what's the deal???

[james]

I met this girl a few years ago. we have been friends. she bought an old house and asked me to help her fix it up, a year and a half ago. since then we became more than friends. I spent a year some money and a lot of time and hard work on the pretense of what she was telling me "i love you"... right before she moved in to the house I asked her if we would still be seeing each other after she moved in, I had a funny feeling... well she moves in and i don't hear from her any more...so what's the deal with some one telling you that they love you and sleeping with you and then finding out it's all B.S.

[Cecilie]

That happens sometimes. I was talking to a friend yesterday who was complaining about a guy she'd been dating who just stopped calling her. There's no way you can understand what the other person was thinking to do this to you unless you call her and confront her. try not to be overly aggressive, just calmly ask for an explanation, because that is what you deserve. After understanding why she did this to you, you might have some closure and it will be easier to cope.

[james]

That happens sometimes. I was talking to a friend yesterday who was complaining about a guy she'd been dating who just stopped calling her. There's no way you can understand what the other person was thinking to do this to you unless you call her and confront her. try not to be overly aggressive, just calmly ask for an explanation, because that is what you deserve. After understanding why she did this to you, you might have some closure and it will be easier to cope. yes, cecilie

[Cecilie]

I don't think you were being a fool. You were trusting. And you shouldn't let this force you to become untrusting. I think a lot of times people don't realise that nowadays, many women are adopting what was previously understood to be the "male attitude" towards sex. The idea that women become more emotionally bonded after sex is a misconcpetion based on assumptions from quite a few years ago, although it does have some biochemical basis.

 

Also, some people can say those words "I love you" very easily without truly meaning it in their hearts. You're definately better off without someone as fickle as that...