he's talking about.

[OpenBook]

You even said it yourself it was wrong and yet you "Followed your heart" and still did it! That's like me saying Oh I didnt mean to kill that man but I followed my heart and did it anyway's knowing it was wrong.

 

First of all, Sarme didn't kill anyone, so the comparison is ludicrous.

 

Second of all, if that man I killed was in the process of attacking my child or myself or any member of my family, then you are damn straight I would follow my heart. No question.

[sarme]

I'm sure that's what he's talking about.

 

Oh I am so sorry CB and Reboot thanks for pointing that out no wonder you all got your backs up! lol What I meant to say was that we are now together not not together.

[Lizzie60]

That's not all true, alot of men have good women at home and happy families and some men are just greedy and there are women like you who are emotionally and mentally conned into believing the dribble that comes out of a MM's mouth.

 

Cheating is not an aspect of a bad home, Cheating is an aspect of that flawed individual!!!

 

If you are happy with the crubms that the man is giving you, then so be it!

 

I never said that all wives are not good women.. most are... but if the MM goes outside, something has to be wrong..

 

Cheating is not an aspect of a bad home... I totally agree... but something is wrong... somewhere.

 

You don't beleive in cheating.. so we'll never agree.. then I will just agree to disagree... simple...

 

I won't make you change your mind...and you won't make me change mine...

 

I think it's the wife that live with the crumbs not me... because when I see my MMs, they are always great and sooo nice. I don't have to live with the lies, the deception, all the work that a M involves... but to each our own.. I guess.

[sarme]

First of all, Sarme didn't kill anyone, so the comparison is ludicrous.

 

Second of all, if that man I killed was in the process of attacking my child or myself or any member of my family, then you are damn straight I would follow my heart. No question.

 

Jesus! I know to even make that same comparisson...gimme a break. I just got together with a man who was no longer happy in a faile marriage, so sue me!

[Chrome Barracuda]

You are wrong in some instances cheating is the product of a bad union, yes the indivual may be flawed in that they are settling for someone that makes them unhappy but then again point out to me one individual that is not flawed?

 

 

That's a load of crap!!!!!

 

A flawed individual sets the pace for the marriage!!!!

 

The marriage could be good but it's alays one person's problems or past baggage that ruins it!!!!

 

A bad union only happens if you let it.

 

A person doesnt make you unhappy, stop trying to justify it!!!! Happiness comes from within!!! first and foremost if you are happy in yourself then your marriage could be happy.

 

You already go into your relationship with an asterisk next to it!

 

When people ask you how you met your boyfriend, do you tell them the honest truth or do you lie by omission and tell them oh he was seperated, his wife was doing her job, blah,blah.

 

Or do you tell them the truth, that your his mistress and he left his wife to be with you!!!! Do you honestly think that if they heard that they would accept that???

 

Do you honestly think that your married man wont cheat on you if you fall asleep at the wheel? Do you stay in constant fear of that day when it does happen? Do you think it will happen?

 

I mean damn he cheated on his wife , the one he made vows to, promised to love and hold forever!!!!

 

What makes you think that if you ever marry he wont do it to you?

[Chrome Barracuda]

First of all, Sarme didn't kill anyone, so the comparison is ludicrous.

 

Second of all, if that man I killed was in the process of attacking my child or myself or any member of my family, then you are damn straight I would follow my heart. No question.

 

But killing is what serial killers do and yet it's that compulsion that drives them to do it. It's the same lines that drive a person to serial cheat, it's the compulsion that drives them!

[Chrome Barracuda]

And your right we'll never agree. but one things for certain when he does cheat on you, dont come crying on the board like a lot of ex-jump offs.

[MrsHellnoFire]

They HAVE to go for better... either it is physical, intellectual or emotional... they have to upgrade...

 

I truly DO NOT believe that a guy with a beautiful wife, who is great in bed, and extremely smart... would go for a sloppy, ugly twit...

 

I know a few of my MM's wife... I can honestly say that I look better...

 

one of them I've never seen... but my MM swears she is beautiful... I believe him cause he is very good looking himself... but she is not too sexual... and she's only 33... the sex life is boring with her.. so he's looking outside for excitement...

 

So I would think that MOST MMs upgrade...

 

Why does this not sound shocking coming from you? Maybe cause it's from an arrogant serial OW!

[reboot]

What I meant to say was that we are now together not not together.

I knew that.

[Lizzie60]

What makes you think that if you ever marry he wont do it to you?

 

I know because it happened to me... I was the OW (11 years) to my first ex... we then lived common-law 18 years.. and I can almost swear that he never cheated.. but then no one can never be sure 100%... but I am 99% sure he never did...

 

He was devastated when I left.. he lost 65 lbs... he was about 180... so he just wanted to die..

 

I know other couple as well.. who have been together forever after they got together.... Of course they can cheat on the OW... just as the OW can cheat on them... there is NEVER ANY guarantee...